I don't want to wait but husband does. AIBU?

[RoseRuby26]

I'm 30 and married. Tried for baby last month with no success. Husband now wants to wait for 6 months as he doesn't want a child born in the lower half of the academic year group. He says studies show they underperform in school.

I don't want to wait as you can't predict when you'll fall pregnant and we'd like 3 children so why wait when my fertility is declining year on year. Also the studies only show academic success not life long success. Who knows what our child will be like.

Also relevant is the fact that he wants to move house and I'd rather not but I've said I will because it's what he wants. I feel he should compromise as I have. AIBU?

Rugby has a lot to do with physique. So doesn't always follow.
My ds (Aug boy) whilst not as tall as some yet is very strong and broad with enormous feet. So it Looks like he'll take after his dad who is 6' 4" and v broad shouldered.
Yes stats can show that September babiescdo better initially, I'm not sure how robust the study is.
Personally I think it is somewhat to do with self esteem and comparison - particularly unconscious bias. If you perceive that you are not doing as well as others then that is what is likely to happen.

It's so interesting reading your replies. Obviously a lot of successful summer borns (obviously) and it's really interesting to hear the pros and cons of different birth months. Especially for a teacher e.g. Sep/Oct good for starting back and paid summer hols, yet Spring/Summer good as I'll have DH with me while baby is young in summer hols. Really shows that there's no perfect / imperfect time.

You'll be pleased to hear that husband has listened to me (us) and has reconsidered his point of view. We will continue to TTC perhaps avoiding just August birth date but that's a while away so fingers crossed it happens before then. Thanks so much for your input.

It's a load of rubbish really, I was born late June and was the top of the class at primary school. The only other that could 'compete' was born early September.

I think eventually children catch up and it evens out, the more you play, read and interact with them helps to close the gap

You'll be pleased to hear that husband has listened to me (us) and has reconsidered his point of view.

That's great news, RoseRuby. For those of us who had trouble conceiving, the idea of intentionally waiting for a "better" time is just crazy. Just hope for healthy and soon.

Good luck to you and DH.

Thank you @missconductus :)