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AIBU Furious SIL asked me to leave BBQ because of impetigo

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ohheytheregentleelephant · 27/05/2018 18:56

I am so embarrassed and angry. Bank holiday weekend bbq is big deal in my family every year - we all make different dishes to take, there's bouncy castle and games and a cocktail bar.

I've got impetigo. I told DM and DF this - it's their bbq - and they didn't seem bothered so I made the dishes I'd been asked to make and turned up for the bbq today.

SIL went mad when she realised I have impetigo and wouldn't let them put the dishes I made out and basically caused a scene in front of my parents and dbro and my dp insisting that I leave. Luckily before all the other guests arrived or that would have been even more embarrassing. She wasn't shouting or anything but she made me feel like a right idiot.

In the end I did leave - with the food I had spent ages making! What a waste. And had to miss out on the day that I'd been looking forward to for ages. It's not even that contagious!

OP posts:
smartiecake · 27/05/2018 19:01

It is highly contagious OP. I would not have wanted you there either and not the food you prepared. You could have infected people.

AgentProvocateur · 27/05/2018 19:02

You’re in the wrong for going with something so contagious. You should have given it a miss. No one wants to catch impetigo

PositivelyPERF · 27/05/2018 19:02

Boak! I’d be fucking furious if I can just fed food to my child, that had been prepared with such a contagious infection. I think you’re lucky you got off so lightly. It may not be serious to most people, but a child is likely spread it over their body. Why would you think that’s acceptable?

MiddleClassProblem · 27/05/2018 19:02

Is this one going to be a fake reverse too?

user1483387154 · 27/05/2018 19:02

Yabu . You should not have gone knowing you have something so contagious

theboud · 27/05/2018 19:03

Is this a reverse?

SensoryOverlord · 27/05/2018 19:03

Another tiresome reverse.

DiddimusStench · 27/05/2018 19:03

Impetigo is really contagious actually...
Potentially dangerous too.

Are you being treated with antibiotics? You’re usually ok to go back to work/school if you’ve had 48 hours worth of treatment.

ReanimatedMuse · 27/05/2018 19:03

I think you sil was right I'm afraid.

Original poster
ohheytheregentleelephant · 27/05/2018 19:03

@rjnomore1 calm down, nobody actually ate it if you read my post.

@ilovesooty erm I was invited.

OP posts:
mimibunz · 27/05/2018 19:04

Holy cow! Two chicken pox threads and now impetigo. Wtaf is wrong with people?!

ShutUpBaz · 27/05/2018 19:04

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EsmeeMerlin · 27/05/2018 19:04

YABU it’s very contagious and you should not be around children or preparing food. Your sil May have gone about it the right way but she was absolutely right to point out you should have been at home not at a family bbq when you risked everyone else getting it. Your parents should have been thinking of their other guests and told you to stay home.

Ginnotginger · 27/05/2018 19:04

Nhs website states that it is very contagious.

kyrenialady · 27/05/2018 19:05

Ewww I don’t think I would have ate anything you made. My dd had it and she wasn’t allowed to school.

tillytoodles1 · 27/05/2018 19:05

I had impetigo as a child and had a whole term off school because it's so contagious. What is it with people ( see chickenpox thread) that they don't give a fuck about other people!

angelopal · 27/05/2018 19:05

The doctor told me it was highly contagious.

Ginnotginger · 27/05/2018 19:05

Cross post

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered · 27/05/2018 19:05

Shock YABU! The NHS website explicitly states not to prepare food for others if you have it and not to go to work. Your SIL is correct, I'd be furious if you'd infected me and I had to miss work or passed it on to baby DS.

ilovesooty · 27/05/2018 19:05

Yes you were invited. You didn't have to turn up and put people at risk.

Atalune · 27/05/2018 19:05

You’re an idiot.

SIL handle it badly but you’re definitely in the wrong. Shame on you.

octoberbundle · 27/05/2018 19:06

Sorry but SIL was right. My son has had several bouts of this and it is horrible. It's also highly contagious and you need to stay away from people much like chicken pox. Sorry but you really should have read up on this before going to a party, it isn't fair on other guests. Hope you recover soon x

robotcartrainhat · 27/05/2018 19:06

I dont think you should have gone. You wouldnt go into work with this. It is very contagious and can be dangerous to people with immune system problems/babies etc

Ginormoustrawberry · 27/05/2018 19:06

@ilovesooty erm I was invited

Is anyone really this stupid?

Don’t you have GCSE’s to be revising for?

MimpiDreams · 27/05/2018 19:06

YABU Your SIL was right. Utterly minging to expose others unnecessarily to your infection.