AIBU Furious SIL asked me to leave BBQ because of impetigo

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I am so embarrassed and angry. Bank holiday weekend bbq is big deal in my family every year - we all make different dishes to take, there's bouncy castle and games and a cocktail bar.

I've got impetigo. I told DM and DF this - it's their bbq - and they didn't seem bothered so I made the dishes I'd been asked to make and turned up for the bbq today.

SIL went mad when she realised I have impetigo and wouldn't let them put the dishes I made out and basically caused a scene in front of my parents and dbro and my dp insisting that I leave. Luckily before all the other guests arrived or that would have been even more embarrassing. She wasn't shouting or anything but she made me feel like a right idiot.

In the end I did leave - with the food I had spent ages making! What a waste. And had to miss out on the day that I'd been looking forward to for ages. It's not even that contagious!

My DS had it and was on antibiotics after getting it. He wasn’t allowed back at nursery until 2 days after he started the course.
Are you on antibiotics?
Although tbh I wouldn’t have been happy eating food you prepared.
Your SIL was rude though.

Unless your parents are medical professionals, their opinion isn't relevant.

Your sil was right and seems to have handled it well.

Also not having it on your hands is irrelevant too.

The sheer audacity of your SIL!

No, really, I know common sense doesn't grace everyone but honestly did you read back what you just wrote?

Contagious or not, I’m not entirely sure why you’d want to go to a bbq with a skin disorder? I’d be fucking mortified

Hahaha dh is a nurse he’s was like 😱to think you could rock up to a event it’s contagious like chicken pox contagious 😷

In what way do people think the SIL was rude?

I don't think the SIL was rude either.
You felt embarrassed because deep down you knew she was right and you'd been irresponsible to turn up to the BBQ and expect people to eat food you'd prepared.

My DS just had impetigo. It stops being contagious after you’ve been taking antibiotics for 24hours. Had you been taking antibiotics for more than 24 hours op?

yabu

OP after myself and others queried whether you were a teenager you said you aren’t and quoted other posts.

You may not be an actual teenager but your selfish, arrogant behaviour is definitely portraying some of the worst character traits of many teenagers. In short you may be an adult but you are acting like a self centered child. Even if your sil let rip I still don’t think she wbu. No way would any of my family eat what you’d made. You should not have gone in the first place- end of story.

Anyone else waiting for the AIBU:

"I've got leprosy, plague, multi-resistant TB, and haemorrhagic fever. I went to my sister's wedding today, and she yelled at me for infecting everybody she knows. AIBU to be upset at her? Of course I went, I've got the dress!"

nocoolnamesleft. 😂

It’s very contagious to begin with but once you’ve been on treatment for 48hrs it’s not. That’s from the nhs website.

Even if you don’t get treatment, it’s not contagious once it’s crusted over.

One of mine had it and none of us caught it as he started on the antibiotic cream straight away.

I think she overreacted op but mn will make you feel like you have the plague.

What the HELL were you thinking? It is an infection and it is highly contagious like pink eye / conjuctivitis. I would have thrown you and your food out too tbh.

Well done to your SIL for speaking up. Just because your parents thought you being in close contact with all the family with a contagious infection was ok doesn’t mean it was he right call. I would have thrown the food away too.

You shouldn’t have gone.

Do your parents even know what impetigo is?

You obviously knew shouldn't be going hence you asking them.

SIL may have been 'right' but that doesn't excuse the way she handled it.
She could have made her point inba more discreet and sensitive manner, instead of being rude and embarrassing op.

People are saying it's not contagious after x amount of time, yet someone else has said there's didn't clear up because they kept re-infecting.

Surely it's better to be safe than sorry. Especially where the health of others is concerned.

"I did check - I checked with my parents who were hosting and they didn't seem to think it was a problem - "

And they can speak for all other family members? They actually understood what it is?

You didn;t even e mail in advance, a la other 'infectious guest' thread.

Actually, I suspect that you might be my SIL.

Except she hasn't got another SIL so you can't be.

Its something that is caused by skin that is already damaged; a lot of people who get it keep getting it over and over again. The sil was spot on about how awful it is, especially for kids who keep getting knocks and scrapes.

As unfair as it always seems to have to miss a big occasion, you should have been more responsible here OP. I would have been furious with you.

Ffs. See this is why I don’t eat food other people have made. People are stupid and selfish. Boke!!!

YABU it is highly contagious but you shouldn’t take it personally x

Surely when you have such a thing you understand the risk to others and don't try to attend events on the sly.