Whats you opinion of "stay at home wives"

[strawberryperogi]

After reading another thread about SAHMs I am curious about what people would say about SAHWs, I know you will all say it should just be unemployed but if the person isn't looking for a job then are they really in that catagory?

Could you respect or be friends with a woman who didn't work and earn or at least look after her children?

Just curious!

Ok, so all these people saying it's nosy and judgemental to debate people's life choices, do you feel the same about everything or just this topic? Do you apply that logic to people who e.g. regularly smoke weed, live off-grid and grow all their own food, travel the world with their children, or, as frequently comes up on here, have separate finances?

Of course women don't automatically have to support other women just because they're women. And I and Lipstick happen to think debate is healthy and that his lifestyle choice is unhealthy. We're as entitled to our opinions as everyone who thinks we're weird and wrong

thats nosy and judgemental as well. I mean, do it all you like, I do to, but just admit that its both nosy and judgemental. Be honest.

Of course you don't have to support anyone, noone said you did. Just don't pretend your nosiness and judgement is some kind of altruistic important to society debate. It's not.

Are you vehemently sticking with nosy & judgemental?
Can I ask,in that case without getting all existential what’s the point of mn?
The premise is,someone seeks opinion on a situation.they spontaneously post
Post to garner opinion, actively invite opinion
Responses aren’t altruistic as such because,there a reciprocal gain for both
The op,post gains by response. Respondents gain by contributing

Overall it a win-win transaction

It may on occasion feel judgemental.
Can’t see how it’s nosy,as op posts what they’re happy to reveal

Dismissing woman discussing topics as nosy and/or judgemental is deeply troubling, as it minimises women's contribution to nosy and judgemental which are deeply pejorative terms

You get very het up by people thinking separate finances within a long term relationship with children together are weird. Seems you don't like the judgement when it's directed at you but voiciferously defending your right to criticise any other women who stray outside narrow box of employee. Live by the sword die by the sword and all that.

If both the husband and the wife are perfectly happy with the situation then I don't see anything wrong with it. I'd judge the woman if it meant they had to claim any kind of benefits just so she didn't have to work, or if they found things a financial struggle just so she could stay at home, but if the husband earned a lot so that they could live a comfortable life, then to each their own.

Personally I imagine it'd become rather boring and maybe even lonely (unless she has a network of friends who also don't work), but I certainly wouldn't think bad of them.

The thing is lipstick and gang, you're the ones on the attack. There's plenty of mums out there not working, just getting on with their lives, minding their own, then suddenly find they are the target of your wrath. Just live and let live.

then suddenly find they are the target of your wrath

This made me chuckle, no idea why I agree with you Lethal

Dismissing woman discussing topics as nosy and/or judgemental is deeply troubling, as it minimises women's contribution to nosy and judgemental which are deeply pejorative terms
I have to agree with this.
People will have opinions about all sorts of issues including lifestyle choices. It doesn't strike me as terribly healthy to say women's opinions are just nosiness because the implication is that they should be dismissed.

There's a lot of threads on MN where relationships have broken down and it's the woman with significantly less to move on with than the man. It's the woman who moved into his house, no name on tje deeds. Woman who's given up her career. Woman who has facilitated the man in bis career. Woman who hasn't got her own pension. Then the relationship ends.

For every woman who goes on about how the world is jealous of their ability to take up art and go to yoga, there's another woman fancing financial trouble with limjted employment prospects after the relationship ends and she's had 15 years out of work. It's hardly surprising women have opinions on that sort of gamble.

Lipstick and gang hey y’all I’ve never been in a gang,I’ll gladly take that
Gang? Presumably individuals who by association or likemindedness form a collective
And of of course lethal, what do you call posters who agree with you?
is that gang?crew? Or are you and those in agreement with you above such labels

I work from home, for myself. And work can be sporadic due to the nature. In down time I get a fair bit of judgement because I’m “not doing anything” (not from my husband I hasten to add!) and it drives me crackers.
Even I was at home, doing nothing, if myself and my husband had come to this arrangement and were both happy with it, why should anyone else judge?!

MaisyPops, you get it. It happened to my mum, aeons ago, but has left her embittered, years after. And in the sanctity of marriage.