Been following this thread with interest...I remember being in the same boat years ago with OLD before I met my now DP (who I also met online). It is aminefield, but after many failed attempts and eventual success my take on it would be this...
Texting for however long before meeting, is not the same as ‘dating’ and in some ways you should kind of expect that to reduce once youbaxtually start physically seeing and meeting up with each other as that actual contact will replace the text contact.
Technically, honestly, the guys done nothing wrong and you’re probably being overly sensitive because if the increased intimacy and vulnerability...trust me, I’ve been there. One thing I learned from my OLD experience is that men and women view sex, and it’s significance very differently and for lots of men it’s just not as emotional an event as it is for women. Rightly or wrongly, who’s to say, it just is that way sometimes.
My advise would be to proceed, albeit with caution if you would rather. Your last post mentions how communication has reduced...but that’s on both sides now really isn’t it? You thought he’d been taking too long to reply, so you started doing he same thing and haven’t made the effort you would have before. He could be having this exact conversation with his mates...’I was really busy one day and I replied a bit slowly, and now she’s gone a bit cold and doesn’t seem to want to chat or reply, have I don’t something wrong?’
Either way, OLD can be a wonderful thing but you need to thicken your skin a little bit, and if sex is a big thing for you, as PP have said, maybe hold back on that side a little bit.
Sorry this is so long...I do feel your pain, but trust me it can be so worth it :)