An actual, real list for your husband, really?

[LifesTooShortForYourNonsense]

There were 3 mums talking on the pick up from school today about the lists they have for their husbands - I was a bit speechless, as they were talking about real, written lists. Of stuff to do. For their full time working husbands, when they either don't work or work part time. Do people really do this? And, stay married? I don't understand, I would never... How disrespectful. I'm just imagining if my DH did this for me, I'd be so out the door! AIBU, or should I start a list!

I've done it. OH prefers if I write things down, he forgets otherwise. It's rare that he's at home alone anyway, but when he is I might ask him to do a few jobs. He works full time and I work part time- I do most things around the house because I'm at home more to do them. I always have a list on the go myself- I get great satisfaction from ticking things off!

Pen...I actually rub down my front door with baby oil. It is dark-coloured composite and loses its shine in the sun. Oil brings up the colour a treat and adds a nice sheen.

DH would tell me to fuck off if I tried giving him a list. I will occasionally text him something like 'please can you stick the washing on/empty the machine' if I suddenly realise I have forgotten but otherwise he is perfectly able to see what needs doing for himself.

We're list makers in this family - I have a list of daily things I/we need to do, a list of priority/non-priority things I/we need to do. I also leave a list for my DH on occasion, otherwise he'll do nothing and wonder why I get annoyed, then question why I don't leave him a list if there's something needs doing! I find lists helps us keep track of things that need to be done, plus I'm very forgetful and without a list, would just get nothing done.

I write lists for me but DH doesn't write his own nor does he pay much attention to any written by anyone else.
Our DS has some SEN and really needs structure so I am starting to have to say we must make a plan for weekend days even if it's just "homework, TV, class, lunch, park, TV, tea". Left to his own devices he would decide what we are doing 5 minutes after we'd started doing it.

But like me, he sees something needs doing, and does it if he has time. So it's OK that my lists are for me. Occasionally I remind him "you said you were going to fix that bath plug didn't you" or "oh no I forgot to get X, are you going to town later?"

I never, ever gave my DH a list as to me it just seemed so bossy and I was never assertive enough to insist. If I ignored jobs like the dusting it would have been a bit rich of me to insist on him doing things.

Sorry - I still can't get beyond bleaching door frames.

If I didnt work, no I wouldnt expect fifty percent of housework or whatever done by working DH, just stuff I couldnt physically do, but mine wants a list, he often says to me, that I didnt write something down, so it got missed, he has a head like a sieve.He has to get up early for work and long commute, I sleep very badly, not a list really just a note, but I write myself notes as well.

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Pen...I actually rub down my front door with baby oil. It is dark-coloured composite and loses its shine in the sun. Oil brings up the colour a treat and adds a nice sheen.

Good on ya, I bet it looks nice too. However, it's not the same as washing a white, upvc front door with hot soapy water.