What's the worst thing that's ever happened to you?

[carol1234568]

Sorry for the depressing thread, but sometimes I start thinking about all the sad things most of us will have to deal with in life.

Obviously we all have shit things happen - I've been bullied, made redundant and have had issues with my parents over the years, but I'm talking about the single hardest thing you've had to deal with.

For me it was when my grandmother died. I feel many people brush off grandparents deaths and don't realise it can be just as sad as a parent dying. My grandma cared about me more than my parents do, and her death was my first real experience with loss.

What about you?

My mum dying when I was 14. Devastated

My daughter being diagnosed t1 diabetic aged 2

Oblomov- why were you put in a psychiatric bed for a diabetic hypo?

Finding out why i was adopted

I guess there is always a danger of competitive misery on a thread like this. As you say, it's not necessarily the closeness of the relative, it's the closeness of the relation-ship and people are affected to different levels by the same thing.

I've recently lost my mum and I lost my Dad nearly 18 years ago. I can't say they were eclipsed by the death of my brother 20 years ago but, his death hit me so hard that I've been unable to really process any death since properly. It hurt me so much that I've more or less had to close that part of me for self preservation. Standing in my DHs brother's house after he died the week before Christmas leaving his wife and two small children was pretty grim, seeing the tree and decorations all ready for the festivities as my SiL was trying to keep things "normal" for the kids :(

My friend jumped of a bridge, that wasn't a good time.

We had fertility issues which was a pretty bad time.

My stepdad hung himself in the week.

My sister survived horrific CSE.

Both of these have fucking devastated my family.

Losing my mum far too young.

It's still just as shit, ten years later.

Waxon - I understand how your brothers death hit you so hard. I’ve lost both parents and my sister (only sibling) and my sister’s death was so much harder. I think it’s because you expect to lose your parents but I really thought my sister and I would grow old together.

My life (up until the birth of my son 3 years ago) has been a massive timeline of shit
The worst I would probably say was being repeatedly raped/sexually abused. The first time it happened probably changed me the most out of all of them.

One of them I can't tell as it's very outing.
The other was losing my second baby to Edwards Syndrome 8 years ago.
A huge hug to everyone else on here. I'm in tears reading your stories, God bless you all. 💔

Losing my mum's best friend when I was 18, I was closer to her than my Grandparents, she was like a second mum to me.

Being raped by my then husband.

Being homeless after leaving my marriage, having to live with my parents after having my own home.

Losing my partner of nearly 5 years who died aged 34.

My 14 year old son leaving home to live with his dad, he's been gone nearly two months now & I feel broken, I miss him so much.

When I was 12 years old my father died.
It felt absolutely horrible, but a year before he died my father had an accident and got put in a coma for about a month.
Of course seeing this as a child almost broke me.

After he woke up from the coma I came to visit him and he didn't recognise me.
It was the worst I've ever felt... your father looking at you like you're a stranger.
It broke me, I couldn't sleep for a week and I can't talk about it to anyone since it breaks me every time I talk about or even think about it.

Losing my Dad, Mam, Grandad, baby and sister in 4 years. I'm trying to pull myself together but it's harder than I ever could have expected.

It was just after midnight 21 years ago that I got a call from my mum to say my dad had been attacked in the street on his way home and he had died.
My life changed forever.

In 2018 I had an early miscarriage. Two weeks later I sat in the hospital all day watching my Nan pass away, was such a shock to lose her. My mum died in a car accident when I was 2, my Nan and grandad raised me. Three and a half weeks later my best friend passed away from cervical cancer. I’ve been incredibly lonely ever since, I don’t know who I am without them.

My father died four years ago, my mother died two years ago. I'm estranged from my family but had contact with my sister, who decided to have nothing to do with me after our father's death, for reasons unknown to me. That was so painful, dealing with my fathers death and her complete rejection of me. Then when my mother died, she didn't tell me, even though she could have contacted me in a number of different ways. I actually found out via my neice's social media and phoned my sister myself. She told me how my mother died, and I decided to forgive her. Then she didn't tell me about my mother's funeral, and she wasn't even sorry. I can not forgive her for that. I was the black sheep of my family, and I always will be. I just have to still learn to be ok with it and pretend they ( my siblings) don't exist

Losing my first born beloved 4mo DD to cot death

Being told my nephew had taken an overdose because his school refused to recognise he was transgender. After getting the phonecall from my sister I remember thinking 'that's what heartbreak sounds like'.

@millerpie, I'm so sorry for all your loss. That must be awful to try and deal with

Losing my baby son a few weeks after he was born, battled his whole short life & never made it home from hospital. Died in my arms. Painful & traumatic doesn't even come close in describing it.