What's the worst thing that's ever happened to you?

[carol1234568]

Sorry for the depressing thread, but sometimes I start thinking about all the sad things most of us will have to deal with in life.

Obviously we all have shit things happen - I've been bullied, made redundant and have had issues with my parents over the years, but I'm talking about the single hardest thing you've had to deal with.

For me it was when my grandmother died. I feel many people brush off grandparents deaths and don't realise it can be just as sad as a parent dying. My grandma cared about me more than my parents do, and her death was my first real experience with loss.

What about you?

Joint equal between losing my Mum just before my uni finals and getting a cancer diagnosis. I am in a much happier place now.

Me too sufer

PinkBall I am so sorry

Brie I am so sorry you had neglectful birth parents and then an inadequate adoptive parent. You didn't deserve any of that

There are some awful things on this thread - massive hugs to all of you.

Losing both parents when i was 26 and then my husband leaving me 5 years ago...I feel very alone most of the time.

I got diagnosed with bone cancer 1 month before my 18th birthday and as well as chemotherapy (which was grim), I had to have major leg surgery which is so debilitating and painful to this day

It's hard to know I was thinking today that adulthood just seems to be about loss and adjusting to loss. My mum died she was 59 I was 33 but my brothers were 18 /19 and my step dad severely disabled it was hard work with them for a few years. My step dad subsequently has fallen out with me it was so hurtful and sad. This year my best friend died of cancer and our dog died suddenly on Friday. I seem to spend alot of time expecting the worst. I had an abortion too for medical reasons in the middle of it all...I can't think about it all too much there's just too much loss.

It's hard to narrow down to the worst thing, but maybe when I got chucked out by my mum at 17.
I stopped going to school at 14 through illness, I became pregnant at 16, we moved so I had no friends, my mum hated DDs dad- he was pretty useless and we broke up.
By the time DD was 6 months old and my parents could no longer get benefits for me, and I was sleeping in their dining room, my mum chucked me out.

I called a taxi, i had the essentials for my DD and only the clothes I stood in. I went to my dad's, the taxi driver accepted £30 because that's all I had.

When I got to my dad's he told me that I could go in the day, but had to leave of a night because he likes his own space.

I walked the streets. I never knew until then how cold it could get in the summer at night. I walked with DD in her pram, all I had on was a faux leather jacket, dolly shoes, jeans and a vest.

I will never forget them evenings. I cried and cried because I didn't know my way forward. I didn't know how long I could keep doing that, and I didn't understand how I ended up in a position where no one at all loved me enough to help me.

Just shy of 10 years on, I am disgusted that I was in that situation. It's a wonder nothing happened to me or DD

My house fire 6years ago. Luckily Me and my daughter escaped but i lost everything and i didn't bother getting insured (tenant).

My whole childhood
Sexual abuse
Physical abuse
And total neglect....

The worst thing was the hunger, I was so hungry as we only got one small meal a day.
I remember going in to a bin and finding half of raw onion, washing it and sharing it with my brother.
I now over eat!
I can't cope if the cupboards are not full.

Miscarriage at 13 weeks. Dh's emotional affair.

Abuse from a family member for years as a child. My family are still in contact with this person.
My dad dying when I was 18. When I needed him the most

My biggest terror is something happening to my dd. I'll take anything else, but Good Lord how do people go on.
It's like a constant phobıa that every parent knows.

My dad committing suicide when no was 5. Then my mums new boyfriend abused us and raped my mum and she fell pregnant with my sister. He went to prison and my mum met another man who was an abusive alcoholic. She finally got the strength to leave him 13 years later after he punched me in the face when no told him I was pregnant.

I love my life now though!

Despite all the awful events I listed above that happened to me, nothing would be worse than losing my son. My heart goes out to all those in this thread who have lost children.

Baby spider exactly that I'm the same

my husband died on our 9th wedding anniversary, went to work and never came home, having had a massive heart attack, he was 37. We had 3 children aged 5, 3 & 1 at the time. Everyday I still have to deal with this, and wonder on a daily basis, how I do, but somehow we just go on

Being without my kids. A current suffering unfortunately. I don't know how I get through each day and I will never forgive their father for what he has done.

Car accident in 2012 which left me with Osteoarthritis in my ankle and lots of pain.
2013 - Late miscarriage at 19+1 weeks.
2014 - Late miscarriage at 20+6 weeks.

Pretty horrendous times of my life..
But things have been great since 2015.

All of you are so strong and brave xxx

My son being diagnosed with autism.
My daughter being diagnosed with dyslexia.

The tooth ache I had nearly 5 years ago. That was pretty horrendous.

Iv been lucky so far and both sets of grandparents are alive and so are my parents.

Omg reading this thread has made my cry. I was going to add my worst things but they pale into insignificance to some of these.

How do you all manage? You must have some amount of strength xx

Losing my son.

My dad committing suicide. It was years ago, but I miss him every day and wonder what I could have done to stop it happening.

My heart goes out to everyone here, for all their losses, awful experiences and suffering.