What's the worst thing that's ever happened to you?

[carol1234568]

Sorry for the depressing thread, but sometimes I start thinking about all the sad things most of us will have to deal with in life.

Obviously we all have shit things happen - I've been bullied, made redundant and have had issues with my parents over the years, but I'm talking about the single hardest thing you've had to deal with.

For me it was when my grandmother died. I feel many people brush off grandparents deaths and don't realise it can be just as sad as a parent dying. My grandma cared about me more than my parents do, and her death was my first real experience with loss.

What about you?

I lost twins at a late point in the pregnancy. I'd been perfectly well, had the most lovely pregnancy imaginable and had just finished work for maternity leave. The house was ready, I was ready, the babies were ready. And then, nothing.

I think because I'd had such an easy ride, because I was out of the 'danger' of the first 12 weeks and because it was my first pregnancy I had no idea things like that could even happen. And it broke my heart in a way that life can't ever really fix. I love my two DC fiercely and fully comprehend how incredible the gift of them is. But being a Mother to children who no longer exist is the hardest thing I'll ever have to be.

Should’ve said - that all happened within 3 months

Signing the papers to switch off the life support of one of my parents.

My whole life has been a nightmare to be honest, hard to pick the worst thing.

My mum died when I was 10.
Was left with alcoholic step dad who was physically and sexually abusive.
Childhood home was gutted by a fire.
Was raped at 15.
Homeless and living in a hostel at 16.
ExH started hitting me when I got pregnant.
Ex cheated on me whilst I was pregnant.
I was convicted of benefit fraud on the back of an abusive relationship that I couldn't get out of.
Found out my dad wasn't actually my dad age 26.
Stalked by next ex, he is currently threatening to kill himself on a daily basis.

Despite all of the above I am ggenerally happy and cheerful and well adjusted (I think)

My husband's suicide.

Oh Submariner

i can't imagine anything more devastating than losing a child. my heart goes out to those that have.

Being mentally and physically abused by my mother for... pretty much my whole life. I was so scared of her that I had an abortion I really didn't want because I was young and still living at her house and thought she would kill me if I told her I was pregnant, or worse that I'd end up more reliant on her and never be able to escape.

I had a missed miscarriage earlier this year after coming of my anti depressants to ttc it sent me into a very deep depression. I thought it was my fault because I had an abortion so God thought I didn't deserve a baby. (Not even a religious person but I was sure of it)

Abusive (ex) marriage. I was isolated from my family and friends and I nearly died. Got away in 2005 and I still think about it every day.

I lost a child to cancer.

My brother dying was the worst thing.

Like Badgers, I had a best friend I was completely besotted with for years. Didn’t fall out like normal friends and I adored her. She drifted away when we were about 15 and I couldn’t get over it.

Having to ring the police on one of my dc knowing it would mean I could never see them again.

My Dad dying of leukaemia at 53, my stepfather being stabbed to death in a random attack by a drugged up teenager, my Mum dying of cancer and my brother being rendered paraplegic in a workplace accident. I am only 44, I have had a lot of shit to deal with.

Your mum blamed you as well, Bam.

Aside from losing people I love.

Watching and hearing my parents fight. Screaming and shouting. Throwing things at each other. It was terrified one of them would end up dead.
I'd often go to bed and put my fingers in my ears to drown out the sound.
I used to pray they'd get divorced.
I was over the moon when they finally said "enough is enough".

i hate all that "You should stay together for the kids"
No you really shouldn't
. It's not fair for a child to live in that type of atmosphere.
They were the best mum and dad in the world and got on great separately.
Together though they were toxic.
Just a very unsuited couple I guess .

Finding my 19 year old son had died suddenly in his sleep and having to explain to his 3 younger sisters practically there and then as the ambulance, police and undertaker arrived - and just about every day since. Was November 2013 but still feels raw.

Such tragic stories 😢

The death of a child in the family.

I've lost grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, through cancer, old age, suicide, illness etc, but a child broke my heart in a way I can not explain.

PinkBall these are for you

On this theme I feel so badly for that sports presenter whose wife died of leukaemia leaving him with an eight year old son to being up. He was on record as having said how he was almost suicidal when his wife lost a second baby in a very late miscarriage, and then that happened to him and his son. Heartbreaking.

Being sexually abused by a family member between the age of 7 and 12 I slept with a kitchen knife under my pillow. I never found the courage to use it though.

These posts are so sad 😞
I’m actually crying reading them.

for everyone.

Losing my maternal grandma. In a needless road accident. I was 12. It is still painful now. It affected our family in a huge way and obviously affected my mum so badly. I cry about it often. Crying now 🙈
It's the biggest loss and shock I have ever experienced.
Hugs to everyone x

I have a long list - in chronological order:
Finding out I had endometriosis and had a 2% chance of having a baby.
Knowing there was something wrong with dc1 (later diagnosed as ADD) whilst dealing with a newborn who had a genetic condition rendering them legally blind.
Having dc1 diagnosed with said ADD.
Realising that xh was having an affair with our au pair.
Trying to reconcile with xh, but after him coming back to me (a big mistake), being told he didn't love me but had 'feelings' for me.
Going through a very acrimonious divorce - all about money...
Dc1 being diagnosed with an extremely rare auto-immune disease. (In remission now, but it could come back.)
Watching my df vomit up his own blood after being diagnosed with cancer, and being told he was basically bleeding to death - and being unable to take it in.
Trying to help dc2 deal with massive anxiety issues - it's now made me ill too.
It's a very depressing list.