AIBU to want at least 4 kids?

[MrsCD67]

How many do you have and what are the age gaps like? Would you want more and why?

I have 3 and another on the way 4, 3, and 15 months

Have 2 with a 5 year age gap. 5 years is wonderful and made it all so much easier. But no absolutely don’t want anymore! We only ever wanted 2 so that’s always been the plan, so looking to get sterilised at some point next year. My youngest was born at 37 so age certainly is a factor in that, but also it’s financial. I can have a good career (which I love) without any more big breaks and we can afford to be comfortable and not need to buy massively bigger cars or a bigger house, etc. It’s perfect for us, but maybe if we were rich and started having babies in our 20s, I might have at least considered a third.

I used to want eight, then down to five. Should have had four but one died. I have two boys and a girl. 12, 14 and 17. Two was easy. Three is hard. The youngest is more hard work than the others even though one isn't well.

I wanted 4, and have 4 and I love them all dearly. Age gaps are 1 year, 4 years and 2 years.

The demands of 4 children in 7 years and very demanding jobs for me and my H have likely contributed to our marriage failing after 20 years.

Don't underestimate the cost and don't just mean financial. I would not change a thing, but, yes, it has cost me.

My parents had 2 and my mum used to say she had 2 hands so felt she could manage no more than 2 children (my dad would have liked more) and I can now see the wisdom of her words.

Which of my 4 is up for adoption varies from minute to minute though and the one I love most is always the one who annoys me least any given moment in time

My baby is 19 now. I'm.still besotted with her and I've never felt the urge to have anymore. I have two nephews though so I
get my fix with them and I can give them back.

Oh, and my are all boys, now between 15 and 8 and the demands older children have on me as a mother are just different, not less than they were when they were tiny.

I wanted 4 then had 1 and decided 2 is a good number. Number 2 was twins so we have 3

We're now done!

I wanted 4

first two only 15 months apart, then third child 3 years later,

desperately wanted a forth close in age to the third, but 15 miscarriages later and now entering menopause, meant that 3 was all we had.

Not really felt with exam stress. My eldest has disablities not massively severe. Bullying hasn't been an issue get. But if these things happen then we deal with it as we would anything else find out the problem and sort it.

As for cleaning every one has a laundry basket when there is a load it gets washed. I put a 30 minute timer on each of the rooms and the Dc help tidy their own room. Bahroom lounge livingroom kitchen is cleaned daily two times at least. Each of these rooms takes 15 minutes as we clean as we go.

We have 4, we won't be having anymore, 4 is hard.

Now that I have one at University and one about to start this year I am beyond happy that I stopped at two.

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I have 5 aged 11,10, 7, 4 and 3. I still get the occasional broody moment but I'm definitely done.

I always wanted 4 until I had 1...decided then to have a 2nd and for various reasons a 3rd...3 didn’t sit well with either dh or I (both one of 3) so we went for 4 and were lucky enough to have her...

DS - 8.5, dd1 - 6, dd2 - 3.5, dd3 - 7 months

I haven’t found going from 3-4 that challenging other than the usual baby stresses...but we did already have suitable cars/house etc...

I’m very much done at 4!

I have one DD aged 6. When with her dad and largely unsupported I felt unable to have more. Now he's gone it's a weight off my shoulders and I feel capable of at least another one one day...In a fantasy otherworld where money is no object I would consider 4, I think in reality three would be the absolute max. I am curious to know what my son would be like. I love my daughter to bits of course and am so proud and delighted with her but in my mind I had sons; sons who come in from rugby splattered in mud 'alright mum?' and hand me sweaty laundry before sitting down to horse down the enormous portions I like to cook with relish.

I have four aged 8, 6, 4, and 1. Youngest did her level best to kill me at various points of the pregnancy, delivery, and postnatal period so there will be absolutely no more!

It's very busy and sometimes very tiring but overall it's very lovely.

We wanted six, we had 4. Mine are all grown up now and I have six gorgeous grandchildren now.

We have six 18,17(just)15,13 11 and 5 I'd love more but have been sterilised as youngest born with cerebral palsy and hydrocephalus (10 brain operations already!)

I didn’t want any when I was younger (up to 34)
Then I had one.
Desperately wanted a second, but secondary infertility meant I have one (but I have the best one so that’s ok)
Dd (9) recently told me she wants 4. At the very least two she said because being an only child is horrible (ouch) but ideally 4. We were discussing the implications of 4 in regards to her desire to be environmentally friendly.

2 DC'S.

Would have more if I had more money and more support but we don't, so we won't.

It's hard work even with just two.

Montsti I found going from 3-4 the easiest transition of the lot. 2-3 was easy but 3-4 was a game changer, I felt like I really knew what I was doing and nothing phases me.

Willitbe ☹️

I have two DSs, 21 months between them would really have liked a third but financially would have been difficult and 2nd c-section was tricky which made me not want to risk a third. Got very broody a few years back (I think that’s part of peri-menopause symptoms), was tempted but head ruled heart.

I have 4 age 13, 10, 6 & 3. The 3 year old is hard work and is making sure that we don’t have any more!

No way would I have 4. Environmental impact reasons, financial, my mental health, the hassle, the mess, the noise, the organisation, the consumption, the transportation and logistics. Bye bye life!

I have four. 9,8,4&3. It is hard work but so so so much fun. We don't need much from others as they all get along very well.

I am feeling apprehensive about having four teens under the roof at any one time!