Granny gave him first toy without me

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We are staying with my parents at the moment because my husband has been in hospital. I bought my son a toy at the weekend. He's 8 months old so it's his first real toy. I was really excited to give it to him but it needed a random type of battery that I didn't have.
Went to shops today and picked up the batteries then popped back out to the pharmacy to pick up my husbands prescription. I came back to find baby playing with the toy. I'm a bit devastated to be honest....
A few weeks ago she gave him a taste of banana when I was out.... his first taste of real food!
AIBU to feel a bit annoyed?

Give yourself a slap and get over it. Seriously you are devastated over really stupid stuff. Does it matter who gave it to him or that he enjoyed playing with it.

YANBU. It’s your baby and these are precious moments. Is there any backstory to your mum and your relationship?

Yabu. And a bit pfb
Catch a grip, there are bigger things to worry about

She's probably forgotten how important these "firsts" are. Remind her!

I can understand why you'd be upset about the banana before he was weaned but the toy situation is a bit precious. Maybe you've not got over the banana though and that's adding to how you feel now?

But in relation to the banana you said that was 'a few weeks ago' which I'm assuming therefore was within the last month...

Why haven't you been giving your baby food??

@Loandbeholdagain yes I suppose so, she is the type of mum who opens your post when you are away 😂
She new I would want to give it to him myself. She's a bit of a control freak...

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. If you’d bought the toy then she should have waited for you. Giving him his first food without your consent would really piss me off. How long are you staying with them for, can you go home?

The OP bought her DS a toy and she wanted to see his reaction when he first played with it. Her mother took that away from her. He's her child, why shouldn't she be allowed to have these firsts without being told she's over reacting.

Same with the baby's first food, whatever his age.

I wouldn't dream of giving my DGC a toy that her mother had bought to give her, it's overstepping the mark, again the same with the first food.

She's a bit of a control freak...

Apple didn't fall far from the tree did it....

Sorry everyone I should have said months ago in relation to the banana! Time flys I suppose with a baby... feels like yesterday!

Why leave him with her then?
You can't have it both ways, either look after him yourself or don't be surprised when other people don't do everything exactly as you want when they're looking after him for you.

She’s done nothing wrong, you are being ridiculously precious- you have a lifetime of raising this bubba just enjoy it without desperately trying to celebrate every minute first

She new I would want to give it to him myself. She's a bit of a control freak...

Oh the irony....

Really?!

Op, I’d be pissed off too. Yanbu.

I’d be particularly annoyed over first food as that’s a big deal and she doesn’t get to do that.

The toy - where did she get batteries? Why didn’t she give them to you when you were there instead of waiting for the moment you’ve left the house and taking the moment for herself? 🤔

No one threw me a parade when i got my first battery operated toy. Feeling hard done by now.

Sorry but in the grand scheme of things is it it really that big of a deal!! Prepare yourself your going to miss out on a few firsts.

I totally agree about the banana. This would have made me very angry. You don't go around feeding solids to babies who haven't started weaning.

YABveryU about the toy unless you had made it absolutely clear ahead of time it was A Big Deal and no one else was to hand it over (and if this was the case I'd think you very PFB and, quite frankly, a bit nuts).

I don't think the toy is a big deal, and I am surprised/don't believe he has had NO toys at 8 months.

I'd be annoyed if I hadn't started weaning and my DM fed my baby a banana but I don't know what the circumstances were, and I think you should have brought that up with her at the time.

I doubt if she realised you classed it as the "first toy". My DS received his "first toy" (a teddy bear) at one hour old. We specifically chose a nice toy as a keepsake. It wouldn't have occurred to me that a bit of plastic at 8 months old was a "first toy".

I'm staying with them as my husband has a serious illness and has been in hospital, they live much closer.

I just wanted to see his reaction to the toy that frankly wasn't cheap. I bought the batteries, popped out for 20minutes straight after I got them because I forgot my husbands prescription. Came back and he was playing with it.

Again maybe it's just that I'm not over the banana situation. I've missed a few things recently due to having to leave him a bit with sitters, so yes maybe I am being a bit of a drama queen. I just wanted to see his face and I like to video this stuff for my husband who is missing out on a lot.

At 8 months old he needs more than teddies , rattles etc. He needs cause and effect toys from about five months old. Toys you bang and they light up and make noises. Activity tables. A toy you put balls in and they fall down. A peg with rings on that they pull off. These types of things.

Ahh the banana thing makes more sense now. I'd be annoyed about that too. I wouldn't be bothered by the toy thing though.