Sister not looking after my house

[BipolarSunset]

Really need your help here.

So me, DH and DS have just come back from holiday, sister stayed at mine all week to look after our dog.
She works 2 days a week so we had arranged a friend to pop in and take DDog out for a walk and to feed him.

Get a call Wednesday whilst away from friend saying my house has been completely destroyed, DDog was locked in his cage (we never put him in if we go out) which was filled with urine and there was rubbish everywhere.
Friend had cleaned cage, bathed dog and then took him out. There was also a used pregnancy test just sitting on my toilet cistern.

Come back today and house isn't much better, spoken to my mum who has defended my sister saying that friend had invaded her privacy and that DDog was hard to look after and pretty much that I am a neat freak.

Am I being unreasonable?

YANBU at all.

Well there's destroyed and there's destroyed.

Next time put pooch into kennels.

Next time DDog will be coming with. This was a last minute gift which didn't allow dogs unfortunately.

This is my kitchen....destroyed!

That kitchen is neater than mine, OP.

My kitchen often looks like that. It's hardly destroyed

Have you spoken to your sister to find out what happened? Leaving a dog in a cage filled with urine I would consider animal abuse, this isn't really a minor issue at all...

I don't see a picture.

So from what I can gather is there was too much around for dog to chew so was easier to put him in the cage rather than clean up after herself.

My kitchen never looks like this. It was spotless before we left so she only had to clean her own mess. Couldn't even do that.

Sorry, that kitchen is a bit messy at worst. It's not destroyed.

I can't see the pic, can you post again?

I don’t see a picture.

There's no pic??

Here it is again.

Personally not how I keep my kitchen which is why I want to know if I'm just over reacting or not...

But compared to op's standards, that kitchen is a shit state.

Il be honest, if someone left my kitchen like that, I'd be pissed right off.

I think she shouldn't have told you about the pregnancy test. That was your sister's business.

Ive checked both desktop and mobile site and no pic.

Did you post using the app op?

Mmmm perhaps over reacting slightly. And it's no ones business about the pregnancy test, I'd be upset if I left it out in a house I was staying in and someone else just came by (unbeknownst to em) and then started blabbing about it.

However, sounds as tho poor ddog wasn't looked after well at all. And that's a whole different problem

Why have you spoke to your mum? It's your sister you have a grievance with

I can't see the picture but you seem more concerned about the kitchen than the poor Dog.
If she hasn't kept your standards of the house then don't ask her again.
If she has 'trashed' your house bill her for the damages and don't ask her again and tell her she was out of order.

*spoken

no pic - can someone repost it please

You know now anyway to never ask your Dsis to look after your Ddog!
Poor thing left locked in a cage, swimming with urine.
I'd be furious at her for this alone!

It would take 15 minutes tops to sort the kitchen. It's a bit messy but hardly destroyed and why did you tell on her to your mum?! You're adults, why get your mum involved?