Sister not looking after my house

[BipolarSunset]

Really need your help here.

So me, DH and DS have just come back from holiday, sister stayed at mine all week to look after our dog.
She works 2 days a week so we had arranged a friend to pop in and take DDog out for a walk and to feed him.

Get a call Wednesday whilst away from friend saying my house has been completely destroyed, DDog was locked in his cage (we never put him in if we go out) which was filled with urine and there was rubbish everywhere.
Friend had cleaned cage, bathed dog and then took him out. There was also a used pregnancy test just sitting on my toilet cistern.

Come back today and house isn't much better, spoken to my mum who has defended my sister saying that friend had invaded her privacy and that DDog was hard to look after and pretty much that I am a neat freak.

Am I being unreasonable?

Your kitchen looks like mine does AFTER I've cleaned it.

This is just about the least drama I've ever about read on the whole of Mumsnet.

Op i would also think this looks like a mess! Dont you leave a place how you find it? I would be highly itritated to come home to this and more so about the dog situation.

How much did you pay her for house-sitting? If anything needs replacing I'd discuss her covering the cost from what you were paying her.

If, on the other hand, your sister was doing you a favour by staying at yours with the dog and her favour isn't up to your standards then I'd keep my mouth shut and just pay someone next time.

Finally, why do you have a dog crate if you don't use it? If I were dog-sitting and someone had a crate I'd presume it was supposed to be used.

I want to see the picture

No pic

I would be fuming if I came back and my kitchen was in that state!

That's an untidy worktop. Hardly destroyed. I was expecting to see scorch marks over the walls, an exploded microwave, bags of old rubbish and ruined lino. Perhaps some dead rodents and evidence that a gang of Hells Angels had ridden their motorbikes through your house.

Would be more irate about the dog.

It sounds stressful but unless banisters are broken and cupboards are in broken pieces on the floor then the house isn't destroyed. Lesson learned, next time take the dog or put it in kennels. No need to cause a massive family fall out over it or go NC as I'm sure a poster will be along soon to advise.

Also, your friend sounds like a shit stirrer by phoning you while you were on holiday and talking about the pregnancy test so I wouldn't necessarily trust her judgement of "filled with urine".

It is messy, which is annoying. But calling it "destroyed" is a bit on the hysterical side.

Destroyed suggests permanent damage, not messy worktops.

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I second shitstirrer .... dying to see pic.

I like a tidy house but no way is that kitchen destroyed.

I think your mum might have a point.

Really can't see the relevance of the pregnancy test.

Sounds like your friend is a bit of a stirrer.

The kitchen is messy but I’m presuming she’d be able to tidy before you got back?
I’d be far more pissed off about her leaving my dog locked in a urine soaked cage.

Seen pic - cleaning stuff out so she has had a go. Not nice to come back to that after holiday. How old is your sister?

That's a mess, yanbu

You have an odd definition of destroyed, OP.

I wonder what 'filled with urine' actually means in your world because you don't seem to disturbed by that part but a few cleaning products left on your worktop and you're frothing to your mother?! I imagine 'filled with urine' means he'd pee'd in his crate and was a wee bit damp and stinky?

Sorry just reread and saw that was what it was like when you got home.
Still think the treatment of the dog is a far bigger issue than a messy kitchen though.

I'd be more upset about the dog being left so long in his cage that he had to pee.

Load of old tosh, kitchens untidy at best, and since you exaggerated over that, then I'm inclined to believe the rest is over egged too.

Destroyed is things smashed, counters ripped out ect

That's slightly messy at best

That's jumbled but not wrecked. I was imagining doors hanging off, carpet burned, etc. That would be a wreck.

Sister text Mum asking dad to pick her because we've had a row. Mum called once she had gone to see what happened.

She won't be looking after DDog or house ever again. Just so very grateful that we had a friend pop in for him.

I'm a very neat and tidy person and maybe my standards are a little too high but I think she's taken the piss, DH says so too but sister and Mum seem to think it's all ok.

there’s nothing on the floor, dishes are done, some cardboard needing to be binned? You consider that destroyed?

Hoo boy. Now I’m glad we don’t get visitors. The dog is unreasonable of her but I think you’re being picky about the kitchen. It’s been used.

My kitchen is worse than that right now

The dog is an issue. Does she not like dogs?