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To meet up with MIL to discuss broken wine glass!

975 replies

pugreverywhere · 04/05/2018 08:38

Can't believe the previous thread reached a thousand posts, thanks so much for your support everyone!

I ended up reading MIL's facebook messages for me this morning. Turns up she wants to meet up at a café this weekend to smooth things over "without the boys knowing". She also said she would bring the egg pram back (?!).

Haven't replied yet. DH was pretty upset last night; not sure if he is actually considering going NC with his father. If so, it wouldn't be fair of me to meet up with his Mum in secret - but she's always been lovely to me and I'd hate for my GC having no GP in his life.
Ugh! Still so gutted over this whole thing.

You have all posted some very good advice so I am going to sit and read through it until I decide what we do now.

OP posts:
Isayeichnotheich · 07/05/2018 10:15

I'm more gobsmacked that they exist in a way pugs described, sort of not known for unreasonable behaviour and then turning wildly hysterical. She said they were nice/fine, and that all was out of the blue and out of character, they were never controlling before apparently.

Though then you read they had rocked up with their own "better" puschair, charge their son rental fee for a surplus car (though somebody mentioned it was normal practise as long as it is a luxury car and discounted rate) and that FIL treated his son poorly growing up and lately, and it becomes less unbelievable.

Even without the glass incident I'd be definitely inclined to say firm no to the pram if you had already bought one, it's very dismissive of your decisions/choices and sets up a bad precedent. Though I understand to insist on not accepting it in the first place was very difficult.

PrimalLass · 07/05/2018 10:17

Are the FB comments gone?

MarthasGinYard · 07/05/2018 10:21

I think it was just the comments the MIL made to DIL that was in post.

MarthasGinYard · 07/05/2018 10:21

I think it was just the comments the MIL made to DIL that was in post.

PrimalLass · 07/05/2018 10:21

Ah ok

Isayeichnotheich · 07/05/2018 10:50

Posters whose comments double up, are you on the iPhone app?

eiledon · 07/05/2018 10:50

Don’t go behind his back. Show him the messages.

GeordieGirl233 · 07/05/2018 10:57

Where is the original post? What's going on? I need to know! Smile

GeordieGirl233 · 07/05/2018 10:58

Where is the original post? What's going on? I need to know! Smile

GeordieGirl233 · 07/05/2018 10:58

Where is the original post? What's going on? I need to know! Smile

janaus · 07/05/2018 11:10

Just letting you know that the broken wineglass has made it onto Australian morning news Tv show. Called The Morning Show. Everyone is out raged.

blueskypink · 07/05/2018 11:16

Isay - I'm on the iPhone app. Posting to see if mine duplicates.

eloisesparkle · 07/05/2018 11:32

I've reported the duplication when using an iPhone.
It says failed to post but it has posted.

blueskypink · 07/05/2018 11:56

Saying 'failed to post' and then posting has been going on for ages!

Isayeichnotheich · 07/05/2018 14:15

On Android it doesn't seem to happen, it's really annoying when threads fill up with duplicates, why doesn't Mumsnet sort its apps out 😐?
Most of the time message saying didn't post seems to be safe to ignore. I copy the text of my posts, esp if long, before posting now, because lots had frustratingly disappeared while trying to post.

Jux · 07/05/2018 14:30

Gosh those Concord glasses are so vulgar.

auga · 07/05/2018 14:38

I registered just to be able to post to ask OP for an update...I hope they've just been having a fun birthday weekend, and that they've not been scared off by people accusing them of trolling.

Lorddenning1 · 07/05/2018 21:17

Any updates?

SunwhereareyouShowyourself · 07/05/2018 23:23

idontdowindows

My fil is an enabler but he has superficial skills Grin, he was sales person very pushy but can get buzz going over anything. So for instance... Dd has gifts to open but sils comes up (his daughter) .. Fil will raise his voice.. Like fairground man advertising the coconut shy.. Let's see what aunty...x got wow... It's a pen grabbed from station shop on way home. For 2.99 my incredible successful wealthy daughter..has managed this gift... Drum roll...

Oh Mil has made a sandwich drum roll...

The dcs get literally steam rolled into a reaction. For instance my estranged dsis with lots of mh issues and no money will send small but thoughtful gifts from a long way away but I wouldn't go crazy like fil does

Fil goes to work hard to make the bleakest offerings something special.

Aridane · 08/05/2018 01:11

It’s in the Independent and on the yahoo home page

windermerebell · 08/05/2018 02:13

Why should the OP come back after all the troll hunting. I was accused of being a troll and it made me feel like crap.
Getting really fed up of all the troll hunting on here, the rules are clear to report a thread if you think it is suspicious, it does seems to be one rule though that posters don’t get picked up on.

Idontdowindows · 08/05/2018 08:19

@SunwhereareyouShowyourself if all my aunts and uncles weren't long gone I'd think you were one of them. That's my grandfather to a t.

NotTakenUsername · 08/05/2018 08:24

I think mnhq are very good at dealing with troll hunting on the whole.
This is a special case - likely the story has generated lots of traffic by being featured in multiple tabloids, so although it is quite possible the troll hunters are correct (certainly even mnhq has reminded posters that people on the internet are not always what they seem), the whole two threads won’t be zapped because they are valuable to the site.

Isayeichnotheich · 08/05/2018 11:39

It's actually MNHQ which in my opinion made it look more like it wasn't true posting on the thread and reminding people not to get invested.
On similar threads creating a lot of attention they'd sometimes post we can't guarantee anything but this is a very well known poster. Or hide until they investigate.

However my DH registered on MN(because he heard so lot about it from me) just to post for advice on something which happened to us and we were feeling
quite shocked and vulnerable, and his thread was hidden and then he got a message from MN telling him he was permanently banned 😮
I wrote to them about it, told them it was all true, heard nothing back, and left MN for a while being pretty disappointed about the way they handled it. (Realised as a result I had time freed to read books!!)
Then recently stuck in bed with a toddler in the dark clicked on a link from MN email which had popular threads and found myself here... but can't muster any enthusiasm for MN any more.😶

ahouseofleaves · 08/05/2018 12:08

It's actually MNHQ which in my opinion made it look more like it wasn't true posting on the thread and reminding people not to get invested.

This.