To meet up with MIL to discuss broken wine glass!

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Can't believe the previous thread reached a thousand posts, thanks so much for your support everyone!

I ended up reading MIL's facebook messages for me this morning. Turns up she wants to meet up at a café this weekend to smooth things over "without the boys knowing". She also said she would bring the egg pram back (?!).

Haven't replied yet. DH was pretty upset last night; not sure if he is actually considering going NC with his father. If so, it wouldn't be fair of me to meet up with his Mum in secret - but she's always been lovely to me and I'd hate for my GC having no GP in his life.
Ugh! Still so gutted over this whole thing.

You have all posted some very good advice so I am going to sit and read through it until I decide what we do now.

Wouldn't a cocktail be served in a cocktail glass? Serving it in a wine glass seems a bit declasse. Are the in-laws very common?

ADishBestEatenCold It actually wouldn't bother me if it was made up, I just see it as an interesting discussion. OP didn't ask for anything or suggest she was in danger as has been the case with other made up stuff, that's a much more serious transgression.

If other pp want to get emotionally invested I think that's up to them really.

It was in the sun first or express.

Ruffian I agree

A long time ago a so called mil came on saying her dil was most unreasonable for not allowing her to take the baby for her some time family event.. And if the dil didn't want ti go why couldn't she they just have to the baby!

Cue thread run.. Like this one. I suspected joke or writer however.. There were so many amazing posts on the that thread re family issues and how to deal with with in laws!! It became a definitive guide. It was light hearted too but sadly some posters couldn't cope with the fact it may have been made up and it was eventually zapped.

Very different of course from.. We have no food and no shoes, dh beats me please help..

That does annoy me a bit too, Sunwhereareyou - there was thread recently that has since been zapped about an alcoholic parent with lots of excellent advice - but zapped because, I think, MNHQ Had Doubts or something. I dislike that all that well thought out advice and useful info gets lost because someone made up a story - the advice and experience on the thread are usually NOT made up, and as such, have value in their own right even if the OP is a liar. I wish that MNHQ could think of a better way to deal with such situations than deleting the entire thread.

Thumb IIRC that one was taken down at the OP's request.

Cocktail in a wine glass? Funny that such a selfish man would go to the effort of making you a ‘mocktail’ Instead of just pouring some fruit juice and soda into a hi ball glass.....

Oh was it Weezol? Thank you. I went back to look after I'd posted but it's fallen off my TIO list.
It was but an example though - there have been other threads with similar levels of excellent advice and experience that have been removed because of the OP being "doubtful", where the advice and experience stories would have been very useful to leave standing.

Thumb I agree with you, I was quite surprised too.

It's also a bit disappointing sometimes when a thread you know is bollocks but is keeping everyone amused with it's witty posts get zapped.

Ah another journalist short of a story for a deadline

I also agree Ruffian. Some of the responses here clearly come from people with experiences similar to the OP.

This whole thread highlights how people who haven’t experienced narcissistic family members have no idea how they operate, even if others have tried to explain it. As for enablers, yes it’s extremely difficult to stand up to narcissistic bullies on our own account. But when it comes to our children’s welfare, it’s a different matter.

I have put up with lots of shit from relatives in the past, having been well trained to be obliging. But when it’s been a choice between backing down to keep the peace or fighting for my children or my dh, there’s no question that I back them. However brainwashed you are, there's something that stops you from sucked into it where your closest people are under threat. I know that my father admitted enabling my mother because ‘she’s my wife’. As if that’s the slightest argument in favour of acting blatantly in your own own interest but to the detriment of your children. I have no sympathy for your dh’s mother. She is making a conscious choice.

I wouldn't expect the OP to come back now, tbh. That doesn't mean the thread is made up.
All the advice has been to just leave it for now anyway. Plus, although originally the OP said she didn't care if it did get picked up, this has actually ballooned a lot bigger than many threads. It makes sense for her to go quiet now, but that doesn't equate to it being a made up story in the first place.

I agree with Ruffian and Thumb - some people are far more concerned with finding trolls than understanding that actually, the kind of people in the OP's posts do exist, despite the troll hunters themselves not believing it because it is outside their own experience and they have no imagination or empathy. There are other MNetters on the thread to bear witness to that, so even if the original post is made up, most of the answers which speak to different experiences are not, and others in similar situations can actually learn from a thread even if the OP was in bad faith. Of course, the cases of scammers are different, but this thread, for example, wasn't a scam - the "begging" was in the nasty eye of the troll hunters, the OP was not asking for a gofundme to be started for them. I actually am far more annoyed by troll hunters than the trolls themselves. Will I get banned for saying that?

On a side note - yes ScreenQueen, i'm very tempted by the 24k Gold Crocodile Teddy Bear. A mere snip at £29,796 and theres only one left - bagsie me!

I don’t believe MNHQ suggested anything of the sort. Stop Troll Hunting.

I meant mumsnet's copyright, not the individual posters

I meant mumsnet's copyright, not the individual posters

@Ruffian for the mere price of £29K I will catch a crocodile and stuff it with teddy bears before painting him gold.

I may need money upfront though, as my cousin is trying to help out a Nigerian prince who needs investors in a reliable business interest but will be repaid post haste.

I looked at that site... for the love of god, who has that sort of money to throw around?!

"ADishBestEatenCold It actually wouldn't bother me if it was made up, I just see it as an interesting discussion."

I get that, Ruffian ... can be very true ... especially if the story-teller/narrator has thought through a direction for the thread, roughly planned a direction to take things to (either) a natural conclusion or to allow the thread to fade out in a natural way. Can be just as interesting or entertaining as any 'true thread'.

With some other threads the interest (for me) lies in interaction of very different characters and how those differences bring unexpected twists and turns to the thread. Certainly, that too could be 'made up' and I tend to think (either rightly or wrongly, because who can know on an anonymous forum) that if it is that sort of thread being made-up, then the thread is more likely to end abruptly, or with the OP just disappearing.

All speculation of course (as I said, who can know on an anonymous forum), but ... now you've pointed it out ... I think you are probably right in this particular instance as OP seems to have dropped out since MNHQ's intervention warning.

Bugger! I wanted to know what happened next!

Still no picture of the glass OP?

I did wonder, if it is all a made up ploy to subliminally advertise these damn glasses and glassware and the blinking Egg pram from the OP. If so then she/he did a great job ! My MN screen was full of them on my laptop.
Did it cross anyone else's mind or is it just bad minded me

Mrsmad . Maybe. I’m still not interested though. And I didn’t think op had officially told us which glass.