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To meet up with MIL to discuss broken wine glass!

975 replies

pugreverywhere · 04/05/2018 08:38

Can't believe the previous thread reached a thousand posts, thanks so much for your support everyone!

I ended up reading MIL's facebook messages for me this morning. Turns up she wants to meet up at a café this weekend to smooth things over "without the boys knowing". She also said she would bring the egg pram back (?!).

Haven't replied yet. DH was pretty upset last night; not sure if he is actually considering going NC with his father. If so, it wouldn't be fair of me to meet up with his Mum in secret - but she's always been lovely to me and I'd hate for my GC having no GP in his life.
Ugh! Still so gutted over this whole thing.

You have all posted some very good advice so I am going to sit and read through it until I decide what we do now.

OP posts:
Mrsmadevans · 06/05/2018 19:29

Ahhh you are right Mummydragon but wasn't it inevitable it would be discovered given the tenacity of MN posters Grin

Mummyoflittledragon · 06/05/2018 19:31

And we are still demanding more. Where is the op? This can’t be over already. Hmm

Carol19578 · 06/05/2018 19:49

Would be nice to have an update as others have also said don't keep us in suspense[.

ahouseofleaves · 06/05/2018 20:12

I must be really naive. I believed her.

Mummyoflittledragon · 06/05/2018 22:03

Sunflowers
That is a very beautiful glass. If money were no object, I’d perhaps have a set of 12 of them.

Sunflowersforever · 06/05/2018 22:07

I googled £156 wine glass and that came up Grin

If this post is real, then this must be it, or one like it

GabsAlot · 06/05/2018 22:33

if its a troll why is it stil here-mn have already commented surely they would have checked by now

AvoidingDM · 06/05/2018 22:36

Do people really buy glasses at that price from a website?
If I had the mindset to spend that on a glass I'd want to see them in the flesh before buying.

I will say not everybody who gets threads picked up by the Daily Mail have made up stories! Been there and got the t--shirt. They also put a crazy spin on what I'd actually said.

SaltireSaltire · 06/05/2018 22:44

Sunflowersforever
No - you wouldn't serve a mocktail in a port wine glass - surely?
As OP has the details of the website, I'm keen to see the one she is referring to.

elfies · 06/05/2018 23:08

I hope its a proper thread, and OP returns to reassure us

cafenoirbiscuit · 06/05/2018 23:57

Most of all I hope OP and Mr Pug are cosied up together and feeling safe. And that BabyPug has only love and support in his/her future

Isayeichnotheich · 07/05/2018 00:24

OP, how come your DHs first reaction was that he was devastated, because your FIL was his idol or something to that effect?
And then you say he doesn't have a particularly close relationship with your MIL because she never stood up for him when his F treated him poorly? 🤔

If the situation is true, I'm as gobsmacked as everyone that such people exist. You ordered the glass to be delivered straight to PILs, didn't you?

DebHam · 07/05/2018 00:28

No secrets from DH. Maybe go very low contact for a year or two. Mil sounds like a manipulator. :(

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 07/05/2018 00:48

Everyone is not gobsmacked though. Several posters have real understanding of the situation because they too have parents or ILs like this.

Jux · 07/05/2018 01:17

No. They're not gobsmacked that such people exist. A lot of people have all too much first-hand experience of people like this.

Vis a vis the paradox of dh's feelings for fil and mil and their close/not close relationship: much of it is, or has been, subconscious. It is not at all unusual for someone to idolise a person who treats them badly, to crave their affection or approval, without really noticing that that's what they're doing. As for being treated poorly, well if it's always been like that, if you've grown up with it, then it's normal until you start noticing that actually, it's not normal at all. Many people don't notice that the general idea of normal is different to theirs when they form a close relationship and experience it.

LoviisaFuria · 07/05/2018 06:25

This thread has just been mentioned on the radio.

OuaisMaisBon · 07/05/2018 06:27

Which station, LoviisaFuria? Bank Holiday Slow News Day?

Housewife2010 · 07/05/2018 07:44

It's on the DM website.

Katyb121 · 07/05/2018 08:01

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Idontdowindows · 07/05/2018 08:11

If the situation is true, I'm as gobsmacked as everyone that such people exist.

Just to echo recent PPs, if you're gobsmacked it just means you have no experience with narcisists and their enablers. Or just plain arseholes and their enablers.

Many of us do. My father's parents come to mind. My father always took my mother's side and it led to many many years of going no contact, off and on.

I was a child at the time, but even very young I realised how toxic my grandparents were.

Snugglywithmycat17 · 07/05/2018 08:26

I couldn’t help myself but at least read the Facebook comments from mil.
Surely reading but not replying will make them stew more?

WitchDancer · 07/05/2018 09:29

Oh dear, this is all over Facebook now 😔

BrashCandicoot · 07/05/2018 09:31

Mnhq regularly post trending threads from AIBU on their Facebook page. That’s nothing new, and hardly worth handwringing over.

GnotherGnu · 07/05/2018 09:41

What is MiL saying on FB?