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Overheard my cousin say “We asked <my name> she daren't say no :(

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cocktailsausages · 02/05/2018 13:06

As above. My cousin asked me to help her move, no petrol money offered, not even a bed for the night as she wants to spend first night in new home with her partner alone. I said yes and here I am, worked all morning, soaking wet, was waiting for her in the car outside to follow her to new place, she didn’t come out so I went back in her hall and heard on say on the phone to someone that she’d asked me to move her because I daren’t say no to her.

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used.

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zzzzz · 04/05/2018 07:20

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Earthakitty · 04/05/2018 08:13

Get straight back in your car and go home.
Don't bother with her ever again.
You need to surround yourself with good loyal and kind people....not users.....family or otherwise.

DevilsDoorbell · 04/05/2018 08:26

Well done for starting to say no. Personally I would have got wet unloading the car but I can see why you didn’t and doing what you did was a massive 1st step for you.

CasanovaFrankenstein · 04/05/2018 10:29

Well done OP!

ralfeesmum · 04/05/2018 10:56

What an arrogant Madam! Daren't say no? Well, it's time for her to find out the hard way, is it not......?

And maybe it's also time for her to become acquainted with the words "goodbye - for good!"

yorkrose · 04/05/2018 12:03

Givemeyourbadge
I laughed so much at your comment I snorted!

Op you're such a lovely person. For years I was like you and have only just managed to say no. It's really hard to say no and then you feel really guilty. I know it hurts but at least you'll be saying no to decorating!

KM99 · 04/05/2018 13:48

Dump her stuff on the pavement. Write a post-it saying "I dared" and drive away.

AnneProtheroe · 04/05/2018 14:21

@Letmeoff good spot! Grin

Bashun · 04/05/2018 14:44

Don't go home, that's just stupid and petty. Instead, wait until she gets off the phone and confront her about what she said. Take it from there. Running away and leaving her things there Etc etc would make you a coward and a liar since YOU made a commitment. Your word should be your bond. I would demand gas money however, good luck. Don't be afraid to confront.

Letmeoff · 04/05/2018 14:54

@zzzzz
Not other people’s - it is same OP 🤔Hmm

Bashun · 04/05/2018 14:57

Amen! That dumping stuff off the side of the road nonsense is for people that are alone, don't value their blood (family) and will only be Loved and mourned by their 17 cats. Be a grown up woman. Confront the situation. Let them know what you heard and how it makes you feel. Show the grace and class that others lack and whatever you do DO NOT listen to people that aren't in your family on what to do with your family members property! This could lead to more problems with other family members. Stand up for yourself but don't lower youself to The gutter level, like your cousin and call it empowerment

Chris39 · 04/05/2018 16:02

Unload the car, say you have to go and go. I wouldn't confront her as she sounds like the kind of person who'll recount the story putting you in the wrong. However you mustn't do her any more favours however much your instinct is to be helpful. People like her end up lonely. Also the person she was showing off to on the phone, will, on some level will be thinking how mean she is.

lhastingsmua · 04/05/2018 16:09

I would have confronted her at the time tbh. I know that has passed now though, but you should definitely ask her for petrol money. You made a 2 hour round trip complete with waiting around and bitchy comments for someone who doesn’t even value you.

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cocktailsausages · 05/05/2018 11:45

Gosh yes I do have a problem will MIL, not sure why it matters! But I can assure you letmeoff that some members of my family are lovely. I have just had my sister to stay for s few days and she didn’t cause any trouble at all 😂

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cocktailsausages · 05/05/2018 11:50

Haven’t heard anything from cousin but my sister tells me cousin had a big fall out with her brother because he said the only time she contacted him was when she wanted something, so it’s not just me that she used.

Also, her brother has a van. He could have done the move incredibly easily. So it looks like cousin has taken advantage once too often and it has come back to bite her.

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Smeddum · 05/05/2018 11:51

So it looks like cousin has taken advantage once too often and it has come back to bite her

Between that and the fact you didn’t fall for her shit, I hope she’s learned her lesson and treats people with a bit more respect and good manners from now on!

notapizzaeater · 05/05/2018 11:56

Good let's hope she learns fro. This, though I doubt it

velvetroses · 15/05/2018 18:46

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Deejay25 · 26/05/2018 13:00

OP have you spoken to your cousin yet? Maybe told her what you heard?

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