Overheard my cousin say “We asked <my name> she daren't say no :(

[cocktailsausages]

As above. My cousin asked me to help her move, no petrol money offered, not even a bed for the night as she wants to spend first night in new home with her partner alone. I said yes and here I am, worked all morning, soaking wet, was waiting for her in the car outside to follow her to new place, she didn’t come out so I went back in her hall and heard on say on the phone to someone that she’d asked me to move her because I daren’t say no to her.

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used.

troodie is onto something there!!

BTW OP can you think of any reason why she would have treated you this way?

f) But I gave you the privilege of helping me! You're so ungrateful.

g) but that's what family is for!

troodie

Evens at best :o

"Shame when people let you down, at least I know who my friends are now....."
"Whats up hun?"
"PM you...."

Post her the kettle but don't put any stamps on?

Oh hang on - facebook status ideas - how about "you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family - they just let you down" sad face etc?!

Post her the kettle but don't put any stamps on?

Stuff like this is why I fucking love MN

StaplesCorner

My money is on yours, better than mine!

it occurred to me on the way that her asking me to stay at the old place to hand over keys, do meter reading etc. was ridiculous

She asked you to do whaaaaaat???????

Cheeky cheeky cheeky fucking bitch!!! And I am willing to bet a pound to a penny that she has never done anything similar for you OP......

Anymore anyone?

"you misunderstood"
"I didn't mean it the way you took it"

🎉🎉
Glad you got to make your own decisions and go home. Enjoy the shower/bath after the dirt and hauling.

Yes - I agree you should probably be prepared for kick-back as posters have itemised above.

Just stick to your story that you were unable to stay longer and don't argue or elaborate on anything at all. Stuck record, firmly applied.

You owe nothing.

I don’t know why she said that. It’s obviously what she thinks of me but that makes her a nasty person. Why would she tell someone that unless that someone was also in on the “joke” about me?

I am a people pleaser. My mother used to volunteer me for stuff all the time and I’d go through with it because the person was expecting it then. But I’ve discussed this with my cousin before. She obviously saw “sucker” written on my forehead instead of having any empathy.

Oh well, she’s lost her helper now.

go girl, feel your new power!

That's so mean and disrespectful of her :( at least you know what she's really like now

Yay! cocktail dared to say no!

Cora I can’t think of one occasion where she has helped me out. The fact this has never occurred to me until now speaks volumes.

My mother used to volunteer me for stuff all the time Recognise that one. You need to learn when not to volunteer too, but you end up having to find that one out for yourself.

And Uncousin her on facebook :)

So, did you hang on to the lead?

Just drive home with the stuff. Cf has to pay with a fancy meal or a few bottles of wine as a thank you

Well done!

Good work OP

I really hope the kettle is on the inventory of the old flat...