Overheard my cousin say “We asked <my name> she daren't say no :(

[cocktailsausages]

As above. My cousin asked me to help her move, no petrol money offered, not even a bed for the night as she wants to spend first night in new home with her partner alone. I said yes and here I am, worked all morning, soaking wet, was waiting for her in the car outside to follow her to new place, she didn’t come out so I went back in her hall and heard on say on the phone to someone that she’d asked me to move her because I daren’t say no to her.

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used.

@Isetan Ouch. I say this WRT the OP, and to myself (another people-pleaser, now sobbing after another day of pleasing others).

Well done OP, you’ve struck a blow for people pleasers everywhere! If I were you I’d leave it at that, no need for cryptic Facebook statuses or anything, however if she does ask why you buggered off, I love the response that ‘something and up and you dared not say no’!

Well done you! My partner always tells me off for always doing things for others and putting myself last. He absolutely hates it but I'd rather just keep the peace. Enjoy your wine!

I do hope that she at least has the courtesy to text and say thank you.

Woa cocktail, I feel your power!
I like the new you.
Enjoy.

Personally I wouldn't bother telling her if it was me. I'd just stop doing anything like a favour for her ever again.

Did you hand the kettle over? I would have 'forgotten' that was on my seat. Also pleae text her and tells you what petrol money she owes you. What a cow!

if she asks you why you didn't come back, just tell her something came up that you daredn't say no to

😂

Well, since you didn't walk out, I would at least tell her. Something like "be sure I will dare next time so don't bother asking"

Well done OP! Very pleased. :)

What was in all those messages she sent you whilst you were driving?
Be very tempted to send one back saying:
Overheard what you said on the phone to your friend.
Hard to hear what you really think of me but now I know.
I don't expect thanks, a bunch of flowers or petrol money for today
A little respect would have been nice.

Has she contacted you to thank you yet?

@cocktailsausages did you contact you?

You did AMAZING

if she asks you why you didn't come back, just tell her something came up that you daredn't say no to

Brilliant

Good for you OP. No need to explain anything to your cousin if you don't want to. You took a day off, you paid for petrol, you have left her stuff safely with her partner. End of favours.

Hi all. No contact and I didn’t contact her.

Jamiefraserskilt the messages were asking where I was. I sat round the corner from her place for a while before setting off and stopped enroute to read them (and catch up on this thread lol!) so was later than she thought to the new place. She just wanted progress reports but I didn’t reply.

I like your message to her. If I do get in touch I will send that but right now I can’t be bothered to respond to her if she replied so I’m keeping quiet.

Hi OP well done. Hope you had enough left of your day off to have a little relaxation too.

Never ever ever help her again! That’s just horrible!

Well unless you unload the car and drive away, she's right.

You should confront her before you drive off. What if you got the wrong end of the stick?

I love the response that ‘something and up and you dared not say no’!

Brilliant!

How unpleasant for you . But at least you know now how she views you and you can act accordingly.

Have words, no is a very important word, please use it from now on, when no one will help her lesson learnt.

Why are you saying yes to everything as you say yourself? Just dump the stuff and go and don’t help again.