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Overheard my cousin say “We asked <my name> she daren't say no :(

394 replies

cocktailsausages · 02/05/2018 13:06

As above. My cousin asked me to help her move, no petrol money offered, not even a bed for the night as she wants to spend first night in new home with her partner alone. I said yes and here I am, worked all morning, soaking wet, was waiting for her in the car outside to follow her to new place, she didn’t come out so I went back in her hall and heard on say on the phone to someone that she’d asked me to move her because I daren’t say no to her.

I always help out when I can, I’ve taken a day off and driven a long way. Now I feel used.

OP posts:
Returnofthesmileybar · 02/05/2018 13:12

You are already wet, you can be wet and have your pride and you can be wet and a total fucking mug who has allowed herself to be treated like sucker, I know which I would rather

pitterpatterrain · 02/05/2018 13:12

That’s rough

Also feeling used at the moment - and a bit naive. Apparently I need to bring my inner psychopath to work otherwise I am too nice

Don’t be too nice Sad

Aprilmightbemynewname · 02/05/2018 13:13

Is there anything on board your car that comes with 'fittings' (screws etc)? Shame if they went missing....

Original poster
cocktailsausages · 02/05/2018 13:13

Is it illegal if I drive off with her stuff? I dont want her stuff though.

OP posts:
Pidlan · 02/05/2018 13:13

I'd take it to the new place, dump it on the path and tell her you'll send her a bill for you time and petrol. And then when she looks shocked I'd say, "Don't you dare say no, now!"

Thebluedog · 02/05/2018 13:13

Unpack all the stuff, doesn’t matter if you get wet, if she asks what you’re doing tell her you heard what she said and now you are saying no! Go home, open a bottle of wine and feel pleased that you’ve stood up for yourself

Louislovesmud · 02/05/2018 13:13

Why on God's earth are you still there? Either unpack or don't (and your cf cousin can collect it from yours) OR if you won't leave, which you should, tell her she owes you petrol money and you won't be helping her again

viques · 02/05/2018 13:13

Say you don't have enough petrol for the journey to the new house so could she give you your petrol money in cash so you can go to the garage and fill up. Oh, and a bit extra so you can buy your lunch and a coffee while you are there.

If she says no then I'm afraid it is time for the emergency phone call from work.........does she want the stuff left on the pavement or will they carry it back in the house, so sorry you can't stop to help.

thecatsthecats · 02/05/2018 13:14

She thinks you wouldn't dare act out of line with her.

Either prove her wrong or carry on helping her. We can't decide which for you.

FASH84 · 02/05/2018 13:14

Dump it all outside and go home, treat yourself to a nice hot coffee or something to warm up. She's horrid.

Takfujuimoto · 02/05/2018 13:14

Just unpack her shit and leave, she obviously thinks you're a wet blanket, prove her wrong.

Ungrateful cow.

BakedBeans47 · 02/05/2018 13:15

Chuck the stuff into her front garden.

You sound lovely OP don’t let her take the piss x

Louislovesmud · 02/05/2018 13:15

Tbh, you'll have to unpack it either way at some point so you might as well do it now and enjoy the rest of your day off

Kidssendingmenuts · 02/05/2018 13:15

Take to new place, say you have to go as you have an emergency and leave. Stuff the cow! X

midsummabreak · 02/05/2018 13:15

tell her you are very surprised at her comment.

Then ask her to kindly assist you to unload her things from your car.
Do not engage in any bullshit excuses from her. Just tepeat how surprised you are to hear what she said and how ahe views you
Once car unloaded, leave
Its worth getting wet to stand your ground and claim back respect.

FrizzyNoodles · 02/05/2018 13:15

Get her stuff out onto the pavement and drive away. Ignore any messages or calls.

Inertia · 02/05/2018 13:15

That's horrible, what a nasty user your cousin is.

She'd have to start doing some serious apologising if it were me- there is nothing to stop you unpacking all her stuff out of your car and driving off. It'd be a lot quicker to unpack than pack.

And I would never, ever offer to help her with anything ever again.

anonymousbird · 02/05/2018 13:18

Unload as quickly as you can onto the pavement and leave.

Outrageously rude. Let us know OP.

RunningAwayFromLife · 02/05/2018 13:18

Take yourself off for a nice long lunch and let her fret over where you are.

Then when you turn up, just tell her that you heard what she said about you and she can unload it all herself.
Then just sit in the car and wait.
If she doesn't do it then drive home.

Do not back down or you'll be seen as the wet blanket walk over forever!

RomeoBunny · 02/05/2018 13:18

Leave it on the pavement and tell her she's a cheeky cunt.

SandyY2K · 02/05/2018 13:18

Well now you know she thinks you're scared of her...you don't ever have to do her a favour again.

ScreenQueen · 02/05/2018 13:19

She's horrible. You're lovely OP I'd unpack her stuff sow and tell her another priority came up that you "daren't say no" to. Quick exit.

SandyY2K · 02/05/2018 13:19

Tell her you're back is hurting...recline your car seat and let her unpack and leave.

zzzzz · 02/05/2018 13:20

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TorviBrightspear · 02/05/2018 13:20

Unpack her stuff and leave.

BTW, if she's moving in with her partner, where are they? Are they helping?

Or is it just you? If so, you are being treated as a mug. And she will never help you out either.