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To think it's impossible to make some homes nice?

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InteriorDespairer · 01/05/2018 12:52

I've recently begun trying to make my home a bit nicer- I live in a tiny one bedroom flat with a balcony with my DH, and try as I might to make it actually a nice place to be, it's beginning to feel like an exercise in futility.

Let's start with the bathroom. It has no windows, and a tiled floor- the builders did a crappy job of grouting the tiles, it comes out in huge chunks so there are loads of gaps, and there is some on the tiles which I just haven't been able to shift which means parts of the floor just always look dirty. The tiles are grey with a sort of grainy texture to them. It's a tiny room with no storage at all, I bought this little floor tidy to put things in as it was about the only thing that would fit, but the room still manages to look cluttered. One of the light fittings has never worked either.

We have a combined kitchen/sitting room with wooden floors which were poorly fitted so in winter/when its cold you can't move an inch without them creaking like crazy. The washing machine makes so much noise at times it's pointless trying to watch TV or pay attention to anything else.

We have floor-to-ceiling windows with no windowsills and cheap vertical blinds like these. Same in the bedroom. All the windows are south facing and the blinds are practically transparent so on sunny days it gets absurdly hot.

The furniture - DH bought the place before we got together and furnished it like a typical cash-strapped bachelor with chunky black Ikea furniture as far as the eye can see, and the world's ugliest beige sofa. The black furniture shows up every speck of dust and fingerprint, so sometimes it feels like painting the Forth bridge trying to keep it looking nice! We do have a lovely bureau which I inherited when my GPs died but next to all the black Ikea stuff it just looks odd and out of place.

The bedroom - also tiny, we have a (chunky black Ikea) kingsize bed, a massive wardrobe (same again), chest of drawers in front of the window and a small bedside unit.

Hallway - essentially just an empty space, occasionally occupied by the clothes horse. Not enough room for any furniture.

The balcony - also pretty small with a glass wall, impossible to hang anything from (unless I use cable ties) because of the flat, roughly 2-inch wide rail along the inside. We don't tend to spend a great deal of time out there anyway because of the kids who play outside and scream their heads off until about 10 p.m. and our downstairs neighbours whose cigarette and weed smoke comes straight up at us.

I just don't know how to make it into a nice home. I keep it clean and tidy, have tried not to clutter it up with too much 'decorative' stuff but it's just never a particularly warm or inviting place to be. I can't afford to start replacing furniture, I did buy a throw for the sofa but because the sofa cushions don't even fucking fit it just looked messy.

Does anyone else feel like this about their home? Can anyone make any suggestions from how I might transform mine? It's getting thoroughly depressing at this point.

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MessySurfaces · 02/05/2018 20:32

Oh great work OP!

That's brilliant!
Looking forward to before and after pics tomorrow...

I'd put a bit less stuff on the bureau (ideally a plant)- could hang a few shelves above but not til you've stopped moving other things round.
In the dream world the TV would be on a cute little sideboard or something rather than that unit- but heck, it's already way cozier!
Is he back yet?? Xx

OohMavis · 02/05/2018 20:42

That's SO much nicer. I agree I'd have a nice pot plant and maybe a few colourful books with bookends on top of the desk and nothing else! What a difference already.

Hopefully he's back and not popping a blood vessel.

InteriorDespairer · 02/05/2018 20:59

He is back and not happy.

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PinkSkyAtNightAngelDelight · 02/05/2018 21:01

😕

InteriorDespairer · 02/05/2018 21:07

To be fair he’s calmed down quite a bit now. I think it was the shock... it does look quite different

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WipsGlitter · 02/05/2018 21:28

Exciting!! The tv bit looks better already! Did you try the bed facing the wardrobes?

PinkSkyAtNightAngelDelight · 02/05/2018 21:40

OP he needs to understand this is your home too.

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Fflamingo · 02/05/2018 22:37

If you took everything off the bureau and replaced it with a trailing plant in a black pot to tie it in with black furniture beside it. Maybe take the photo on wall and put it beside pot plant in black lean back frame.

Fflamingo · 02/05/2018 22:39

Move bureau to right so it is between tv table and wall.

drinkingwinefeelingfine · 02/05/2018 23:07

He's not happy?? I'd be asking him if he'd be happier living on his own.

RoseWhiteTips · 02/05/2018 23:30

Lol

MessySurfaces · 02/05/2018 23:40

espresso that is genius!
OP I'm totally on your side with this- it's been 5 years?!? But I do get that it's hard for your DH too, and he feels under attack. Gently gently...

Viviennemary · 02/05/2018 23:45

Some people do have the knack of making a fairly ordinary or even a not that great house look really welcoming and nice to be in. Sounds like the black furniture needs to be painted a paler colour as it's too stark.

AmericanEskimoDoge · 03/05/2018 00:06

I agree with those who've said that it really doesn't look so bad-- not nearly as dreary as I was picturing from your OP. It just doesn't have a particularly warm feeling, which could be remedied as so many others have said.

I'm in the camp that thinks more "stuff" might actually help. A throw, a couple more (colorful) cushions, a pouffe, different wall art/shelves, curtains/different blinds, a rug-- just a few small tweaks as and when you can afford them.

Your home doesn't look that cluttered to me, but I think a certain amount of so-called "clutter" is to be desired. Better a little "clutter" than a space that feels cold and clinical.

It seems like your husband needs to come to terms with the fact that you should get more of a say in what your home looks like. Maybe it'll be better when you find a new place and decorate it together from the very beginning, but in the meantime, he ought to accept that this is no longer just "his place" and it hasn't been for a while, if you've been living together for five years! He shouldn't take it as a personal insult that you have your own decorating tastes and unless he's the one responsible for keeping the floors clean, it's ridiculous that he won't "let" you have a rug or two!

Good luck getting him to see the light!

AmericanEskimoDoge · 03/05/2018 00:09

Forgot to say before, but the changes you've made look great! Improvements, for sure!

Jaynesworld · 03/05/2018 08:30

Here is a very similar kitchen style with a black and white theme.

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InteriorDespairer · 03/05/2018 10:58

Sitting room before/after- decided to take a leaf out of my DMs book and angle the tv unit in the corner

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Fflamingo · 03/05/2018 11:00

One disadvantage is the wood doors which break up the wall space making the room bitty ,don't think there is anything you can do about that as they are new looking doors.

InteriorDespairer · 03/05/2018 11:04

Hallway before/after- I swapped the LA skyline picture with the London one that we originally had in the bedroom

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InteriorDespairer · 03/05/2018 11:19

Sofa/bit where the dining table used to be

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InteriorDespairer · 03/05/2018 11:20

Above pics are in the wrong order- the middle one is the before photo

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Knittedfairies · 03/05/2018 11:38

It doesn’t look quite as bad as you made it sound! I think the two DVD towers don’t help; if you have to keep them, maybe you could put them side by side in the corner so it doesn’t look like rugby goalposts. I think do need to inject some colour with a rug, curtains, a throw on that sofa and some cushions, and a big green plant to soften the lines. Apart from the teapots it’s a very masculine/studenty look.
Please spend your JL vouchers now!

Jaynesworld · 03/05/2018 11:46

Much better Smile

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