Daddy and daughter date nights?

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How long has this been a thing? An advert for a local Daddy daughter date night has just popped up on my Facebook. Seems a bit bizarre.

ps I like to think that he shows them how to expect to be treated by behaving like a respecting considerate partner day to day. No need to go on a "date" (yew) to teach that.

Yes exactly. Let your children see how you should treat your partner/be treated by your partner by treating your own partner the right way

My dp and dd used to sneak out early on Saturday mornings and go swimming and have breakfast. It was lovely.

But not a “date”. All that “my heart belongs to daddy” “ silver ring thing” crap. Ugh.

And children learn about relationships by watching the one their parents model.

Yeah not sure on the wording there.

But my dad was very busy when I was growing up. But a couple of times a year he would take me out to dinner just him and I.

My mum would let me get a new outfit and my dad would let me choose where we went and what I had.

I always loved it.

I loved going places with my dad as a child and I still do have a lovely time meeting up with him for coffee or dinner. But it was never about him trying to show me how a future husband should treat me, because he didn't feel he owned me, had the final say on what a relationship should look like, he didn't assume I'd want to get married or even be heterosexual as an adult. It was just a parent and child enjoying each other's company. I can't imagine the level of cringe if he was doing all of this old fashioned dating behaviour as if he was a suitor and not my parent. And as a teenager he fully embraced me dating whoever I liked (I won't use the word 'allowed' because that implies he had to give permission).

Seriously gross! I think a lot of people must just see it as a cute parent child thing and not bother to look beneath to hood to see what they're showing and teaching their daughters with this.

You know when you don’t want to click on thread because just the title alone sounds grim, but you just have to, to see if what you’re about to read really can be real....

Grim

But not a “date”. All that “my heart belongs to daddy” “ silver ring thing” crap. Ugh.

And even better, 'heart' is a euphemism. They mean vagina. They just can't say it.

I'm really heartened by the majority of the thread realising and agreeing with his gross this is!

How sad that these girls need to go on a date night with their dad to find out how hey should be treated by men

Clearly their father doesn't model being a decent husband and father sufficiently that the daughter already knows

This.

Eww what a grim phrase!

I used to go out for dinner and to the cinema with my Step Dad though, which probably seems weird but Mum didn't usually want to see the film 😂 I have fond memories of seeing the Iron Giant in the cinema with him!

Sounds creepy to me. Dad and daughter can go out together without pretending it's a 'date'.

Creepy AF

Its a weird american idea amongst conservative (small c) groups that a father is supposed to take his daughter out and show her what to expect from a man.

Weird and controlling.

Fathers spending quality time with their daughters in general however, not weird.

I don't think that's remotely weird Stephisaur! It should be completely normal for children of whatever gender to go out and spend time with either parent. It's lovely. It only starts to sound weird when you add these weird sexual overlays about dating and modelling gender stereotypes to your daughter.

Would the father also have a ‘date night’ with his son I wonder??
I suspect not.

More wankery.

My SiL is American and she uses "date" for all sort of prearranged meetings - dinner dates, dates with friends, playdates, a date with the dentist. Maybe it is more widely used over there so sounds wrong to us.

It's disgusting.

What's reasonable about implied incest?

And as the US poster suggests, it's a grooming process for the interaction between the daughter and other men. Yuck, eew, yuck, no

I use date to mean an appointment - not just a romantic meeting

But the fact that dads are clearly expected to spend so little quality time with their kids that they have to schedule dates is pretty disgusting

And that's before we get to the conservative Christian angle

It’s the ‘date’ part I find creepy.

All the purity stuff and concept of being owned then given away is revolting.

I think date is very very wrong for any parent and child. And I don't like the term play dates either.

A date is when two people meet to (potentially) have a relationship. Its not even been used historically for a group meeting of friends. Its (at best) pretentious.

I agree with what others say if it will only be used in context of Mother/Son and Father/Daughter and not for siblings of the opposite gender - then it ain't pretentious, or American, it's just plain creepy.

I guess for for dads who don't live with their kids its nice... but yes no need to call it a 'date'.

@WalkingOnAFlashlightBeam provides pretty interesting insight and basically says it much better than me which would be just “EURGH WEIRD”

No, Dave - the last thing I want is my children dying of a long, painful illness with no cure, or in a horrific accident.

Getting knocked up in a state school is nothing in comparison.

There are sexual overtones to the word date hence it seems icky.