AIBU to wash my friend's DD's coat?

[anniemagoo]

My friend's DD comes for tea every week after school. She's been wearing the same white coat all winter. And every week the coat is looking filthier and filthier. I have no idea why my friend lets her walk around like it.

Every week that coat hangs on my bannister while she's here and I keep looking at it thinking I could just pop it in my washing machine. But I resist because it's not my place.

Well she forgot to take it home today. I texted my friend and she said don't worry she'll pick it up sometime when passing.

So now I'm looking at it thinking should I just pop it in my machine? Or is that out of order.

Sorry if I sound judgy. I'm not normally.

Ha, me too

And who would have thought we could spent 18 pages discussing one little (now very clean) white coat.

Blimey, just finished this thread, so glad you washed the coat. Have to say, if someone washed my son's coat I definitely wouldn't be offended.

What did the friend say?

She hasn't picked it up yet.

It's really not like giving someone else's child a haircut.

posting out of outcome curiosity.

I’d have washed it too.
We wash things at school that come in grubby and don’t get washed at home...can’t stand seeing kids in dirty stuff -so we just chuck it in the machine and say oh they fell in the garden sorry. But we’ve washed it clean now.

We do nails too if the parents haven’t bothered.

I once washed a dirty car seat cover when a friend left her car seat at mine. She said you really are a Monica aren’t you....did the candle wax come off?!

AIBU to fecking love this thread ?!

Oh the drama, she hasn’t picked up the coat yet, even better!

I kinda hope she reads this, has a good giggle, then turns up with a huge bag of laundry and an innocent smile:)

What I find amazing is the amount of people that think it’s ok to let there kids walk around like scruff bags in dirty coats

We do nails too if the parents haven’t bothered

Seriously, that is a bloody cheek!

It doesn't matter what YOU think about the state of a child's coat or their nails or whatever, it's not your place to decide to wash another child's coat or deal with anything that's none of your bloody business.
I'm surprised some of you haven't had an irate parent berate you.

I'm surprised some of you haven't had an irate parent berate you.

Maybe because most people aren’t quite so indignant and highly strung as your post would suggest you are Gottagetmoving*!

Honestly, sometimes I misjudged the juggle of house/kid/full time work and stuff doesn't get done. I'm acutely aware of it and feel pretty useless about it, so I would be mortified if someone washed my kids coat. Maybe that's my problem only, but it's how I would feel. Just my tuppence worth

Has the coat been collected?

I'm guessing the mum was pissed off, or the OP would have reported back?

Sorry. I just realised I forgot to update on what happened.

So I gave the coat back to my friend and her eyes went wide and she said “you’ve washed it! You didn’t need to do that! Mind you it did need a wash!” Embarrassed face.

So I said that it’d ended up on the floor and the dog had got on it.

Her DD then said “you must be very good at washing because my mummy washed it and couldn’t get the stains out”

My friend then looked even more embarrassed because it was obvious no attempt at washing had ever been made.

I then made a comment about it being the summer now so the coat won’t be needed now anyway and then changed the subject and all was fine.

I now feel a bit bad because it was obvious that she felt she should have washed it herself. But then if that’s the case she should have done it. (It washed and tumble dried really well. It was all done in about 1.5 hours)

It will be interesting to see if it gets washed next winter.....

Cringe

I find this strange, why the excuses? If it was one of my friends I'd have just called her and said I'm putting on a white wash, shall I shove XX's coat in there as well? That's not offensive, and you are mates after all.
Or maybe I just have easy going friends.