AIBU to wash my friend's DD's coat?

[anniemagoo]

My friend's DD comes for tea every week after school. She's been wearing the same white coat all winter. And every week the coat is looking filthier and filthier. I have no idea why my friend lets her walk around like it.

Every week that coat hangs on my bannister while she's here and I keep looking at it thinking I could just pop it in my washing machine. But I resist because it's not my place.

Well she forgot to take it home today. I texted my friend and she said don't worry she'll pick it up sometime when passing.

So now I'm looking at it thinking should I just pop it in my machine? Or is that out of order.

Sorry if I sound judgy. I'm not normally.

crunchtime

I did note the word necessarily, which was why I quoted that word from the website, to you, the person who attempted to say dirt = neglect without the caveat that, hold on, wait a moment, no it doesn't.

crunchtime

I'm not here to talk about my clothes. If I did wear a dirty coat, I wouldn't say doing so was 'wrong'.

I think “Wash the coat” will be the new “Cancel the cheque” :o

Pengggwn Considering you think it’s acceptable to send kids out in dirty clothes I’d hate to see the state of your kids coats! Why else would someone be sticking up for people that can’t be bothered to wash there kids coats!

I've left stuff at my friends house and she's left stuff here. We always wash them before returning, I honestly thought most people did that. We definitely aren't trying out bloody clean each other.

OreoMini

What I want to say to you is against Talk Guidelines, so I won't bother replying to you again.

I'm not here to talk about my clothes. If I did wear a dirty coat, I wouldn't say doing so was 'wrong'.

So presumably you would actually do it, then

I am sorry-but allowing your children to walk around in filthy clothes IS wrong!

Youre not sorry, you're a judgemental harpy, and you don't get to decide what is wrong and what isn't.

TheDowagerCuntess

I didn't say that either, did it?

Pengggwn - 😂 Ok.

call me what you like
not keeping your children clean is wrong

I wouldn't be pissed off at all! I'd wash it too fwiw.

if the school are on their game then the coat will have been noticed and been made a note of by them

I would be very surprised if the school made a note of a grubby coat. No coat, yes. No lunch, yes. Bruises, too. White coat being not white? I hope they manage their time better than that.

As if the school give a shit about kids coats, let alone be making notes about it!

This thread is so ending up in the Daily Mail!

So long as it's not dry clean only; maybe your friend can't afford to get it dry cleaned and rewaterproofed if that's the case. Otherwise, I'd probably do it, but say it had something spilled on it after you'd spoken to her!

don't make up an excuse

just say "i was washing some coats/fleeces and it got scooped up with the others - hope you don't mind"

How would you feel if someone you were only friends with washed your dc’s coat, clothes???? If your answer is offended then do not wash it!!!!

FFS, leave the coat alone! God save us from interfering busybodies who think they set the standard!

It only looks grubby because it's white. If it was black you wouldn't have even noticed.
Dirty coats don't kill anybody!

I don't really see the problem with a dirty coat. I do wash coats but I don't do it often if they are waterproof.
When DC do forest school I tend not to wash their coats for the eight weeks they attend as the amount of washing needed would ruin the waterproofing. If they are really caked in mud then I hose them down but they do end up very grubby by the end of it. Their other clothes are clean, their shoes/wellingtons are clean, the children start the day clean. Why is a grubby coat such an issue?

Pengggwn did your Dd happen to leave a coat at their friends house yesterday?

Asking for a friend.

I can't get over someone buying a child a WHITE COAT 😨.it's asking for trouble.

don't make up an excuse

just say "i was washing some coats/fleeces and it got scooped up with the others - hope you don't mind"

That's also an excuse!

*don't make up an excuse

just say "i was washing some coats/fleeces and it got scooped up with the others - hope you don't mind*

The irony!