AIBU to wash my friend's DD's coat?

[anniemagoo]

My friend's DD comes for tea every week after school. She's been wearing the same white coat all winter. And every week the coat is looking filthier and filthier. I have no idea why my friend lets her walk around like it.

Every week that coat hangs on my bannister while she's here and I keep looking at it thinking I could just pop it in my washing machine. But I resist because it's not my place.

Well she forgot to take it home today. I texted my friend and she said don't worry she'll pick it up sometime when passing.

So now I'm looking at it thinking should I just pop it in my machine? Or is that out of order.

Sorry if I sound judgy. I'm not normally.

Giving too much info is the sign of a lie. I'd just wash it .If she asks just tell her it was trodden on.No need to go into cat/dog/DH

Late to the thread but I absolutely would wash it, no hesitation.

I'd rather the girl didn't walk around looking scruffy with the potential of being bullied for it, than offend her mum .

if you mean well and arnt being overly judgy and want to be kind to the girl and her mum then go for it.
and simply say it got something spilt on it or fell on floor and marked.
don't answer or come up with any other fluff just simple as that.
think no more of it or mention it again nor question why she left it unwashed.you did her a favour because you makred the coat.oh how nice of you.

I'd rather the girl didn't walk around looking scruffy with the potential of being bullied for it, than offend her mum

Hmm,...washing the coat is of course not imposing your will on a friend? No bullying there then?!
You do know you would then have to offer to wash all the girls clothes forever to make sure she didn't get bullied? I doubt one coat wash would be a permanent bully deterrent 😂

Would you wash an adults coat if they left it in your house?

If it was manky, maybe.

No bullying there then?!

To the adult who won't/can't wash their child's dirty white coat? Don't be silly.

I doubt one coat wash would be a permanent bully deterrent

Me neither, but as Tesco say, every little helps

I'd rather the girl didn't walk around looking scruffy with the potential of being bullied for it, than offend her mum .

There’s absolutely no suggestion that the child was being bullied about her coat.

I think zzzz makes an excellent point, you wouldn’t wash an adult’s coat.

There’s absolutely no suggestion that the child was being bullied about her coat.

I made absolutely no suggestion the child is being bullied, hence the word "potential" being used.

I'd be chuffed if a friend washed my children's coats as it's something I rarely get round to do it!

It's a friend so shouldn't be a problem but then may be I've just got nice friends!!!

Hair cutting I'd draw the line at.

Ok Gorgeous but you can’t make decisions about how other people’s children are presented on the basis that you think they might be bullied for it.

If a visiting child has a wonkily cut fringe you wouldn’t trim it would you?

coots with zzz great minds!

“Coots” x-post obviously.

I was that kid, AmazingPostVoices, dirty sleeves for weeks on my coat and holes in my shoes (top AND underneath).

Was mentioned at school by others, yes.

It's awful, believe me. So yes, I'd wash it every single time I could.

I love it when people wash my clothes. I went straight from work to a friend's house to get ready to go out, I got ink on my cardi that day at work. In my haste packing up my things I left the cardi and a dress behind. Friend text me next day to say they were there, I collected the following weekend (girls night in), she'd washed and ironed them and got rid of the ink stain! I love her. I insisted on paying for our takeaway that night

I also think @zzzz makes a good point...'would you wash an adult's coat?' I have to say, if i left my coat somewhere and it was washed i'd be 'wtf?'.

Do you know, the more i think about it, the more outrageous it seems. I have visions of the 50% of those here who wash anything in sight, being invited to my house for coffee and whilst there, stripping my bed and running it through the washing machine. I mean where does it stop?

stripping my bed and running it through the washing machine

Only if it was a bit whiffy

I hope the little girls mum doesn't mind OP

I was that kid, AmazingPostVoices, dirty sleeves for weeks on my coat and holes in my shoes (top AND underneath).

I’m very sorry to hear that Gorgeous but that’s not the situation here. The OP isn’t assisting an impoverished or neglected child.

She’s washing a coat that isn’t up to her standards.

I know that AmazingPostVoices, I've read the thread.

Just explaining my reasons for why I'd personally wash it

And BTW, I'd absolutely only do it if the child was the child of my friend, I wouldn't wash a random kid's coat who came for tea, even if I wanted to.

I'd love it if my friend washed something I'd left behind. As long as it wasn't damaged.

Wash it.

It’s been a very interesting thread Gorgeous.

This is the kind of thread that makes me love MN. You get a little window into how differently everyone’s minds work on funny little issues like this.