Did I overreact?

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I usually cook from scratch every day, which takes time and effort and my DH likes and eats the meals I cook. This weekend, I just wanted a break from it so I went and got an oven pizza and told him that I was doing it tonight but I am going to add toppings onto it and he said fine. He obviously was not listening!

So I did it, it took time to chop the veg, cook and season chicken to add on top of it! He came home and said have you cooked anything? and I said yes I cooked pizza like we agreed? and he said is that it? I said.. yes.. it's enough to feed us both! He came downstairs and I was waiting for him at the table then he said "I'm not having that, I don't fancy it! I don't like it..." I don't know what happened, I just got really upset and I threw it in the bin and said if you'd told me earlier when I bought it I could've just done something else! I went off to be on my own and he's not finding something to cook... horrible of me seeing as he's just been work!

I feel like I acted immaturely by doing that but I don't know why I felt upset by it because I always make an effort to cook and ensure food is ready for him but for some reason, I decide to just buy a pizza and he, all of a sudden doesn't fancy it! I ought to just go and help him cook but I don't know why I feel upset and irritated that he just couldn't accept that I haven't cooked for one poxy day.

Love your mum Mars! 😂😂😂😂😂

The only thing you are U about OP is that you got upset and guilty as your reaction. Rage and indignation should have been your reaction.

Your DH is an ignorant arse

@Trumpton That made me laugh out loud. I can just see the splattered dish and macaroni cheese down the path.

DH once turned his nose up at what I had cooked. Only once. The plate was grabbed from under his nose and scraped into the bin before he had chance to open his mouth.

She also once poured a glass of water over my brother's head when he annoyed her for a drink, he was about 5

WTF?

YABU for all the faffing with a shop bought pizza, for throwing it in the bin, and for thinking that one pizza between two with nothing else is enough (and for putting chicken on it)
DH WBU for being rude.

"What did your last slave die of?"

"You know where the kitchen is"

"If you don't like it you don't have to eat it" (of course one does not follow this one up by making him anymore food - it is eat it or starve)

All useful phrases taught to me by my mother when I was growing up. That and "if you are still hungry have an apple".

Next time - don't mess around on non-cooking night just hoof the pizza in the oven. If he moans you eat the pizza and let him get on with it. You can pick from any of my phrases above as the only conversation you intend to have on the matter.

How is one pizza not enough for two people??

There's no way I'd be able to eat more than half a pizza (with or without the fricking side salad!), and quite frankly I wouldn't expect to have to do anything more.

DH and I share the cooking - even when we're fighting. He has never ever once complained or said anything even slightly negative about anything I've cooked for him, and neither would I about anything he's cooked. Once I tried to make a cheese soufflé, and it was horrific - basically just scrambled eggs (which he hates) and he still manfully sat there and ate it and never said a bad word.

Actually once he did say a dish needed more salt....

Now I want pizza.

I'd have eaten the whole pizza. I can't eat a whole pizza by myself usually, but I'd have made an exception on this occasion. Fuck 'im.

I can't believe you didn't just sit and enjoy the pizza on your own (also can't believe you would do all the toppings yourself when you can buy them ready done- surely the point of a pizza) tell him to bigger off and make his meals in future, I'd be furious at him acting like a little kid!!
Absolutely no reason at all you should feel guilty you're his partner not his housekeeper

I do 99% of the cooking in our house cause I like it and I’m much better at it than he is. DP will comment if invited to do so, usually could do with more chilli…

But a yuck, or a I don’t fancy it, he knows what would happen. About 17 years ago I ironed a shirt for him as a favour and he critiqued my technique.

I have never ironed a single thing for him since; (or me) in fact I had to call him at work a few weeks ago and ask where the iron was.

Stop being a martyr. You’re not his skivvy

Is OP not coming back?

I always think the OP returns to status quo when they don't return.

Just out of interest Mars who cleaned up the mess in the garden?

How is one pizza not enough for two people??
I guess it depends what size and type it is. If it's a mega thick crust one then maybe (though I'd still want something else as a variety of textures) but I always go for thin crust ones and if you don't necessarily want to eat all the crusts then half a bog-standard one isn't enough as a main meal.

I don't know what happened

What happened was that you got fed up of being treated like his staff instead of his wife and that’s perfectly reasonable. Tell him he’s more than welcome to cook for himself or family to give you a break.

Plumsgalore😂😂😂😂 Im laughing at some of these comments

You overreacted by throwing the piazza out. But the rest is perfectly reasonable. You should have told him To make his own food then and eaten the whole pizza yourself while he watched.

I haven't rtft. But you were foolish to throw a whole pizza in the bin. How much tastier would it have been to say "Oh well, all for me. Yum"
Let him cook something himself

My oh used to insist on pizzas made from scratch made by me.He also would do the I don't fancy that when meals were served and I have thrown it all Inthe bin.Its hard to eat your own meal when the lump in your throat won't let you swallow when you're upset.
So yes OP I get it .But let him sort himself out now.
The above is my I have an ex.My non cooking days are pizza but my idea of extra topping I'd mozzarella and basil.

Dump him unless unless there is an immediate and extreme change in his attitude.

You'd dump your dh because he didn't want to eat something you'd cooked? That's pretty controlling, I've always believed adults can choose for themselves what goes into their bodies.

BarbarianMum i can only assume you are deliberately missing the point

I honestly think I am missing something here. If the OP doesn't want to do all the cooking she should stop doing it. If she wants the occadional night off she should have one. If her dh doesn't like what she's cooked she should stop caring - Im sure he can make himself a sandwich.

If her dh objects to any of that, then there's a problem.

BarbarianMum, OP discussed the meal with her husband. Reminded him of what was going to happen for that exact meal.

When she did what they had BOTH agree would happen for that meal, he threw a toddler strop because it wasn't to his liking.