Did I overreact?

[MilkyCoffeeAndSkinnySyrup]

I usually cook from scratch every day, which takes time and effort and my DH likes and eats the meals I cook. This weekend, I just wanted a break from it so I went and got an oven pizza and told him that I was doing it tonight but I am going to add toppings onto it and he said fine. He obviously was not listening!

So I did it, it took time to chop the veg, cook and season chicken to add on top of it! He came home and said have you cooked anything? and I said yes I cooked pizza like we agreed? and he said is that it? I said.. yes.. it's enough to feed us both! He came downstairs and I was waiting for him at the table then he said "I'm not having that, I don't fancy it! I don't like it..." I don't know what happened, I just got really upset and I threw it in the bin and said if you'd told me earlier when I bought it I could've just done something else! I went off to be on my own and he's not finding something to cook... horrible of me seeing as he's just been work!

I feel like I acted immaturely by doing that but I don't know why I felt upset by it because I always make an effort to cook and ensure food is ready for him but for some reason, I decide to just buy a pizza and he, all of a sudden doesn't fancy it! I ought to just go and help him cook but I don't know why I feel upset and irritated that he just couldn't accept that I haven't cooked for one poxy day.

Tell him to get a fucking take away!

I presume he gets weekends off work and you don't get weekends off cooking.

Some of the responses! It's like reading something from the 1950s at times. Gosh op, did you not provide a salad with it that you'd freshly picked from the garden that very afternoon. Tut tut, standards are slipping! If my dh didn't want the pizza I'd have eaten the lot myself and left him to sort himself out. Certainly wouldn't feel guilty I wasn't helping him make something else. Has he always been that incapable to look after himself? We have pizza once every couple of months or so, wedges and dip on the side. My dh would never ever ever ever complain at what I had made. It's food, he's hungry and not a demanding idiot.

My mom was a SAHM in the late 60s with two kids under 4. My Dad once complained about tea once too often, he threw his plate at the wall so my Mom calmly stabbed him in the stomach with a fork and walked out, leaving him with the kids for a few hours.

Possibly not the best reaction but he seems proud of her for it now, it's family folklore.

what year is this?

he doesnt fancy it he doesnt like it-is he 5? why are you pandering to someone like a slave

I still think it is funny how, for us, pizza is considered a real treat!

I wouldn’t even speak like that to my cook.

The correcCt response when handed food is ‘thank you’

My DP works 14 hour days and I stay at home. Once a week he has a frozen pizza for dinner (WITHOUT a side salad, shock horror) and doesn't waste away the poor lamb. In fact, it's his favourite meal of the week

You overreacted and he was an arse.

I’d have eaten the pizza myself and sat him down and explained you are not his bloody servant

Ginger McGrey - your dad threw the dinner at the wall as a 'complaint' about it?! Your mum's reaction was understated.

He sounds like an ungrateful twat. You should have done what Mars' mum did.

I think you aware that you're not immature, horrible, or being unreasonable here, OP.

Don't take pride in being a martyr.

Explain why he was rude and ungrateful, try to open up a discussion about your dynamic around dinner prep and the imbalance of power and gratitude.

I don't care if he works double shifts in the sewers without a lunch break, speaking to your wife like that is not OK, under any circumstances.

Tbh stabbing wasn't good either. Sounds like a very violent and volatile hoisehold

This is not about the pizza.

Why do you let yourself get treated this way?

TheWernethWife

Does no one work at the weekend then aye? No emergency services or shops, cafes, restaurants etc?

My husband wouldn’t dare say anything like that to me now.......we have always cooked together, my husband is a good cook, he likes cooking.

When we were younger, I used to always make his sandwiches for lunch. One time we have both been loaded with a heavy cold, and hadn’t managed to go shopping. There was only cheese in the house,so that’s what he got for his lunch, cheese sandwiches. He wasn’t very happy and proceeded to tell me so. I just sat there, never said a word.
Next day, he went to work with a bit of carpet on his sandwiches, and a note in his lunch box to say “bet you wished you had cheese today? make your own fucking sandwiches next time”
I’ve never made his sandwiches since!

Your not his servant, regardless if he had been at work. You cooked something, he had the nerve to turn his nose up at it... How entitled! He's acting like a spoilt child who doesn't like there meal, hoping if he fusses enough he will get something else. Shocking really! It's ok that he didn't want it, but he should have offered to cook something for you both himself, not act like a spoilt brat

Not I think you under reacted and have been for a long time

I agree with this.

You're not a fucking personal chef. He needs to have a word with himself.

Is this post a joke? No response from OP??

You were silly to throw it away, you should have just eaten it yourself. But it all feels a bit “try hard” to cook all your own pizza toppings if you wanted an easy meal - something doesn’t add up here for me

Are you his wife or his house maid? :/

@FlyingBird mwahaha, I'll try to drop that into conversation the next time it comes up!

She also once poured a glass of water over my brother's head when he annoyed her for a drink, he was about 5. It seems she doesn't lose her temper but does slightly scary things when provoked. I'm surprised she hasn't suffocated my Dad for snoring after 50 plus years together.

You should have told him if he didn't like it, it was his turn to cook. In fact, you can tell him that tonight.