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Original poster

To give this 12 year old toast and jam?

267 replies

listsandbudgets · 27/04/2018 16:27

DD has a friend home for tea. We nearly always have pasta on a Friday so tonight is pesto pasta, garlic bread and greek salad... I did ask her mum in advance if she had any dislikes or allergies and was told she wasn't keen on cheese but would eat anything else.

This girl now says she does not like ... pesto, pasta, garlic bread, pizza, salad (of any sort), cheese, rice, eggs, sausages, baked beans, baked potatos or tomato soup... running out of options of things to offer her... she's asked if we can just get something from the chippy or chinese and I've said no...

so AIBU to serve up toast, jam and an apple. and tell her mum that was all I could get her to eat?

OP posts:
CottonSock · 27/04/2018 16:44

Yes. Probably give her a portion without the pesto and feta if she doesn't like cheese

Original poster
listsandbudgets · 27/04/2018 16:45

Actually stupid of me not to think of pesto having cheese in it... told her she can have toast and jam and she's suddenly said "sorry to be a pain but do you think I could have plain pasta with some butter and ketchup"... now that I can do easily enough.

I think dd might have read her the riot act upstairs!

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Graphista · 27/04/2018 16:45

Honestly? She's at it!

I'd take her to one side and say if she REALLY doesn't like any of that you've no option but to give her PLAIN buttered toast and get her mum to get her early 'so she doesn't get too hungry and tired' Wink

Then watch her furiously back pedalling!

Fridasfridgefreezer · 27/04/2018 16:46

Pesto has cheese in, but I bet that kid doesn’t know that.

You’ve offered plenty. Toast it is then.

Original poster
listsandbudgets · 27/04/2018 16:47

(sorry meant to add I had made her a plain salad as knew she didn't like cheese)

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yikesanotherbooboo · 27/04/2018 16:47

Toast is fine. You have offered MANY more options than I would have. Number1 fallback is beans on toast and number2 is just the toast with whatever spread is available. The child is being awkward imho but even if she isn't you aren't a restaurant.

LoniceraJaponica · 27/04/2018 16:48

You can't taste the cheese in pesto. The overwhelming taste is of basil. I can understand that some people may not like it as it is an acquired taste.

I would go with the toast and jam option and let the mum know.

AmazingPostVoices · 27/04/2018 16:48

I bet she’s not getting a repeat invitation to dinner.

colditz · 27/04/2018 16:48

By 12, if a neurotypical child hasn't learned to at least TASTE what their host is serving without bitching about it, they are a lost cause. I'd ring her mother and ask that she be collected, please.

crunchymint · 27/04/2018 16:48

Kid is trying it on. What she means is she prefers fish and chips from the chippy or a chinese take away. As would many kids. Tough.

Graphista · 27/04/2018 16:49

Well done your dd.

And yes if my child had ever behaved like this - she'd have been read the riot act soon as she got home AND made to apologise to friend and mum and I'd apologise too.

To ask for a takeaway is beyond rude!

TomRavenscroft · 27/04/2018 16:49

Jesus Christ. You're way too accommodating. At my house the options would have been eat what's being served up or go home and eat there.

GooodMythicalMorning · 27/04/2018 16:49

At least that's better. It'll fill her more than the toast

colditz · 27/04/2018 16:50

Ahhh she's apologised for being a pest and asked for a simple version of dinner - now THAT is much better!

Original poster
listsandbudgets · 27/04/2018 16:50

If she wants takeaway, she'll have to come on the first or third Saturday of the month- they are usually takeaway night Grin

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missmillimentscardigan · 27/04/2018 16:51

That is hilarious to ask to get something from the takeaway! How incredibly rude. Yes, definitely just give her some toast.

ZX81user · 27/04/2018 16:51

I hesitate to say this, but in the past my dc have known people at whose houses I would not want to have eaten.Does your hygiene leave something to be desired?

usernamealreadytaken · 27/04/2018 16:51
Grin
colditz · 27/04/2018 16:52

I don't think she's trying it on.

I think she's unfamiliar with a lot of what you've offered her, and that's not her fault. It's really telling that she's gone straight to takeaway as something familiar.

Perhaps your DD has snarled "HAVE THE BLOODY PASTA WITH KETCHUP LIKE YOU HAVE IT AT SCHOOL!"

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 27/04/2018 16:52

The fact she's asking for something from the chippy/chinese totally says she's trying it on with you, so I'd be doing toast and jam at the most.

I bet if there's pudding she won't be fussy Wink

Weezol · 27/04/2018 16:52

I'm with Colditz on this one.

usernamealreadytaken · 27/04/2018 16:52

The grin was for OP, not the subsequent comments!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 27/04/2018 16:53

Can't believe the cheek of a kid asking you to get her a takeaway!

She'd be lucky to get toast and jam here - bread and water and a flea in her ear, more like.

converseandjeans · 27/04/2018 16:54

So much hatred for fussy eaters on MN!
I was going to suggest you offer plain pasta or say that toast and jam is fine for a Friday tea. Neither of mine will eat pasta with any sauce on & I would be upset if they got such a bad reaction from a parent who was hosting them. Surely it's no big deal to just offer plain pasta? What is so awful about not liking pesto sauce and greek salad?

HollowTalk · 27/04/2018 16:54

Not being funny, but this is such a non-issue. Would people really phone a 12 year old's mother to check whether it was OK if her daughter had a slice of toast?

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