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To give this 12 year old toast and jam?

267 replies

listsandbudgets · 27/04/2018 16:27

DD has a friend home for tea. We nearly always have pasta on a Friday so tonight is pesto pasta, garlic bread and greek salad... I did ask her mum in advance if she had any dislikes or allergies and was told she wasn't keen on cheese but would eat anything else.

This girl now says she does not like ... pesto, pasta, garlic bread, pizza, salad (of any sort), cheese, rice, eggs, sausages, baked beans, baked potatos or tomato soup... running out of options of things to offer her... she's asked if we can just get something from the chippy or chinese and I've said no...

so AIBU to serve up toast, jam and an apple. and tell her mum that was all I could get her to eat?

OP posts:
AmazingPostVoices · 28/04/2018 18:10

We know. And funnily enough, we don't enjoy being fussy. It's very limiting.

I never suggested that people either enjoyed it or did it deliberately Nanny

crunchymint · 28/04/2018 18:18

Some people do seem to enjoy it though.

Iceweasel · 28/04/2018 18:34

2 is not a preschooler. They are toddlers

and 10 month olds are not toddlers. They are babies.

I called my then 11 month old a toddler once he was walking. At two I called him a two year old. Calling a two year old a toddler just sounds odd to me.

stoneagemum · 28/04/2018 18:36

Asking from e a take away is cheeky to us as adults, in the teen mind she may of felt she ways being good by not asking the host to go to any extra trouble cooking and just order in?

RomeoBunny · 28/04/2018 18:37

A 2yr old is a toddler. They're a toddler until 3 imo.

crunchymint · 28/04/2018 18:39

Just googled it and apparently officially a toddler is aged from 1 to 3 years of age.
But I have heard people call under 1 year olds toddlers if they are actually walking

maygirl27 · 28/04/2018 18:42

Hmm... Sounds like a typical pre-teen try-on. Think you handled it well.

Pigflewpast · 28/04/2018 18:56

Even young children can rustle up a pesto sauce - only if they're strong enough to open the jar

SoupDragon · 28/04/2018 19:40

Even young children can rustle up a pesto sauce.

They’d struggle to do it without knowing the ingredients I imagine.

StAlphonzospancakebreakfast · 28/04/2018 19:52

Have you cancelled the cheese yet? Grin

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 28/04/2018 19:55

😂

Bigkingdom · 28/04/2018 20:06

My children are completely odd, they try to be fussy at home but go to their friends houses and eat whatever is put infront of them. Hmm

OhWotIsItThisTime · 28/04/2018 20:07

One of my ds has a friend over who refused everything except for grated cheese. Though he did ask me to pop to the local chippy as he would eat that.
When his dad turned up to collect him, the boy said I hadn’t offered him any food at all.

ktp100 · 28/04/2018 20:12

Anyone else thinking of that episode of Here Comes Honey BooBoo where they make the 'sketti' sauce out of butter and ketchup? Shock

PunkrockerGirl59 · 28/04/2018 20:17

even young children can rustle up a pesto sauce
This made my day Grin
I will inform the adult dc that buying jars of pesto sauce is just wrong and that clearly I massively failed them in their formative years.

Singadream · 29/04/2018 00:42

I never liked the food at my friend’s house when I went for tea as I was a fussy bugger (still am). They never put pressure on me to eat it and never offered me an alternative. I would wait until I went home then have a sandwich at home. So you are being very kind.

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 29/04/2018 08:37

angryburd I tried a new recipe out on the DC. When I'd omitted everything they wouldn't eat we were left with prawns and pasta. Hmm

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 29/04/2018 08:56

colditz DD retches if she smells greasy food. She's not doing it for effect. Hmm

Sprogletsmuvva · 29/04/2018 09:36

I think that children old enough to empathise may be more gracious about eating what they’re given if they pitch in with food prep/ clearing up.
When I was 13/14, I went on a camping weekend with school. Being the ‘80s, while there may have been a cursory mention of allergies, I’m pretty sure there was no invitation to cater to tastes, ideologies etc. Istr the minibus journey up there being spent us surrounded by boxes of cereal, tins etc.

Friday evening arrived late, went down the chippy.
Saturday we spent the whole day walking over the hills. We got back in the evening to the campsite , to be presented with a set of cooking gear and bunch of tins per tent, and basically told to get on with it.

Immediately of course the kvetching started. “I don’t really like carrots.” “That mince looks a bit rough.” “Can you leave the peas out of mine.”
Within a minute or so we realised that trying to cater for 4-5 people’s foibles was hopeless, agreed that we’ just dump all the tins’ contents in one pan, and that it was up to each person to sort out what they wanted to leave out from her own plate.

In the end, I don’t think anyone left much of anything...Grin

pollymere · 29/04/2018 09:37

My dd (12) doesn't like toast...she'd eat plain pasta though. She's not a fussy eater but she's not keen on anything mixed together.

colditz · 29/04/2018 13:16

I never said anyone was retching or gagging for effect, nevertheless, gagging and retching at food someone has made is AWFUL behaviour and every effort must be made to control it. It's deeply offensive and needs to not happen.

downinthejunglee · 29/04/2018 14:04

@colditz it's only awful behaviour if happening on purpose though surely? It's a natural reflex that mostly cannot be controlled. Why is it bad behaviour when you can't help it?

rinabean · 29/04/2018 14:21

colditz your behaviour is awful, deeply offensive and needs not to happen, because it's entirely voluntary and you have no excuse. You're also supposed to be an adult. No fussy eater, and particularly no fussy child, is as rude as you are

LoniceraJaponica · 29/04/2018 14:37

There is no need to pile on to Colditz like that. I don't know anyone who retches at meals unless they are genuinely ill.

TomRavenscroft · 29/04/2018 14:41

rina, eh? colditz isn't saying she (I assume she) retches or gags about food, is she? Confused

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