angry with housemate

[boywiththebrokensmile]

So for the past yr i have lived in a house share in Cornwall, I am 28 and my housemate is a woman in her mid 40s. We get on ok but she is quite bitter [bitter at been alone, fallout with her family, hates house sharing....] She is quite territorial and has no life really, she obsesses over the other couple that live with us and hates them like she did to the couple before. 1 night they had a few friends over and she went mad to me, i told her it was a houseshare and they did not do it often and they were all gone by ten and she was been unreasonable. She acts like it is her house.

Anyway, a few weeks back, i had three mates over[1st time ever having ppl back,]. She even moaned about that saying she would have stayed elsewhere if she had known. They were staying the night and we went to the pub for 1 drink, we got home round ten and she was sitting in the front room. We all walked in but when we saw her walked back out, she was sitting watching shit tv and I would not mind but she hardly ever sits in there and she sat on. We went to the kitchen even though it was a clear q for her to go to her room [where she usually resides] and let me chat to my mates who i had not seen in yunks. Eventually i took my friends in and she sat on, it was so uncomfortable, i eventually asked her could we watch something on telly and she made a joke of it and said ok and went to bed. But the thing is i think she clearly did that deliberately to deter me taking ppl back to the house again, any normal person would have went up to their room and given me the front room [which i hardly use] for the evening when i had mates over but she imposed and i feel angry over it. What do you think?

Not sure if you’re new to MN but any member is allowed to post here, so telling some people to stay off your thread is really childish, and redundant.

Yea and it equally redundant and childish to repeatedly ignore my posts and take things out of context and portray this woman as a saint.

No one is thinking she's a saint, she sounds very difficult, and probably inadequate actually. But you haven't presented yourself in a much better light. She had as much right to be in the living room as you, and you and your friends bullied her into leaving. That basically is what happened, from what you've said.

Clearly, you're never going to get on with her, but you're probably more in a position to find another place to live with than she is. Ultimately, it depends on the LL.

But complaining about people disagreeing with you is just a little bit immature. Any poster can say what they want, and it's AIBU, so just suck it up. You asked the question, and we've answered.

Yea and you purposefully choose to ignore the fact that is is urging me to spoil the impeding night of the couple by ''making it awkward'' just like she did to me. She is the 1 bullying here.

How you can equate anything i did with that sort of behavior is just ridiculous.

We can only take your word for how this woman is - no, clearly she's no saint from what you've said. But your attitude on this thread makes you appear to be not all that different. But why are you so bothered what a bunch of strangers think?

What about when YOU made that night awkward for HER? That’s bullying in my book.

''What about when YOU made that night awkward for HER? That’s bullying in my book.''

yea because i knew she was bullying me, she confirmed my suspicions for me this wkend to do the exact same to the couple if they took mates over ''sit in the front room and make it awkward.

Long term sharer only managed to escape from it early thirties when I finally got a half decent job that was permanent.

For what's its worth I agree with you OP - if you advised her in advance which you did, and having folk round is t a regular thing.

But never would i set out to take over a house and intentionally ruin the evenings of housemates taking over guests.

You still haven't answered whether, when you were mocking the other housemate's accent, if you were being snobbish or racist. If the former, I'd say that's on a par with spoiling an evening because it's making someone uncomfortable in their own home. If it's the latter, it's much much worse.

The housemate certainly sounds like a pita but you clearly give as good as you get. This is just what happens when two unpleasant people house share. You'll have to put up with it, and your American holidays with £16 in your account, until one of you can move out. I suggest not mocking your new housemates' accents or relationships, or you may find yourself on here.

im out of this thread-ppl going off topic,goodluck.

I'm right behind you OP!
You can't win with stupid!

You can't win with stupid!

You really can't, I agree.

Hey op I know this is completely off topic but would you say it's better to fly to Dublin then on to USA from your local airport than travelling to london to fly from there? Sorry I know this has nothing to do with the actual thread.

OP isn't looking at the thread any more so she can't possibly answer.