Ambu to refuse sacked and broke MIL to move in with us?

[Peachypop]

So now my alcoholic MIL has been let go off her job and she's not got anywhere to go and she wants to move in with me, my DP and a 7 month old dd. Ambu for saying 2 weeks only, I know she's down but it's my maternity leave and I want to spend it with my daughter, it's the time I'm never going to get back and we don't really get on. My DP says we should agree a month but I know this will end up in a big argument and I just want to save us that.

So fed up of my parents and DP's parents constantly expecting financial help from us when we now have our own little family to look after. They should have planned for their retirement/bad times! So irresponsible! Makes me look like a horrible daughter in law but I just want to focus on my baby now!

It appears that she's completely broke, with no family or friends and nowhere to go. DP offered for her to stay in his flat (indefinitely) and pay the mortgage but he's waiting for his tenants to move out meaning she needs to stay somewhere for a month. And she wants to stay with us.... :/

No way would I be moving her into the flat either. You may not want an argument but you may need to be prepared to have one to protect your family and future

I just wanted to echo what another poster said, in that she won’t be able to claim housing benefit if she’s living in a property owned by her son. This is hugely important as she’d be breaking the law and end up with a criminal record, maybe even prison. Also all the money would have to be refunded to the council so you could find yourselves with a very large debt.

Actually, if your husband can demonstrate that the letting is a commercial arrangement, which should be quite straightforward if he's rented the property for a while, she may be able to get housing benefit. Also, if housing benefit is overpaid, it's recovered from the claimant, not the landlord, as the claimant is the one responsible for giving all the correct information etc for the claim.

Make an appointment with an alcohol and drugs counsellor together. Agreeing to let her live in his flat and pay for her means he is enabling her to live like this. They might be able to make him see sense.

OLD Thread folks, move along

Old thread but would be interesting to know how things went and if OP is ok.

@Peachypop.
how are things?

YADNBU.
Please don't do this.
It will lead to trouble, definitely.