DM article fairly shit as per - starting with the misleading headline. And I think most millenials are the children of generation X rather than baby boomers - I'm Gen X and my parents (almost 70) are baby boomers. But the definitions of those terms is disputed I know. But it means the impression given is that few parents NEED their children to contribute - that's not my experience at all, very few of my friends could afford for their children to make NO contribution and the ones I know that can afford that had very wealthy parents and grandparents themselves and benefitted as a result - in a variety of ways, access to better education, influence re uni and jobs, inheritances etc
But I see some of the comments by the parents similar to on this thread 'the rent barely covers the cost of their food'
The girl with almost £1800 still to herself every month struggling to save for deposit/holiday - how??!!!! That's around 50% more than my total household income! What the hell holidays is she looking at?! Then says she's only £300 left after rent, car, gym and phone am I wrong wondering wtf she's paying for her car gym and phone?
Don't even get me started on the entitled wee boy paying only £100 out of a "generous" salary - begrudging it and delaying/excusing every month! If I was his parents it'd be pay up ON TIME without attitude or move out - and in an area where private rents are 10x as much he doesn't know what side his breads buttered! For a lad I'd bet that barely covers 2 weeks food!
That said the girls sharing a room I think are paying over what's reasonable. An adult should have their own room if they're paying a contribution.
Notso - you're right of course, but contributing financially is certainly one way of getting them to acknowledge they have to appreciate the support they get. Dd also keeps her room clean and tidy, does her own laundry and the hoovering (I'm disabled and this is a particularly difficult task for me).
Her best friend has a mum with a similar outlook to mine but other friends she's been known to challenge them on their entitled attitudes and lack of contribution at home. One is second youngest of 5 and frankly gets away with murder! Whilst the eldest sibling is expected to do loads. Dd and I think she's in for a rude awakening when she leaves home. Even her room is a complete tip - as in things growing! Dd won't go in it. But her parents treat her more like a 10 year old than a soon to be 18 year old. (Don't even get me started on how she talks to her mum 🙄).
To those who were treated differently and unfairly by their parents re siblings I'm so sorry - that is of course completely unacceptable. My siblings and I didn't pay the same amount but the percentage of our wage was the same I thought that fair.
"This may be seen as contentious, (not meant to be) but this thread does throw some light on how cocklodgers (and their female equivalent) come into being." Yes myself and others have noted this too
"There is no "too old" as long as everyone is happy with the situation Lloyd45." I'd agree with this, change of mind for me. But also as long as there's a healthy relationship and things are equal in other ways too. I have a couple of friends one 30's one 40's still living with parents but they operate financially more like co-tenants and the parents' health isn't great so the "children" support them with this. It works for them that's what matters. If it were "parents living with adult children" it wouldn't be seen negatively.
"I'm good at budgeting..., they gave me the deposit to buy a small flat" Erm is there a discrepancy there? Had you not saved a deposit yourself?
I returned to uni as a mature student when a Lp to Dd. Some of the younger (under 25) ones were absolutely clueless! Both financially and practically. Didn't know how to budget, plan a grocery shop, operate a washing machine, cook even basic food (I'm talking pasta, scrambled eggs - not cordon bleu). The ones who were left to get on with it by parents soon learned, the ones bailed out - didn't learn, used parents money to get takeaways most nights, pay other students to eg do their laundry, even clean their rooms!
I made my own dinner from 16 too, don't see a problem with that at all. If they're old enough to have sex, leave school, get married etc why not? In my case I was at college some distance away so was eating a couple hours later than rest of family and sometimes I chose to go out to eat with friends straight from college or went to boyfriends parents. It gave me some freedom without my mums time being wasted and food being wasted. I'd also sometimes cook for the whole family at weekends and during school holidays. Dd has been cooking since about 11/12 she loves it (though leaves a hell of a mess - she's a uses every item type cook 😂)
Hedger seriously? A you took the piss, B how did it take you two years to save a deposit on that salary living at home for free?? I'd have kicked you out!
"It’s not really a home anymore if you have to pay rent, is it? That’s how I feel anyway." Fuck me! So the MILLIONS of people paying rent/mortgage - is their home not their home then? Do you have children? Perfect example of entitled attitude.