AIBU for this to make me sad that he's had his head turned?

[Buttmonkey86]

I think or rather hope I'm being a bit silly. I don't want to bring it up with real life people.

My partner works in a creative environment for a large company. About six months ago he was part responsible for the hiring of a new woman.

I don't think for a second he would ever do anything about this, but he's never mentioned her since. Ever. He talks about some work people but not her. We have a mutual friend who has befriended this woman and says she's lovely, has fabulous style (important there) and is hilarious. She has also mentioned she's seen my partner looking at her a lot and trying to make her laugh. She said she's seen them have a couple of eye contact moments but the woman usually walks away quickly.

I've seen her once in person and she's very pretty. I didn't like the way I saw my partner watching her though, like he couldn't help himself. He didn't know I'd arrived to collect him early and I saw this through the windows.

AIBU to feel sad about this? Like I said, I don't think he'd do anything about her...I just feel down that he's had his head turned. In the five years we've been together this hasn't happened before

Agree with you wholeheartedly Laiste - not every problem has a short term solution, and Butt felt able to reflect here with us honestly and in a safe environment.
I respect her integrity and dignity in what must be a bloody difficult situation

Sadly, Butt has let me know that she’ll no longer be posting on this thread.
It’s a shame as this was her only outlet in helping her cope with the difficult situation she’s in.
Butt would like to thank all those posters who genuinely tried to help and support her x

Good for her. I hope she finds all the support she needs.

Oh thats a shame she wont be posting

I've been following this thread from the beginning. A massive well done to all the posters who've made the poor girl feel she can't post anymore. Obviously, at the age of merely 30 she had no idea how to handle the situation herself and you all had every right to get annoyed with a total stranger when she refused to obey your advice.

For the record - and I wish I'd said this earlier now - I thought she was handling it very well. I would have done exactly the same. You can lead a horse away from water all you like but if, in his heart, he still wants to drink, I think you've still got the same problem. She wanted her partner's heart to be in their relationship as well as his head.

Wishing you a positive outcome Butt x

She wont be back :(

Some fuckwit even reported her as a troll and caused trouble for her on here.

How do you know that, Laiste? It would surely take multiple reports for MNHQ to even look into it with an OP and don't they usually take down a thread that they suspect of being dodgy? That didn't happen.

Butt has had a lot of support on this thread, even if it's not all of the head-patting variety. I imagine she's found the negative comments about her partner pretty hard to take. I'm of the view that if she's strong enough to stand by and wait then she's strong enough to challenge posts that she doesn't agree with.

It's AIBU for goodness sake. I don't think any of the responses were overly harsh or particularly unreasonable.

I sympathised with OP, it did sound like a very frustrating predicament. But you can't start a thread and expect to dictate the sorts of responses you want to get.

Aibu isn't usually so tolerant of people flouncing when they don't like the responses!

You might be better in 'relationships' op if you just want a handhold rather than advice, opinions or suggestions.

Yeah just ask him! Confront him and see how he reacts.... you will know everything from that reaction!

Sorry didn’t read all the others posts before commenting. People 🤨

@Buttmonkey86 what ended up happening?!