Someone doesn't want someone using their bath water, but the other person wants to, who is in the right?

[AlexanderandPie]

If someone has just had a bath and a family members wants to use the same water, but the person who has had the bath before (their water) doesn't want them to, but the family member who wants to use the water doesn't care it's dirty, do they still get to use it?

@flutist

When I was growing up we had a coal fire, and it took several hours and a whole bagful of coal to heat enough water for a bath. We couldn't afford to heat the water just for one person. Kids got in first, followed by adults. If you were particularly dirty you got sponged down before the bath was filled, to keep the water relatively clean for everyone. And we could only afford the coal to heat the bath once or twice a week!

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No, thats awful. I shower after I've had a bath as I don't like wallowing in my own muck I'd be really uncomfortable with someone jumping in after me to the point I just wouldn't have a bath and I'd wonder why they were so insistent. If its money have a bath each every other day and if its environmental get a shower.

Why would something like this be a wind up? There's nearly 200 comments, what do you want me to reply? I got the answers.

Well a bit more contribution to the thread you started, or thanking people for the answers, or perhaps explaining a bit about why you were asking the question might not have gone amiss. Rude.

It's common courtesy to come back and engage at least once, if only to acknowledge that people have taken the time to read and answer the op..

I think the teenager has a right to decide whether they are comfortable with the adult closely inspecting their dirty bathwater. I think they should be allowed to say no!

I think you need to respect person 1’s wishes - there may be a personal reason they don’t want to share bath water and they should not have to explain.

My mum made me use her bath water after she'd been in when I was a kid - ewwww! Disgusting!

We all share bath water here - Manky Clert alert! Everyone's pretty honest, 'you'll have to go and have a shower I've wee'd in it/shaved my legs/on my period' are all heard regularly here. Our bath is massive, DH is a typical rugby player size and is lost in it - it wouldn't be economical to have 5 baths each day

We used to share the weekly bath water when I was a kid. I remember playing with the scum on the surface.

Bath water in our house occasionally goes 4 ways from cleanest user to dirtiest - usually DH gets the end slot. It's topped up between uses so I guess come round 4 isn't necessarily completely third hand!

Not sure why we do it but I doubt there's enough hot water to do 4 separate baths. A chorus of "do you want the water left in" can often be heard round our house of an evening.

Person 1 either has no environmental conscience

OR were very very dirty / pissed in bath

I shower after I've had a bath as I don't like wallowing in my own muck

Have the shower first, then there's no muck. Or just have the shower.

OP is rude!

OP is rude!

OP seems to think everything should go their way, be it sharing bath water or MN threads. Oh well.

This happens quite often for dh and I. Takes ages to fill our bath and hey weve shared more than bath water! Dont think id be as keen if it was anybody else though

But both of you are happy with it. If my parents had asked me to leave bathwater in when I was a teen, it would have made me really uncomfortable.

I have shared bathwater all of my life

Do you want the bath left in? Is normal in my family