Someone doesn't want someone using their bath water, but the other person wants to, who is in the right?

[AlexanderandPie]

If someone has just had a bath and a family members wants to use the same water, but the person who has had the bath before (their water) doesn't want them to, but the family member who wants to use the water doesn't care it's dirty, do they still get to use it?

windchime I’m from the South, my DP and I share bath water! Not sure of any divide 😁 we share bodily fluids, what’s a bit of bath water between friends!

I probably do a lot of questionable things hygiene wise but really couldn't bear the thought of using someone else's bath water! If it is an economy issue surely you just jump in the shower quickly.

It's forcing a sense of intimacy on her she doesn't want. I would no more want to share bath water with my mum than I would want to share a bed with a colleague.

I would be concerned that if they are the opposite sex that 1st bather would think the 2nd bather was getting some kind of kick / fantasy out washing their 'bits' in the same water as the 1st bather used . esp if they are not brother and sister or are more than a year or so apart.
privacy is important and should be respected , is there any chance that some thing has happened ( no matter how much in joking / innocence ) between them in the past ?

Do people still share bath water?! Even my kids have fresh water for each of their baths! Eugh! Why would you want to bathe in someone else's bath if you could help it?

Manky - would never ever use someone elses bath water yuk

I'd much rather have a wet cloth wash than share someone else's bath water. Even bathing for the initial person won't render them clean. It's essentially bathing in your own sweat and grease.

Person 1 isn't comfortable with it, so person 2 shouldn't do it. I wouldn't like it either. If you're that keen to save water, everyone can have a five minute shower.

Those saying sharing water with a partner is gross! Has no one ever had a bath with their partner? What’s the difference?

The few times i've had a bath with a partner i haven't had my leg up on the side shaving my bits, or used a body scrub, or been on my period or peed in it.

We've sat in the hot bubbles together and ... chatted ... . Not used it as a chance to get clean.

Those saying sharing water with a partner is gross! Has no one ever had a bath with their partner? What’s the difference? We weren't washing.

I've just enjoyed a lovely bath in my 4 year olds bath water, with some added hot water. He's probably pissed in it, but hey ho, was being environmentally friendly (couldnt be arsed to run another)

This is just another of those competitive who can be the most over the top about being disgusted about hygiene issues threads.
Of course one gets clean in the bath, no-one's dead skin cells come off in the kind of quantities that would somehow render than null and void.
And of course one would still get clean bathing in someone else's water.
Load of hysterical nonsense.

I don't care what happens after I get out of the water tbh.

I think clerf is more accurate a word.

I would have maybe stressed over this when I was....ummm 10!
Just pull the plug, but clean the bath after you!

Person 1 should just pull the plug! It shouldn’t be an issue for her.

Teenager is mortified by any behaviour by parent which does not precisely conform to that of their peer group and terrified someone will find out and they will be forever stigmatised.

Teenager also in the process of working out where their comfort zones are with regard to privacy, their developing body, and intimate separation from their parents. During this process they may become excessively sensitive and private until they've worked out exactly where their lines are.

Come on, stop pushing it. Show some understanding.

I haven't shared anyone's bathwater since I was 8 and got impetigo from my brother as a result.

(apart from the bubbly non bathing sort with dp who does not have impetigo. Checked. )

Meh! That’s kind of my point, you share bodily fluids, sleep in the wet patch etc, no worse than sharing bath water! just advisable not to drink it!

I'd assume there was a good reason for that water not to be used by someone else, tbh.

Sorry. It's disgusting. Don't you wash bodily fluids off/ clean teeth etc? If I have a bath, I rinse off in the shower afterwards!

Person 1 needs to pull the plug.

Person 2 needs to back off!

melamin you cannot catch impetigo from water

Ffs, OP. Stop dripfeeding and tell us the actual story. We shouldn’t have to go through looking for your posts just to understand the situation.

I’m by people showering after a bath! Why not just have a shower?

And you are clean before sharing fluids (I hope! ) baths are to get you clean and leave the dirt behind!