Someone doesn't want someone using their bath water, but the other person wants to, who is in the right?

[AlexanderandPie]

If someone has just had a bath and a family members wants to use the same water, but the person who has had the bath before (their water) doesn't want them to, but the family member who wants to use the water doesn't care it's dirty, do they still get to use it?

They dont want to share the bath water. Why make it a big deal? Respect their wishes.

But their 'i don't want you to just because' objection clearly isn't enough.
A conversation about bath water could be an ideal opportunity to explain to a daughter, that just not wanting to do something is a perfectly valid reason.

Let's hope so eh?

Ewww, people actually share bath water nowadays??

We share bathwater in our house as our crappy rented boiler takes about 45 mins to run a bath. It’s annoying when I want to shave my legs and then someone pipes up outside the door “I’ll jump in there after you” and I have to stay hairy because of horrifying visions of my floating leg stubble clinging to other family members’ torsos as they rise from the water. Also can’t use my body scrub due to complaints

So I think prior notice would make all the difference

I get in my sons bath after him, just top it up with hot and add bubblebath.

He’s 10 months old and has almost definitely pissed in it 😂

I might sound bad as it's not environmentally friendly but I don't liek to share anyone's bathwater

But if somone wanted my bathwater , I'd let them. Each to their own I suppose. I wouldn't be bothered. (Only time I'd refuse was if it was my time of month..for obvious reaoson)

Oh wow... never realised sharing bath water was seen as weird until I read this thread. Growing up, whenever someone had a bath you'd hear a shout from upstairs of "I'm out the bath- does anyone want my water?"

Having said that, we lived in an old cottage where it took about an hour to heat even the smallest amount of water, so it was pretty mean to waste it.

It’s totally gross to share bath water

OP there aren't enough details.

If the scenario is "Pervy Uncle wants to use his niece's bathwater" then NOPE! He can't.

Fgs the previous bather has such little space she has to share her bathwater. That must be suffocating.

It's not just her period - teenage girls produce a lot more cervical/vaginal discharge than adults. She's probably totally mortified about someone else seeing it in the water.

And, whatever the reason, it's really weird and unkind to insist if she's uncomfortable.

Where is the OP? Has she said WHY the adult wants to use the bath water?

Person 1 should be allowed to say no without a fuss.
We share water (unless dirty) and if at any point someone didn’t want it to happen they would be respected enough to be listened to.

If it was the 70s I’d be far more relaxed about sharing bath water but it’s not really necessary nowadays is it?

Fgs. I find baths dirty and unnecessarily wasteful, but it doesn't take much imagination why someone wouldn't another to see, or bathe! in their water. Dirt, sweat, bodily fluids, hair. It's very personal, and in a day when most have the ability to have separate baths, if one is uncomfortable with the thought of others sharing their bath water they should be able to insist that others have fresh (or share with another). It's very intrusive. And really not worth the argument.

Wait, wtf is this pissing in the bath thing?

What's the point of having a bath and then pissing in it.

Oh nooo, maybe teenager has had fun time in the bath. Thus horrified of the thought of adult relative getting in, as at that age misconceptions about getting pregnant, (no pun intended!) Or if a girl, teen is on period and is worried about what's left after they've cleaned themselves.

It's just generally grim & so are you if it's giving you tingles reading about a teen having 'relaxing' time in the bath.

I'm now thinking if you had to ask MN this is some weird fetish.

Wasn't there part of that Enfield thing where one girl had to get in the bath after her sister on her period? I can't recall what happened by I recall the youngest girl being repulsed.

Person 2 ibu. I assume person 1 is the teen girl. Respect her boundaries!

Her boundaries about not letting someone use her old bath water?

Crossing her boundaries?

Jesus wept! It's no wonder so many young adults are unable to function in the real world. Trigger warnings at my university have just been proposed!

Person 1 is being a pain in the arse.

What a strange little thread.

Although I agree about the boundaries thing. It's not a pleasant image, an adult wallowing in a teenager's bath water. Bathroom time is private, and she is entitled to say no, I don't want someone closely examining my dirty water. Creepy to insist.