Someone doesn't want someone using their bath water, but the other person wants to, who is in the right?

[AlexanderandPie]

If someone has just had a bath and a family members wants to use the same water, but the person who has had the bath before (their water) doesn't want them to, but the family member who wants to use the water doesn't care it's dirty, do they still get to use it?

I can think of reasons why someone would not want someone else to use their bath water and I’m sure most women can if they think about it hard enough.

The views of bath user 1 should be respected.

Or if it's a girl maybe it's her 'time of the month' which isn't invisible...

I think person 1 - it does seem kind of weird to object to someone using your bath water, unless:

• person 2 is either not well acquainted, or there's something else that would make person 1 uncomfortable. (Person 2 is a stalker/weirdo?)
• person 1 has peed/masturbated in the bath, or was extremely filthy. Or perhaps had a very thorough shave and is embarassed at the state of the bath water?

However if person 1 was insistent, it's then a little weird to insist on reusing the bath water, unless you're extremely strapped for cash. And person 1's insistence would make me wary of the bathwater.

Is it a plumbed in bath or an old tin one, in front of the fire which requires the boiling of numerous kettles and pans to fill it?

I’m with @teas on this one

I cannot contemplate getting into someones used bath water.

I think if the first bather wants the water gone then they should be listened to. Yuk.

I knew some people on here would turn their nose up at reusing bath water haha, whatever the circumstance, but that's Mumsnet for you. It's not that bizarre.

I would say maybe girl had shaved legs/ pits/ bits and didn’t want adult seeing debris or totm.
Is it really worth arguing over tho. If water metre is an issue run two shallow baths - still enough to soak but not right up to your chin ( as my dh does!)

So which one are you OP?

I think sharing bath water is pretty normal assuming one you hasn't just come back from the mines!

For the sake of argument I would drain it - but I think she is being oddly weird about it.

I think person 1 is being the most unreasonable.
I wouldnt want to be person 2 sharing someone elses water but I couldnt care if someone else wants to use the water once I'm out, I would jus think good for them for caring about the enviroment I guess.

Are you the adult? In which case respect your DD's boundaries. It's massively more important she knows she will be listened to when she feels uncomfortable than a tiny saving in water.

They’re probably feeling self conscious.

Unless you are suffering with a water metre I would just put the plug and move on with your lives.

This is just disgusting. Stop being so coy about who is who in this scenario. One bath for one person.

Sharing bath water is rank. You can't get clean in dirty water and that's what it is... I love a bath but always shower/rinse off after to get rid of the soap/bubbles and to feel properly clean!

If you're worried about the environment/money then have a shower, not a bath then you can stop asking a teenager if you can use her old bathwater.

lol lol lol at Justmuddlingalong

"Manky clert" shall be my new phrase for mingers.

Oh and, er, the teenager is horrified at the manky clertitude of the adult, and they are right. Who wants a teenager's bath water? Getting in after a 6 year old I can understand, but ugh. So even if the teenager isn't herself a manky clert, she is possibly thinking that the adult who wants to get in after she's shaved from the neck down and left the bath 10%water and 90% hair, bath scrub, fucking Lush bath bombs and thus glitter, and general dirt, is one.

My other half often leaves the bath water in for me and vice versa! It’s a bit of a ‘thing’ in this house!

I don’t expect my teenage son to do the same. He wouldn’t have a problem with it. Just seems a bit, I don’t know, personal, especially for a teenager!

Teenage girl doesn’t want to leave bath water, leave it, pick your battles!

It's not that weird to have a second hand bath! But if it was my teenager feeling uncomfortable about it I wouldn't.

Oh God this brings back memories of when my mum used to make a single bath do the whole family.

(in her defence, I do think there was a reason for it - maybe we were on a metre?)

I didn't realise baths weren't meant to be lukewarm, no bubbles and with a slight scummy layer on the surface til I saw one on TV.

I dcan imagine many instances where I wouldn't want a family member sharing my bathwater - although dh occasionally jumps in after me, the minger.

Teenager needs to be respected!

Washing in stewed teenagers water

I don't think it's right to force somebody to share their bath water, if they're uncomfortable with it they need to be respected.

Oh fgs disgusting??
My dad used my bathwater. Not every part of the world can afford a bath per person.