Someone doesn't want someone using their bath water, but the other person wants to, who is in the right?

[AlexanderandPie]

If someone has just had a bath and a family members wants to use the same water, but the person who has had the bath before (their water) doesn't want them to, but the family member who wants to use the water doesn't care it's dirty, do they still get to use it?

I'm old enough to have lived through the great drought of 1976.

Sharing bath water was positively encouraged, indeed a subject of public information campaigns.

So this really wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I'd suspect the first person had had a wee in it, and didn't want to fess up. Or, if male, a wank.

Wallowing in your own muck is bad enough without bathing in someone else’s too. Grim.

EdithWeston

But we're not in a drought. If someone needs to share my bath water, I'm not going to be thrilled but I will accept it. But why would someone choose to?

Sharing bath water is absolutely rank. If there was no money for a second bath I'd have a wash at the sink with a flannel.

but the family member who wants to use the water doesn't care it's dirty

I think this is the statement that stands out to me. Why does the person not care it's dirty. The teenagers has clearly explained, but the adult is saying that's fine, I'm ok washing in your dirty water, and even insisting on it. It just feels wrong.

As said, if financial issues, then either two showers, or two shallow baths, there is no need to cause a fight and demand to wash yourself in this persons dirty water.

Hello, op? Where are you?

If the OP ever comes back I get the feeling they will announce that it's some eco warrior teen who is insisting on using someone pervy Uncle Fred's bathwater rather than the other way round.

I think this whole thread is a wind up

Why would something like this be a wind up? There's nearly 200 comments, what do you want me to reply? I got the answers.

It’s gross, there are whole families that do this and think it’s normal (well it is for them).

Who the hell wants to soak in someone else’s muck? Just have a shower!

Person 1 has wanked in the bath.

For God's sake can you all use meter, it's not metre!!

I'm old enough to have lived through the great drought of 1976.

It's now 2018

I’m confused by people showering after a bath! Why not just have a shower?

After a long run i like a bath to relax my legs. But i can't wash my hair in the bath, it's too long and thick so i need to stand up and shower.

Does anybody else feel a bit sorry for AlexanderandPie? Publicly outed as a manky clert 😂

Sharing the bath water together, that makes sense. But to reuse the bath water after someone...that's too low for me.

I think we were after you kind of engaging with people's questions OP not just vanishing.

This is where I discover that what I think is environmentally sensible is "ewww" to others. But I do think we are way too precious about this sort of thing these days.

If there are financial problems can you not both have showers?

This has been expressed by several PP.

Has it occurred to you for one second that not everyone has a shower?

I would love a shower, mainly because getting in and out of the bath every day bruises my knees as it's got nasty lumpy moulded nobbles on it. I rent, so even if I had the very large amount of money required for the unit and much dearer installation, I don't think the landlord would be too pleased and they certainly would not install a shower.

I think some people may do well to remember that other people's lives may be poorer than their own.

As for sharing bath water, yes my DH does get in after me. We only have electric and one bath a quarter full costs 80 pence a time to heat.

I bathe every day, wash my arse after a shit and don't roll around in the street. I am not covered in shit, piss, sweat, blood, spunk nor does my skin slough off en masse upon contact with bath water. My bath water is the same colour when I get out as it was when I got in.

Saying that, I wouldn't follow DH into the bath because he does dirty the water as oil, grease and metal dust hitch a ride home from his work.

"It's now 2018"

Yes, I know. I might be an older MNetter, but I haven't lost my marbles yet. And I expect younger MNetters (under 50ish?) might not remember the campaigns then, and so would not have had sharing bathwater engrained in them as normal/desirable.

And I also know we're not in a drought now. I meant to show a reason for a my attitude, rather than simply saying I think it's OK.

AlexanderandPie Tue 17-Apr-18 21:18:00

It's a teenager (not an adult) and an adult.

Is the teenager a boy? Maybe they got a bit excited in the bath?

My children no longer like sharing a bath, or their bathwater (but that might be because they love their bath bombs!). I can't see why it would matter for one person to leave it for another if the other wanted to jump in, but if the first person really hated the idea for whatever reason then it's better to quietly empty and refill!

There is nothing disgusting about sharing bathwater you lunatics.

When I was growing up we had a coal fire, and it took several hours and a whole bagful of coal to heat enough water for a bath. We couldn't afford to heat the water just for one person. Kids got in first, followed by adults. If you were particularly dirty you got sponged down before the bath was filled, to keep the water relatively clean for everyone. And we could only afford the coal to heat the bath once or twice a week!

its the period thing xx