For being peed off that shop assistant made dd say thank you beofre giving her her sweets

[twobabies]

Hi All

I really would like to know if IABU or not, so dd is not yet two and only just started talking. She can say thank you (well she says cue but we know what she means .

We went to the shop today for her treat as she has done really well with her potty training this week and we promised her a little choccy bar. We walked down and when I let her choose she was so excited, picked one and we went to the till. The shop was packed so she had been holding it for about 5 mins before we got to the till then I took it of her for the lady to scan and dd had a small winge.

The shop lady then says to dd loudly "well if your going to be like that your not having it back until you say thank you" whilst holding it out to dd? I said she doesnt talk actually and dd is quite shy around strangers so I knew she wouldn't. The shop assistant just looked at dd and said "well are you going to say thank you" dd is now hiding in my legs looking at me really upset. I said to the woman look she isn't going to say thank you and she said "oh i'm not sure you really deserve this then" before handing it over to me.

I think the reason i'm upset is because dd was so excited as she hardly gets sweets/choccy at all and I really thought this witch had spoilt it and made it look like dd had no manners to everyone else in the shop.

Please tell me if i'm just being hormonal or if this woman is actually mad?

i could understand if she was older but at 2 my friends dd is 4 and only just started talking so wounder what the lay would have said to her!

I would have been annoyed by the amateur supernanny myself.

How this discussion turned into a BFD over whether/when to offer sweeties and how that overlays with a wider class issue is beyond belief. I was staggered when I saw the no of responses though and had to take a peek! Okay, it's a rainy Sunday but wow people got worked up.

But you gotta love MN for it. Fantastic.

I don't eat conveneience food and only eatorganic and spend whatI think is a lot of money on our food budget but am still fat , it is not to do with what I eat but the amount!

It is more money to eat healthily, you could easily feed my family on convenience food for £20 a week, eating healthily costs 10 times that.

Don't agree. You can buy Tesco value carrots and they're very healthy. you don't have to get the organic ones to be healthy but that of course depends on your view of the science of that kind of stuff.

On quantities tis true but it's hard to get fat on large portions of carrots than chocolate and crisps although I suppose 2 large baked potatoes could still make people fat.

I buy tesco value carrots for juicing as we go through so many of them.

omg shock horror i agree with you xenia cheap carrots are better than no carrots

I have always eaten a lot and am currentl;y trying to address it,, my mums theory is that becuase we were so poor growing up and often had to go hungry my body is in eternal fearof starvation, I think I am greedy

When I did weightwatchers the woman ruuning it couldn't believe how I put on weight as I do eat very healthily but I do eata lot and I am on medication that apparanlty affects weight gain and hunger.

It is meat TBH that bumps up our food bill as I do like to buy ethically farmed meat which is not cheap, for that reason we do not eat meat that often.

This is a huge thread, so in response to the OP

What VILE, IGNORANT behaviour from that shop assistant. I felt angry on your behalf just reading that post. Have you considered making a complaint? It was well beyond her remit to attempt to 'decipline' your child, let alone scare and embaress her. It could make you feel better at least to complain, even if nothing comes of it, the woman being given a good ticking off by her boss would be a nice image to to play out in your mind if nothing else.

You sound like a very loving, thoughtful mother and doing what you do to make her world a fair and happy place to be, she will hopefully soon forgot about is. At her age she was hopefully just thinking, "go away you massive freak" and wont have thought about it on the level that all the outraged mums on this thread have.

in response to the OP, the woman was mad
night-night

Twobabies (OPer) - If it makes you feel any better, my DD (seven months) is starting to get verbal and in particular when people try and get her to talk in shops will react. Today we were in Debenhams and the assistant tried to get a smile out of her. She raised her eyebrows a la James Bond and shouted (very loudly) 'PAH!'

Bless her, I've bred a Dilbert character!

Whomovedmychocolate....the reason you have lost 8lb is because someone moved your chocolate and you can't find it to eat it.

I think I should be called whomovedmyfrappachino!!!!!!!

Kimi - nope, can't do the caffeine thing - breastfeeding. Perhaps 'whomovedthespagbol' but it doesn't have the same ring to it.

My last screen name was tinkerbellhadpiles but people kept offering me ointment

ROFLMAO.

Sometimes the cheap carrots come off the same production line as the more expensive kinds but just go into different bags. I was with some people I work with last week one of whom used to work in that sector. I'm not saying that always happens but the issues over what makes people buy and types of packaging and how to differentiate products is interesting.

in response to the shop assistant thing: i went out with my babe in a carrier and he was smiling at this shop assistant. when she said he was sweet i said hed just had his sleep and she said "it wont get any easier you know". what the hell is that? why do people think they have a right to comment and teach your kids for you? since when were they the experts?

Im a new member - pmsl at this thread.

Im as middle class as they come I was expensively educated to MA; have a high earning dh and I play with my horses for leisure. Oh and Im a counsellor but I dont practise at the moment I stay at home. Doesnt get much more mung bean that you'd think.

But at 8pm every evening without fail we open our large american fridge and get out our vast array of confectionery (usually big bags of maltesers and revels, I do sometimes buy michelle cluizel or amadei from the Chocolate Co down the road in Alderley Edge, but frankly its just extortionate if you just want to pig out on the stuff) and munch away.

The next day at some point we must work it all off exercising our nags because both me, my daughter and my dh are fit as fleas. My child does not have adhd as a result (on the contrary, she is in the top sets for everything at school.

Oh and somehow we manage to keep our beaks out of other peoples parenting, nor do we preach to other peoples toddlers.

The woman was a control freak, as is xena warrior princess or whatever her name is.

Do you know my dh comes home at the mo (and has even started sending me emails during the day) and ask 'what's xenia warrior princess been saying today then?'

I think he's going to be a secret mn as he finds her sooooo funny

I found this thread funny 'till she got on her her high horse..