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Why does your teen hate you today?

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AjasLipstick · 08/04/2018 09:41

Mine's 13...apparently I'm terrible parent because I offered her the meal she really loved up until today...it was a steak sandwich on crusty bread with a side salad.

Last week this was "amazing" and "my favourite"

Tonight I told her I was making it again and she said OH NO I HATE THAT!!!!

Hmm

I said...well you could have some stir fried noodles?

No. She wanted a certain dish from our local Chinese takeaway.

I said no.

DH said yes...and offered her the cash to go and buy it.

That's evil too though. We should apparently go for her in the car as it's AGES AWAY! TOO FAR!

It's a 5 minute walk.

She's now sitting in her room, hating us and refusing anything.

I'm ignoring.

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Highhorse1981 · 09/04/2018 13:18

Cancelled the order. Another few days with ill fitting bras would have really got the message in that when someone is being nice enough to buy you know clothing, you don’t get in an arse with them for not choosing a pricier delivery option.

LadyPenelope68 · 09/04/2018 13:18

Mine’s 15 and hates me today because I won’t pay £240 upfront costs for the new Samsung phone. Apparently if I’m not going to be “might as well just have a £10 cheap shit pay as you go”. Suits me then 😜

CeeCeeMacFay · 09/04/2018 13:20

Mine’s 16 and today he hates me because his first GCSE is in three weeks and although I have told him the repeatedly as well as helping organise all of his revision he didn’t know I meant it was so soon Hmm

Klarabing · 09/04/2018 13:22

Because it was freezing so I turned the heating on.... now its waaaaay too warm.. cue huffing and eyerolls Hmm

Afonavon · 09/04/2018 13:40

I’m annoying to DS ALL the time! He’s annoyed at me feeding him, at my unwillingness to arm wrestle him, my sheer existence. He promised me when he was little that he’d never act like his teen sibling...I know that it isn’t his fault, but I miss the mammy-loving little boy he used to be. His sibling is out the other side and a bloody joy to be around after many years of teen angst and anger. I am so looking forward to having two post-teen children.

mikeyssister · 09/04/2018 14:00

Apparanently, according to DD3, I'm annoying because I bought DD2 to school today in the car and didn't bring her and she had to get the school bus.

This despite the fact:
that I bring DD2 every Monday because she has an early class;
that DD3 has been told on numerous occasions she's welcome to come too and get a coffee on the way;
that DD3 wasn't ready to leave when we had to go

Apparently I'm also unreasonable because I didn't get her to study for her Maths exam and she's not happy with her result.

She's also not happy that we call her a Drama Llama, but loves the fact we bought her a mug that says Drama Llama, but not us for buying it (it's the least she deserves apparently).

This is also the same teen who hated me yesterday ..... and the day before ............ and the day before ............

LucilleBluth · 09/04/2018 14:01

We've got upcoming GCSES...sooo I've had to restrict the internet this week because his revision consists sitting in the dining room with music on his phone and then getting a snack every five minutes. He's really getting on my nerves.

8FencingWire · 09/04/2018 14:17

Mine’s gone to the ‘perfect parent’ for two weeks. She did demand some absurd shite though, I told her no and she then texted me: ‘do not text or call me till I come home then!’

I didn’t. She texted the next morning:’I love you mummy’.

HildaOnAHarley · 09/04/2018 14:23

Ahhh........GCSE time. I'm loving it.......DS is studying hard, revising every spare minute and really putting the effort in...................

.................oh wait sorry, that was just a dream.

Back in the real world - it's a mother-son face-off as DS is doing the bare minimum, telling me not to worry, he has aaages to revise Confused and rolling his eyes if I casually mention that he might like to possibly attend the holiday revision sessions.

Telling him that he couldn't see his friends tomorrow if he didn't go to school today worked tho, so may try that again tomorrow......Grin

Trinity66 · 09/04/2018 14:24

I have a 14 year old and a 17 year old and they're both great tbf Grin

IHaveBrilloHair · 09/04/2018 15:13

I just got the stinkeye because I said I loved Dd before she went out.
"Eh, I'll be back later, I'm going to my boyfriend's, not Narnia"
I enquired about revision earlier, apparently she's doing it, hmmmm, because it still looks to me a lot like watching Friends on Netflix.
I'd cut off the Netflix but her mate pays for it and we use his login

IHaveBrilloHair · 09/04/2018 15:16

Upcoming Highers here btw, her Nat5's didn't go so well, probably because she didn't revise!
(Scottish school system)

GeorgeTheHippo · 09/04/2018 15:36

Because I made him walk the dogs he wanted so much and promised to help look after for an hour late this morning in glorious sunshine when even on his own account he had nothing else to do. He did it though. Pretty much in silence, but he did it. Bless them 😄

Frequency · 09/04/2018 17:04

Today the preteen hates me because I made to get out of bed (at 10am) to go for shopping for her bedding to go on the brand new double bed she asked for, which will be going into the house she wanted to move to.

For years she begged to move so she could have her own room now it's unfair. Why does she have to spend her holiday moving?!

To be fair to her, I think she was hangry. She settled down when I bought her a Greggs.

The actual teenager, the one who is supposed to be moody and temperamental is at the new house with her mates stripping the walls.

VladPutin · 09/04/2018 17:05

I have three teens and none of them has ever used the word hate wrt me or their Dad.

I don't think its necessary

IHaveBrilloHair · 09/04/2018 17:11

Good for you and your perfect family, however we are sharing stories of the real life.
and I bet your teens thought it

VladPutin · 09/04/2018 17:11

Might have done. Never door slamming or rowing either shrugs

HesMyLobster · 09/04/2018 17:22

My DD15 hates me because I bought her a Happy Meal.
She's asked for McDonald's at least 4 times over the past 2 weeks and gone on and on about how much she's craving one, but we've always had something else planned/prepared.
So I thought I'd swing by the drive through on my way home and surprise her with a little treat as it's been the first day back at school.
Was met with a sneer and a "eeeugh, no thanks"
Apparently I should have known she's decided to eat only brown rice and vegetables from now on and she's done with junk food Hmm

HesMyLobster · 09/04/2018 17:30

DD 17 hates me because I just made myself a coffee without offering her one.
(She started drinking coffee for the first time approximately 6 days ago)
I forgot that she likes it now, and apparently that's because I take no interest in her life or what she's doing.

( this whole exchange took place while I was handing over the library books I'd picked up for her in my lunch break as I thought they might help with her A Level revision)

JustDanceAddict · 09/04/2018 17:31

DD - yesterday- had the hump as I wouldn’t drop her right outside the shop she wanted to go in.
DS - today - even though I told him we were going to walk to an appointment today (a mile), he obviously forgot and was not happy when we weren’t getting in the car. I also made him wear a coat (for the 4th time this year!).

HesMyLobster · 09/04/2018 17:32

GCSEs and A-Levels are so fun.

It was such a great idea to have a 2 year age gap so they could both be doing them at the same time . . . !HmmConfused

popcornpaws · 09/04/2018 17:35

I have loved reading these!
Teenagers are so funny!
My DD was great asa teenager, but when she was 5/6 she was so grumpy! She used to come downstairs with the hood of her housecoat up and a pair of sunglasses on then would proceed to eat her breakfast in silence, there was to be no chit chat until we were walking to school!

JustDanceAddict · 09/04/2018 17:48

Lobster I’ll have that in two years’ time. Save me from madness!

Andro · 09/04/2018 17:58

Not me, my DH. DS has (very uncharacteristically) lost the plot in a spectacular manner because DH had friends over and they brought their 3yo with them, then promptly left the child in DS's care. He felt DH was unreasonable, disrespectful and irresponsible...plus a few more adjectives of a less polite nature! Given that the child in question is a miniature tornado and could create havoc in an empty room, I can see DS's point (and I'm staying out of it).

Right now they're still snarling at each other (uncharacteristic of my DH as well as my DS), with DH demanding an apology and some respect and DS demanding the same as well as insisting DH remember he's not Supernanny with testicles.

PutUpWithRain · 09/04/2018 18:19

DS(13) is still the lovely, softhearted, tender little dreamer he always has been. I've spiked his guns by showing him clips of Kevin the teenager, so he can't get away with armswinging shoutiness in the future.

I, however, have The Arse with him, because he asked me to look at a couple of spots on his back (featuring one of the most luscious blackheads I've ever seen) and he wouldn't let me squeeze any of them. Sad