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Why does your teen hate you today?

194 replies

AjasLipstick · 08/04/2018 09:41

Mine's 13...apparently I'm terrible parent because I offered her the meal she really loved up until today...it was a steak sandwich on crusty bread with a side salad.

Last week this was "amazing" and "my favourite"

Tonight I told her I was making it again and she said OH NO I HATE THAT!!!!

Hmm

I said...well you could have some stir fried noodles?

No. She wanted a certain dish from our local Chinese takeaway.

I said no.

DH said yes...and offered her the cash to go and buy it.

That's evil too though. We should apparently go for her in the car as it's AGES AWAY! TOO FAR!

It's a 5 minute walk.

She's now sitting in her room, hating us and refusing anything.

I'm ignoring.

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cloudchasing · 08/04/2018 13:20

Oh they're awful aren't they?

After many and varied discussions about college courses, where she chose NOT to go to university, 2 years later she blamed me for not MAKING her go.

Guess where she is now? HmmGrin

IncyWincyGrownUp · 08/04/2018 13:23

Mine hasn’t surfaced yet. She has a metric fuckton of dishes to get into the dishwasher though as she didn’t do it yesterday or the day before. If she wants feeding later she needs to get a shift on, or I’ll just take the other two out for dinner and she can fester.

ChoudeBruxelles · 08/04/2018 13:24

Ds (12) likes me today because I took him to cex, queued for half an hour so he could trade in loads of dvds and he got a new (second hand) game with the trade in value.

BishopBrennansArse · 08/04/2018 13:25

Because I won't decorate his room. Which is full of wet filler because he kicked holes in the walls. So nothing can be done until the filler dries anyway.

So now he's threatening to kick more holes.

Frequency · 08/04/2018 13:28

She doesn't. I'm really, really lucky, we get on extremely well and she follows the few, reasonable rules I set for her without question. Occasionally, she is up to half an hour late home but has always replied to a text asking where she is within a few minutes.

The pre-teen otoh...

She hates me today because;

  1. I 'forced' her to go to her dad's on her usual contact day after she refused to go to the last two.
  2. I refused to phone her father and tell him off for asking her to shower.
  3. I refused to let her stay when she turned up this morning having told him she was going to the shop.
  4. He is making her socialise, with actual people. The bastard is taking her to the cinema and then out for lunch to a place of her choosing! This is my fault and she hates me Hmm
NutElla5x · 08/04/2018 13:34

Your daughter sounds delightful OP but with a husband like yours no wonder Hmm

theredjellybean · 08/04/2018 13:35

my 17 DSD2 hates her own mother because she threw out DSD2s easter eggs ( cus my DP and I had given them to her) ....my DSD2 loves me cus is suggested she leaves replacement ones at our house and even provided locked cupboard to keep them in to protect against marauding siblings who all love chocolate !
I did all this without so much as a mutter about her nutty mother.
#winningatstepparenting

mrsmainz · 08/04/2018 13:36

Mines 11, not quite a teen mind, might as well be.

This morning, it's because I've invited his mate (and their family) over for lunch.

Idiot.

BearSoFair · 08/04/2018 13:37

My teenager is fine...my 10 year old is a different matter! 2 hours ago I had the cheek to ask her to change her duvet cover and put the old one in the wash. She eventually did it with much screeching that she can't, it's too hard, it's so unfair, but is still glaring at me whenever I dare to look her way or speak to her. This is the regular reaction to being asked to do any task, no matter how small. Hmm

WildIrishRose1 · 08/04/2018 13:44

I gave up trying to figure out my DC moods a long time ago! I'm now exacting my revenge by looking wistfully at the front door and talking about "when the kids leave" to my DH, in their hearing....

crimsonlake · 08/04/2018 13:48

I was a single mum of 2 teens and they have both turned out fine and have made it to uni. I tried to pick my battles, it did not matter if they lay in, or their rooms were a mess, or if they never opened their curtains.

redfairy · 08/04/2018 13:50

My DD (16) hates me today because she insisted I cut her fringe and I cut it too short. Apparently she's not going out ever again until it grows back ...and I've ruined her life and she can't go to Easter revision classes 😁

inkandstone · 08/04/2018 13:53

Because we won't let him stay home alone when we go away in our touring caravan next weekend (he's14).

VioletCharlotte · 08/04/2018 13:55

16 year old DS hates me because he wanted me to make him a bacon sandwich and I said he's perfectly capable of making his own.

I then dared to offer to help him look online for jobs... god, what a bitch mother I am Hmm

MickHucknallspinkpancakes · 08/04/2018 14:04

DS 13 tries to hate me but it only lasts for 10-20 minutes max because he knows which side his bloody bread is buttered on.

He tried to be annoyed at me this morning for making him get out of bed to come down and eat a fresh Pain au chocolat from the bakery.

I said "come on get out of that pit and get some breakfast"

Response " meuh meuh meuh you're always nagging me MOTHER...."

Me "ok I'll eat the last Pain au Choc then...." and closed the door...

He almost overtook me on the stairs 😂😂😂

DoctorWhatTheFuck · 08/04/2018 14:47

14 y/o cross and sulking.

She was not allowed to practice her gymnastics routine in our tiny living room ( which has a glass table). We apparently want her to do badly.

Holidayz · 08/04/2018 14:55

My almost 14 yr old had a meltdown over a blueberry muffin. Apparently she and her younger sister (11) had come to an arrangement where sister had the chocolate ones and teen had the blueberry ones.

Yesterday DD2 said to her dad "I'd really like a BB muffin" so he said she could have one.

Today teen has blown up because "they were MY BB muffins, how DARE you eat my food, blah blah blah"

DH snapped back that actually they were his effing muffins as he had paid for them. Teen then flounced off saying next time she'll lick all the BB muffins Hmm

Teen now sulking in her pit.

Dieu · 08/04/2018 15:27

AjasLipstick of course, and it was meant as a joke! although obviously not a funny one

LynetteScavo · 08/04/2018 15:57

Because we won't buy her a £350 camera and an iPhone 6. She really needs both, apparently, and we are incredibly unreasonable/povo parents for not buying them.

She shows no interest in using my perfectly good camera.

This has been going on for weeks a while and is getting boring now.

fleshmarketclose · 08/04/2018 19:20

Dd is sulking because when she declined the roast I had cooked I only said "Ok that's fine" rather than trying to persuade her to join us. Apparently I should have known to do this because I know she loves a roast dinner and now she hasn't had any dinner and she is starving and there is no food appearing. I've helpfully told her to make herself anything she fancies and clear up afterwards as I've finished cooking today.

WetsTheVet · 08/04/2018 19:45

I knocked on her door and asked her if she wanted a cup of tea around 1pm. Apparently I was being sarcastic and trying to shame her for not being awake earlier. Hmm

Gingerninj · 08/04/2018 19:55

I wouldn't let her sleepover at someone's house for a third night. Only because we're going out tomorrow and it's nice to see her from time to time

DextroDependant · 08/04/2018 20:33

My 13 year old is ok so far but very difficult to get out of bed...

ShadesOfHoratio · 08/04/2018 20:36

Because I asked him to revise

Confused
70isaLimitNotaTarget · 08/04/2018 20:44

My eldest (18) is ok at the moment, he's been revising and pootling about on the XBox (till 3am Hmm ) , went off to have his haircut with only one time asking and devoured a load of Yorkshire Puddings I made at dinnertime.

DD (nearly 16) is ok at the moment, revising, nagging her about her Spanish, having lie-ins till 10am.
I took her shopping on Friday , that was nice.

The merde will hot the fan next Monday when they're back to school/6th form , exams will be a reality and they'll have to get back to the real world.
DH and I have been at work so haven't had to listen to them mutter darkly .