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Why does your teen hate you today?

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AjasLipstick · 08/04/2018 09:41

Mine's 13...apparently I'm terrible parent because I offered her the meal she really loved up until today...it was a steak sandwich on crusty bread with a side salad.

Last week this was "amazing" and "my favourite"

Tonight I told her I was making it again and she said OH NO I HATE THAT!!!!

Hmm

I said...well you could have some stir fried noodles?

No. She wanted a certain dish from our local Chinese takeaway.

I said no.

DH said yes...and offered her the cash to go and buy it.

That's evil too though. We should apparently go for her in the car as it's AGES AWAY! TOO FAR!

It's a 5 minute walk.

She's now sitting in her room, hating us and refusing anything.

I'm ignoring.

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BBTHREE76 · 08/04/2018 12:15

My 14 year hates us today because, he texted DH and I from his room at about midnight to say that the football match we “forced him to watch” (we didn’t!) was depressing, (we lost!). We should “make it up to him” by taking him to the cinema today. In a moment of madness, or wanting a quiet life, DH and I knocked on DS door at about 11am today and told him to get up so we could all go to the cinema. This in turn has cheesed him off as he has now changed his mind and he wanted a lie in and we should have known 😳🙄

TreesAgreen · 08/04/2018 12:17

Dare I say........as for once we have the oppersite today!

DS usually doesn't rise until after midday. But couldn't sleep at all last night so was up and chatting in the kitchen at 6am, we watched bagpuss on DVD together ShockSmile then he went for a bike ride.

Only he realised 3/4 of an hour into his ride, that he has caught the dreaded lurgy the rest of us have, so rang to tell me, I went and pick him up as he slowly made his way home.

He's now in bed fast a sleep.

But we have plenty of days I can do no right, normally it because I've said he really needs to get a shower, and his bedroom needs mucking outGrin

Oblomov18 · 08/04/2018 12:20

14 year old ds hates Dh because he is horrible and too strict and unfair.

He did his one job, cleaning, only half-heartedly yesterday before going out with his mates, all day, riding on bikes and playing football.

Dh told him he had taken the nick yesterday, and should have done it properly and he was to do it straight away, today.
Hence lots of shouting and arguing and now he is in his room.

honeylulu · 08/04/2018 12:24

Because me and his dad are not having the day off work for his birthday on Wednesday ...Because he is at school.

His birthday usually falls in the Easter hols and if so one or both of us has the day off to take him out for the day. I've tried explaining there is no point us having the day off as he won't be back until 4.30.I'm leaving work early so I'll be back by 5ish but apparently that is not good enough.FFS!

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 08/04/2018 12:26

I no longer have a teenager, but I'm getting a great deal of pleasure watching DGS treating his mother as a punch bag/climbing frame/sick bucket.

One thing made me laugh hysterically: "I'm not going to let him be the kind of little shit I was".

VioletCharlotte · 08/04/2018 12:26

Mine don't hate me today yet, as far as I know anyway. I got up and went out before they were up. I'll update later!

cloudchasing · 08/04/2018 12:26

Aaah this thread is awful great.

My dd was nothing like a teenager until she was about 16, and I genuinely thought I'd got away with it. Then it all changed. I can remember sobbing down the phone to my mum at the age of 43, apologising for what an utter bitch I'd been when I was that age Grin

She's) lovely now, at 20 (she doesn't live at home anymore) Wink

DS on the other hand is still ok at 12 and a half. For now. But I'm pretty sure it's coming...

RapunzelIsHere · 08/04/2018 12:32

Not sure the three meal options was the best idea OP.

Dieu · 08/04/2018 12:33

This thread has had me howling Grin as I have a 16 year old girl, and it's all very relatable!
I've just told mine that if she doesn't get her room in order, she'll get no money to go out. This will include putting away the clean, folded laundry that the cat has been using as a bed Angry
The cat seems most comfortable in her room. I joke that as a former street cat, he's most at home in squalor!
Halfway through the Easter holidays, and I haven't seen much sign of revision. Never mind eh, it's good to know the fees aren't being wasted! Wink

Bouledeneige · 08/04/2018 12:41

My 15 year old and 17 year old hate me with a vengeance at the moment because I keep telling them they need to revise for their err.... A levels and GCSE's. Nothing important. My DS did 2 hours on Friday sighing and eyes half closed and then asked if he could stop now as it was exhausting.

fleshmarketclose · 08/04/2018 12:41

Dd hasn't got out of bed yet so I'm ok today so far anyway. I have been getting the cold shoulder since Friday though for some reason. Your guess is as good as mine whether she will have gotten over it when she gets up,

Babyroobs · 08/04/2018 12:43

Because I told him it wasn't great to turn up to his job at a posh Golf club in grubby trousers.

Numbkinnuts · 08/04/2018 12:44

This thread has made me laugh. I have at times been in despair with two teenage DS whose mood swings come and go like the breeze.
Not helped with me going through menopause.

I did get a hug ( crushed in the process ) from the eldest last night though.

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AjasLipstick · 08/04/2018 12:45

Oh for heavens sake...not that I have to explain but we always have various options. None of us eat the same...DH eats very little meat so I always prep something like veg noodles or rice or a big array of roast veg...then there's a meat choice.

So when I offered DD steak or veg noodles that's because it was there anyway.

She'd usually just have the steak sandwich and a side salad. The offer of a takeaway was purely because she missed out on the last one we ordered as she was sick in bed.,

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Dieu · 08/04/2018 12:47

Oh OP, talk about a drip feed there Grin Wink

MuddyForestWalks · 08/04/2018 12:47

😭 my two are 3 and 1. Their wee faces light up when I enter the room. I don't waaaaaant teeeeeeens!!

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 08/04/2018 12:50

Well, dd1(14) is actually not too bad at all (apart from knowing everything and never being wrong about anything!) She is up and studying! We did have a row a few weeks ago where she told me I was "privileged" !

Dd2 (12) isn't up yet. I will need to get her up soon to go out and walk the dog with us. This will result in much shouting and stomping. She will have NOTHING to wear. And we 'll have to drive somewhere where there won't be anyone who might know her, because if she is seen with us in public it will be a disaster.

Dieu · 08/04/2018 12:51

I actually find it much easier than when they were little, but each to their own. Independence suits me far better. And for the most part, my teen is lovely. With frequent exceptions Grin

cece · 08/04/2018 12:51

Ds1 is currently still seething from the beginning of march.
I gave him a tenner to go out with his friends. The agreement was he'd do some household chores in return. He didn't do the chores so I took it out of his march pocket money.
He's still moaning about it.

LinoleumBlownapart · 08/04/2018 12:55

I've just asked him if there's any reason to hate me today. He said "No, why would I?" He's only just got up though, so, as they say "The night is young". It's not night though, he's not that lazy Grin

IHaveBrilloHair · 08/04/2018 12:56

Because I offerred to make risotto and that's a ridiculous idea when she might go out later.
I also suggested studying instead of watching Friends on netflix for hours, she stomped off threating to drop out of school, to which I replied fine, but school or full-time work if she wants to live here.

minionsrule · 08/04/2018 12:56

Not yet a teen but 12 yo ds, asked him to put on new school pants that need turning up a bit so i can measure how much to turn up. Yep that was far too much for him to do right there and then since he had decided that he had to go back on the X Box.
I've told him he can go in pants that are too long tomorrow and look ridiculous since i will now be too busy to adjust them

ignoringthechoc · 08/04/2018 13:04

When mine left for a sleepover last night (15yo) she asked me to please make sure she got straight in the shower and hit the books when I picked her up this morning, so after the free taxi ride (4th of the weekend) I sweetly said the shower was free......OMG, how dare I 'have a go at her' she is 'well aware' the shower is free so why do I have to start on her as soon as she gets in!!
Grin somebody didn't get much sleep last night. Luckily I am in a great mood and like a previous poster give no fucks. Hope I am still this zen like by the end of gcse's but I very much doubt it.

Numbkinnuts · 08/04/2018 13:13

My youngest 15 , also went for a sleepover last night. He knows that if he doesn't revision today that any further requests will not be looked on favourably Smile

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AjasLipstick · 08/04/2018 13:15

Dieu not really...our dietary habits weren't the point of the thread! It was meant to be light hearted.

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