AIBU or has my DP lost the plot!?!
Maybe I am BU but he's really fucked me off with this comment.
Sorry I need to rant 
(Please excuse my language)
DP has always tried to be controlling with me. It's an endless string of behaviours over the years but the general consensus is that he is often selfish, it's 'his way or the highway', ignores any suggestions I make, has to be in charge, interrupts me constantly etc. I'm sure he probably was like it in previous relationships (and probably got away with it). He's similar with his parents too.
For example today we were looking for a certain building. I found and pointed out the building to him (which was clearly visible) He completely ignored me and asked a man in the street where the building was. Leaving me a bit 
I point out his behaviour and he says "Oh well, I would have asked him anyway".
He not too keen on strong women/feminism etc which really pisses me off and I think is an outdated fucking moron opinion.
I'd say I'm fairly tough/will stand up for myself and I think this is the problem. I think ultimately we're incompatible.
The thing is that he completely acknowledges that he's controlling, but insists that there's nothing wrong with it and that I should "just be submissive sometimes". He insists that it's just his personality.
He says that he needs to be the dominant person in the relationship because they are all dominant/submissive under the surface. He doesn't acknowledge that he is the fucking problem!
Maybe a lot of relationships ARE like that but I'd rather have an equal one!!
I try not to put up with the controlling behaviour and confront him when he's trying it.. which ALWAYS leads to him getting upset/annoyed. It often feels like a power struggle which is just childish and tedious.
He then refuses to make up with me and insists that I make an effort to make up because 'he's bad at it'... nothing to do with his fucking pride I'm sure.
Our relationship is on thin ice at the moment due to me sticking up for myself more regularly during the past few months. And I have being calling him out on his behaviour.
Maybe I'm the problem for being 'too stubborn' as he says. I genuinely don't know anymore!!
I feel like I'm dating an insecure 14 year old boy sometimes, not a 36 year old man
Other times are fine, but this behaviour is ingrained in everyday life. We've had a good few happy years. No kids yet but talk of marriage. This is what has me thinking.
It's the same old story. He's older than me, intelligent, drinks slightly too much, and we started dating when I was fairly young.
Now I'm older and have developed some self respect I find myself getting irritated by his behaviour.
So is there such thing as an equal relationship without ridiculous power struggles??!
Please rant with me because I'm 3000 miles away from home and I've got nobody to rant to here