To want to be home alone for just two hours a week?

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Preferably to have a lie in on a saturday and a slow solitary breakfast.

For context I work full time and have one dd. Dh works part time and has on average four days a week hone alone while I'm at work and dd is at school or when it's a weekend day and I take DD out (often both weekend days).

Oh no, so unkind to say OP is moaning.
OP I think you have touched a nerve for some because your dh is doing the more traditional female role of being Sahp most of the week.

There is so much out there claiming this is the hard option.
Well it all depends on the job of the main earner.

Sounds like you ( and me ) have the far harder option.

I always found my day at home with the kids (3 under 3) a breeze compared to my paid job.

But there is such a cultural tendency in the U.K. at least to claim parenting is the hardest job in the world.

Well it’s not.

And there's a world of difference between being a SAHP of 2-3 children under 5, to being a part-time worker with 1 child in school the latter being a piece of cake.

OP's DH is taking the piss, having plenty time to himself during school hours on 3 days a week, plus spending most of his weekend on his hobby.

I call selfish tosser!

Your dh sounds horrendously selfish and lazy.

They are young for such a short time. You'll look back and realise the time you could have spent with her. I think this is more to do with resentment that your husband is part time and getting time alone. My husband views me being part time as easy yet I never stop. He goes to an office for 7 hours and then sits. Kids always shout me first. I do resent his lack of appreciation but I recognise my kids are growing too quick and I'll never get this time back. Feels like you're trying to make a point about working. Can you adjust the situation to balance it better?

Tommo I sit in my job but it's exhausting. Far more tiring than the physical jobs I've had. I used to be a groundskeeper in a large attraction and that kept me energetic and happy....sitting all day and concentrating is knackering.

YANBU, I would suggest that you need to sit him down and explain that you are knackered. You need a bit on me time and if you don't get it then you are likely to become very resentful which is not what he wants. I think your OH is much like mine; he acts as if I am superwoman, the end result was that I became ill and he realized how much I did , all of which he took for granted. Two measly hours to yourself is not unreasonable. You are not moaning, he is not listening.

For the time being I’d go out really early on a Saturday morning before they both wake up so he’d have to have her all day and no time for his hobby.
Then Sunday morning when he’s having his lie in I’d make sure she had saucepan drums in the kitchen he’d soon get the message.

I have a little time to myself during the week but would find it entirely unreasonable if my Partner wanted a lie in with the house empty at the weekends so I had to get up and take the kids out. I don’t think anyone is actually entitled to that! So I don’t agree with the other posters. You have to find your peace in a different way - go and stay somewhere else for the night occasionally or enjoy a peaceful walk alone. It’s not on to kick everyone else out of the house in my opinion.

You are not being unreasonable at all. What stands out for me is the exhaustion coming through in your posts. It's so disrespectful of him not to recognise this and facilitate you getting a break. This is not a partnership or the behaviour of a loving partner.

Ill love for my dh to want me out of the house with our son. I really don’t understand why dh drag their heels to be out with the kids.
Seems like a lot of partners don’t want to be out with their kids alone.

Seems like a lot of partners don’t want to be out with their kids alone.

Maybe they just don't want to be told to get out of their own houses?

I mean, I don't have DC but if DP decided he wanted time alone and that I had to leave the house for two hours to facilitate that, I would be a bit tbh.

If OP's DH doesn't do his fair share around the house, that's an issue to be addressed separately.

They are young for such a short time. You'll look back and realise the time you could have spent with her.

Applying this to the story of a mother who wants two hours a WEEK is cobblers.

My partner is disabled and I’m his carer. We have a 5 year old daughter. I haven’t had a few hours to myself in over 6 years. I’m on call 24 hours a day and I struggle to pee without someone needing help. I’d kill for alone time but I’ll never get it.

😂@billybagpus