8 day old baby...

[guierrla]

i've seen that a woman i know has gone off for a night down town 8 days after giving birth!! aibu to think that this is crazy?!?!

Omg no, I had a section and was still stiff and even laughing hurt at that stage, but even if it had been a textbook birth with no tears or anything I wouldn't wanna be going out, especially when you're still bleeding. Lochia is gross enough without worrying about it leaking out over a party dress or nice outfit 😷

Why can't we accept that having a baby is a significant event? Why do we have to immediately get on with our lives as if nothing momentous has happened to us.

Because to some of us it isn’t a significant event. Women have babies. They always have and always will.

You habitually use the plural eg us,we when you mean yourself and singular I

It's like the worst game of cool girls ever... I'm half expecting a poster to come on and say they gave birth, barely looked at their baby then hopped on a plane an hour later for a fortnight rock climbing, because why shouldn't they carry on as normal...

Because to some of us it isn’t a significant event

Really?! Having a baby wasn't a significant event for you?! .

No? He was out in 5 pushes and I was home 2 hours later. Stopped off and did my shopping on the way home. It was just another day for ME.

We don't have to. I personally didn't want to and couldn't think of anything worse. But for women who want to, I don't see anything wrong.
I don't want to go skiing but don't mind if others do.

lol I went on a hen night when my 3rd was a week old and got rather tiddly :)

I do have fun. I partied then, and I party now.

I really don't care what people think, since the only people's opinions I care about relating to my parenting are my children's. They've grown up happy, healthy and very close to me and each other. That'll do me.

No? He was out in 5 pushes and I was home 2 hours later. Stopped off and did my shopping on the way home. It was just another day for ME

I was also home two hours later after having my second...I also went shopping the next day. I certainly wouldn't describe it as 'just another day' though...I've never heard anyone describe the day their child was born like that.

Well, I don’t really see where this conversation is going.

He’s was my second, not my first so I knew it wasn’t going to be magical or exciting. He came out healthy and then life carried on.

It's like the worst game of cool girls ever

I agree. Each to their own I guess but I personally find it bizarre that someone wouldn't class giving birth as a significant life event whether it was an easy straightforward birth or a near death experience.

Lochia is gross enough without worrying about it leaking out over a party dress or nice outfit

But this doesn't really happen in the real world does it.

He’s was my second, not my first so I knew it wasn’t going to be magical or exciting

Genuinely find this so sad to read.

What bleeding after giving birth doesn't happen? Do you know what Lochia is?

Myself along with lots of my friends bled badly after giving birth, leaking through pads constantly.

This thread is getting weirder and weirder.

ducksandrivers

Myself along with lots of my friends bled badly after giving birth, leaking through pads constantly

Not everyone does though to be fair.

I was heavy with my first, but got lighter and lighter with each baby.

After my 4th I only bled for 5 days

It's a very, very significant event, but that doesn't mean we all have to sit at home for weeks /months afterwards if we don't want to.

No one should force women to carry on as if nothing happened, but also no one should be forcing us to rest. I rested enough in pregnancy. Once the baby arrived, I dash physically so much better, I just wanted to get on with life - mostly with baby, but occasionally, without.

I was physically (not dash...)

What bleeding after giving birth doesn't happen? Do you know what Lochia is?

Why are you twisting things? You knew exactly what I meant.

Greatduckery Again..a very strange comment.

You posted that it doesn't happen in the real world. When shockingly (sarcasm intended) it really does happen for many people. Not sure how I'm twisting anything.

former feel sad all you want. My kids are awesome and very well bonded with me. They’re also incredibly confident and happy to get on without me. I was a stay at home Mum with my daughter for 18 months. I didn’t want to do it again.

Notumbongo that’s just weird. Sorry but it is. Or you’re being goads to try and prove a point.
Women can find the day they meet their baby magical, empowering, wonderful, horrific, traumatic (depending on the circumstances), exhausting, emotional, or a mixture of all.
But humans aren’t built to experience the birth of their young as ‘another day’.
If you did that’s very sad, I hope your second dc never knows his birth was that insignificant to you

Former you seem intent on mythologising motherhood as zenith of being woman
And you are critical of any women who was not in I am goddess I am mother mode whilst chanting an incantation
If for you motherhood is your defining and significant achievement, that’s great
I am simply saying for me it was not a sole defining event. I have had many significant life events,birth,death,illnesses,financial hardships,set backs, and you know what after every one of these I had to dust myself down and get on with it. Because that’s what most folk do,they keep on keeping on

i don't think 8 days is really enough to warrant needing a night out and if that's how soon it takes to need that what does that say for the future?
You might think that about yourself OP, but you are not that other woman. I don't think it says anything about the future. What do you think it says?

i understand that a majority of you don't think there's an issue and that's fine yet a lot of the comments are followed by 'i wouldn't do it myself though'. Which says a lot, anywho thanks for the replies.
I had neither the physical health, energy or inclination to go out. This woman clearly did. I don't think it says anything other than women are individuals.