To expect a seat whilst waiting to see midwife

[Littlewreck]

I’ve come to see my midwife for my 41 week appointment. I’ve been told there’s an hour wait at least. There’s no seats left in the waiting area. Am I been unreasonable to expect some of the non pregnant accompanying adults to give up there seats for pregnant woman?

Have you asked them?

Of course not. Go over and say 'Excuse me, could I have a seat please'

Ask them to? Or ask the receptionist to ask them if you don’t want to

You need to ask someone... people aren't mind readers, and they could have disabilities themselves that mean they require a seat.

YANBU - they should offer. I would also just ask personally if nobody did offer.

Excuse me, I'm going to need to sit down - whilst looking in as much pain as you can muster!

Open your mouth and ask maybe?

You need to ask if someone will move. If not go and see the receptionist and tell them you need a chair.

A couple of men have looked up seen that there’s a few pregnant woman standing (it seems to be a really busy clinic) and have gone back to tapping away on their phones.

Just say to the air "can anyone offer me a seat please". Non confrontational.

Speak up and ask them for a seat!

I would ask them to move if they not elderly or pregnant.

Im 35 weeks and can't stand for long.
My midwife regularly runs hour late
We have tiny wait room at clinic maybe 8 seats max but never not got a seat.

Just ask someone to get up lots of people don’t offer but are happy to move if asked .

Walk up to the nearest man, clutch your abdomen and ask if you could sit there?

Or if you don't feel you can do that, go ask the Receptionist to find you a chair. And maybe quietly suggest to the Receptionist that the clinic considers a couple of notices along the lines of please give up your chair to patients if the clinic is busy.

Go back home, tell them an hour wait is too long and ask that they call you back to reschedule?
I was in a similar situation, (not pg or having to stand), but after an hour an a half of waiting past my appointment time, I had to apologise, say I just didn’t have time to wait any longer and that I’d have to go. The receptionist seemed really shocked and when I had the rescheduled appt, even the Dr made a snippy comment about last time.

I don't think you should have to ask anyone. They should offer- the men sitting down are being rude.

You need to ask them directly or ask a member of staff to ask generally.

I remember being in a big antenatal waiting room that was packed with non-patients ignoring the heavily pregnant standing women. In the end the midwife in charge that day told all non patients to give up their seats for the pregnant women.

They shouldn't need to be told, but often do unfortunately.

I’ve heard of maternity clinics that have ‘seating for patients only at busy times’ signs. Looks like this clinic could use that suggestion.

I'd be very unimpressed with DH if he didn't offer his seat for a pregnant woman in these circumstances. Can't believe there are non people just sitting there tapping away on their phones surrounded by pregnant women standing (yes there nay be some disabled people bit they're not all disabled are they?). Totally understandable that you dont want to ask. You could go to the desk and say is there any where you can sit and wait as you are very uncomfortable.

*some peopld

Aaarrgh!!!

You should ask if you want a seat. They probably don't think you expect a seat because there may be ill people there with it being a hospital. Many pregnant women have no problem standing so may not want a seat. If you do, ask.

Go and ask the nearest man if he minds if you have his seat

They should offer. How rude. If my DP didn't offer I would make him move.

I'd speak to the receptionist if you don't want to confront.

If the non pregnant people (mainly men I suppose) have manners then they should have offered you their seats. They clearly don't have any manners and so need a quick reminder. Ask one of them, and don't make it sound optional. "I need to sit down, can you move, thank you" is a clear and polite way of asking.