To expect a seat whilst waiting to see midwife

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I’ve come to see my midwife for my 41 week appointment. I’ve been told there’s an hour wait at least. There’s no seats left in the waiting area. Am I been unreasonable to expect some of the non pregnant accompanying adults to give up there seats for pregnant woman?

Prancingonthevalentine exactly and very sexist that the assumption is that it is only men who should stand. Women who are accompanying the pregnant woman or children should be included.

I can tell you from experience if a disabled person arrives when there are empty seats and asks the receptionist where they can sit they will be pointed to the seating area in the waiting room.

they could go and sit elsewhere and get a text when the patient is called and then go join them Yes and the medical staff will happily wait while they make the slow journey back. Of course everyone can then start moaning about the disabled person making the clinic run late.

But not necessarily in the waiting room if all the seats are required by the actual patients Well you would at least have to make sure that no one has their mother with them, or their best friend, or a child, or their granny because as I have stated several times it is highly unlikely that the only non pregnant people will be men.

oth being physically active is good for pregnancy/good for labour

You could very loudly and passive aggressively lower yourself to the floor like I did

Pretty much everyone jumped up to give me a seat.

OP I think it's awful that no one offered you a seat

re Tube Stories (gosh that sounds like a scary documentary) - I once saw two young women race to take a seat before an elderly gentleman with a walking stick could get to it. His face fell and he just turned away. I was also standing and said to them "are you seriously just going to sit there?" one just said "well we got here first, tough shit".

I was about to go further in what I said to them but then the man gave me a look that said "please don't go on with this" so I stopped. But I was raging. I think he probably feared their aggression being directed at him if I had gone on about it more.

When I was on crutches I had to ask people for a seat. I was also told to hurry up and move when someone was trying squeeze past me at the Boots pharmacy counter.

I don't think these people have hidden disabilities, unless extreme narcissism and lack of consideration now count as disability.

Most people aren’t disabled. The chances of every single accompanying partner there being disabled are next to none. They were just being extremely selfish.

FrancisCrawford you weren't the only person who commented. The OP didn't mention men either but plenty of people did and it is sexist. The OP didn't say there were only X seats and X pregnant women either.

See this s a prime example of what I said on another thread about people now having no manners and no consideration for other people. I can't comprehend a man occupying a seat in an antenatal clinic while a pregnant woman stands. Wtf is the matter with people these days?

No, you shouldn't have to ask for a seat, any man with any vestige of common sense and consideration would have clocked you and offered his seat. And if he didn't, his partner should have put a sharp elbow in his ribs.

Un-fucking-believable. I despair.

So asking again op have you asked or have you disappeared?

Before someone jumps on me, same goes for non pregnant women too. Bet they were nearly all men though.

Dog the OP stated that another pregnant woman gave her seat to her as she was going into her appt.

Bluelady can you comprehend a non pregnant women occupying a seat in an antenatal clinic while a pregnant woman stands or is your indignation solely based on sex? Presumably you think only men should have common sense.

Bet they were nearly all men though. Definitely sexist.

I get the whole “ask, people aren’t mind readers”.
But what happened to people being courteous, kind & polite just because?

now a poster is asking "So asking again op have you asked or have you disappeared?"

maybe she's at her midwife appointment!

this thread.

People are probably assuming men as they're very likely to be the dads of the babies in question, and as men they are the only ones you can be 100 % sure aren't pregnant!

Exactly, Prancing.

Apologise missed the update there.

Well the clinic should have more robust notices and staff around the place stating that the chairs are for pregnant women only. Some People are incredible rude and selfish

People are probably assuming men as they're very likely to be the dads of the babies in question, and as men they are the only ones you can be 100 % sure aren't pregnant! The non pregnant women will know they aren't pregnant though so they should offer.

FrancisCrawford but the discussion wasn't just you and me, and men had been referred to repeatedly so not unreasonable to say you would have to check because even if I quoted you it doesn't mean other people can't read it.

A 41 week pregnant woman should not have to ask to sit down in a bloody ante natal clinic if the seats are being occupied by partners or those not needing them.

It’s not about mind reading or speaking up. It’s about common sense, courtesy and manners. For goodness sake, what ever happened to people being bloody kind.