To expect a seat whilst waiting to see midwife

[Littlewreck]

I’ve come to see my midwife for my 41 week appointment. I’ve been told there’s an hour wait at least. There’s no seats left in the waiting area. Am I been unreasonable to expect some of the non pregnant accompanying adults to give up there seats for pregnant woman?

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How difficult is it to understand:
At an ANTE NATAL clinic, pregnant women have priority for seats as they have to be there as patients.
Doesn't matter if the other people are men, women, elderly etc, they don't need to be there, so if they really need a seat and none are left they can seat somewhere else, they don't HAVE to be in this waiting room.

This is not anti-men, anti-elderly or anti-disabled. This is just common sense!

Totally and absolutely typical of our rotten NHS. You wouldn’t get this treatment in almost any other civilised country. Why oh why can’t people see our system is an expensive dinosaur that needs to be put out of its misery (and ours!)

Despite living all over I have yet to find a country that doesn't have waiting rooms. I'm not sure how you think this is handled differently in other countries. as for the "rotten" NHS I'm sure you would be grateful for it if you were spending thousands a month to cover your family for the same service but with better coffee machines.

he has trouble walking so sending him to another part of the hospital is excluding him and that is unreasonable. Why would you send a man who has trouble walking to somewhere else rather than have a chair for him? Do you deliberately seek to exclude the disabled

Peaches had it occured to you that if your husband was taking up a chair and you felt he had every right to be there over a pregnant woman more even somehow to get your own pregnant arse out of the chair and let him have yours? You seem to think that pregnant women should have to stand so that that another pregnant woman and her guest can sit.

Absoutely no one thinks it is sexist to give up a chair for a pregnant woman, especially in a maternity waiting room or on a bus.

I think actually understanding that a pregnant woman who might be prone to dizyness or nausea needs a seat and choosing to not give her one because you don't care about women is sexist. ALso quite shitty to risk a pregnancy if she falls.

Imagine walking in to a matenriy waiting area and all the men around you are terminally ill.

Terribly unlucky.

Amanduh with second baby I went from something like 4cm dilated to fully and pushing in the time it took midwife to walk length of bed and a couple of paces to the door of the room! She had just examined me and I yelled I was pushing. She said afterwards she only examined me again so I would keep my confidence in her but was amazed to see the baby's dark hair! She gave my husband a talking to afterwards as he was all gung-ho about how quick this was saying it was easy and so on, and told him it was the equivalent of being in a car-crash as I'd had all that pain in one go without any chance of preparing for it. Imagine if I had been told, like you, to walk round the corridor! Crikey!

How did you cope?

They could need a seat more than you. Could be terminally I'll.

didn't know rudeness and or stupidity were terminal
Just saying

*Imagine walking in to a matenriy waiting area and all the men around you are terminally ill. hmm

Terribly unlucky.*

droll, lovette

Pity those women there, sitting next to men so selfish that they think the seats are for them and not for the pregnant women. I'd hate to be married to someone like that.

Oh Ellyess don’t even get me started, they told me I wasn’t in labour when I demanded another check and was actually at the pushing stage and then rushed to emergency delivery as baby was stuck. Turned out I’d been staggering walking round the corridor with a stuck, distressed, meconium baby! A very very long story!

I'm disabled. I hate asking for seats, am shy, socially anxious, introverted etc but I accept that the onus is on me to ask.

If someone was non verbal but needed a seat due to additional mobility issues, the onus would be on them to have someone with them who can ask or they can write "can I have a seat" on a piece of paper. None of us can read minds!

HollowTalk Without knowing the men personally though you would have no idea why they needed a seat. Unreasonable to judge them as selfish.

Francis Crawford

could let rip with noxious farts even better to combine that with the other poster's suggesion to sit on them

LOL-ing at a ward of pregnant women sitting on selfish seat hoggers and farting on their faces

Loving what ketzele said re: not judging why someone says they need a seat. The same should apply with obesity- if a fat person asks for a priority seat, I don't give a crap whether their obesity caused their disability or whether it was the other way round, or completely unrelated. It is not my, or anyone elses' business. I doubt many able bodied or non pregnant women are going to ask for a priority seat anyway, so I have never understood why some people are so skeptical when someone says they need one- why would they lie?

I doubt every single non-pregnant patient in that waiting room had an invible illness/disability. Honestly...!

tiggersneverdie

Do you mean that the onus is on the pregnant woman to ask for a seat? Can't tell if that's your point here, but it absolutely should not be in an antenatal clinic!