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Original poster

To think my friend sends her daughter to school holiday camp too much?

169 replies

Rosgos · 03/04/2018 16:58

My friend is a SAHM to an 8 year old little girl. Was trying to arrange a play date for her and my DD.
Found out she sends her to the school-run holiday 'camp' daycare during every half term, easter, and summer holiday from 7.30am-1.30pm. Except the 1 week she spends with her dad (separated parents) in the summer and the 1 over xmas (and she's with him EO weekend), this little girl only seems to have proper time off from school with her mum and stepdad for a week over xmas. I couldn't handle that! As a mummy or as a child!

I'm sorry I just couldn't imagine doing that if i were a SAHM with no work commitments (I'm a teacher so I'm off during school hols and DDs do a week in the summer somewhere outdoorsy for the experience - but the school-run one is just so boring!)

I'd want my DC with me as much as possible!!

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HRTpatch · 03/04/2018 16:58

Good for you

DairyisClosed · 03/04/2018 16:59

Maybe her DD likes the camps and asks to go?

Lucyccfc · 03/04/2018 17:00

None of your business - just concentrate on your own family.

I had a week off work to spend with my DS - he wanted to go to Sports Club for the whole week.

AsAProfessionalFekko · 03/04/2018 17:00

Maybe she likes the clubs?

HateSummer · 03/04/2018 17:01

Lodge it with 101.

FleurDelacoeur · 03/04/2018 17:02

I'd want my DC with me as much as possible!!

Good for you. You're obviously a FAR better mother than your friend who sends her child to camp. Hmm Bet you're the sort who is always on about #makingmemories and #lovemykids too because you're so desperate to prove what a great parent you are.

Some kids love holiday clubs. Others don't. Some parents and children benefit from the routine of having a daily activity. Stop hoisting your judgey pants up because your friend does things differently to you.

Passportto · 03/04/2018 17:02

My Dc used to beg to go to these, even though I work in school so didn't need holiday childcare. Half days seems perfect to me (although must work out very expensive). DC get to go and have fun/exercise/some social time and there's still all afternoon to do family/home stuff.

superking · 03/04/2018 17:03

I think it totally depends on the child. My now 4 year old DS is very outgoing and loves that kind of thing. He would genuinely love to do it every day in the holidays if he could. As it is (I'm also a SAHM) I plan to book him in for one day a week over the summer holidays. Can't really justify the cost for more than that!

If it finishes at 1.30 then surely they will still have half the day left to do things together, plus weekends?

It might not be for everyone, but if both child and parent are happy then it's their business really.

GinIsIn · 03/04/2018 17:03

Careful OP - if you hoik your judgey pants up any higher you’ll suffocate.....

Original poster
Rosgos · 03/04/2018 17:04

@HateSummer lol!!

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LagunaBubbles · 03/04/2018 17:04

I'd want my DC with me as much as possible!!

Good for you, take a gold star. Do you think everyone should think the same as you then?

NeverTwerkNaked · 03/04/2018 17:05

Maybe her DD enjoys the company?
Some children are extroverts and enjoy the company of others. My DD is 4 and nagged at me to do a drama camp this holiday until I finally caved! DSD asked to go too. I expect they will have heaps of fun. Then at the weekend we will spend time together.

Allthewaves · 03/04/2018 17:05

I'm an only child and I went to every club/camp going amd my mum easy sahm. I liked all the activities and seeing my friends

Slightlyperturbedowlagain · 03/04/2018 17:05

Would you think it was better if she was on an iPad at home instead?

pinkyredrose · 03/04/2018 17:06

Opinions are like arseholes. Everybody's got one.

Babyplaymat · 03/04/2018 17:06

Well, if you loved your daughter that much you would home educate like we do. You send yours to school all day, I think that's too much.

#headtilt #thoughtsandprayers

VladmirsPoutine · 03/04/2018 17:08

Mawkish faux-concern threads are the worst threads on MN.

What is it to you?

Ballora · 03/04/2018 17:08

Ditto Babyplaymat

Highhorse1981 · 03/04/2018 17:08

The thought that someone so judgemental, narrow minded and, well, a bit thick not to consider the possibilities of the situation, is a teacher?! Now that is worrying.

Original poster
Rosgos · 03/04/2018 17:09

Meh just interested in what others think really! Yeah it's my opinion.. yeah maybe it's judgemental..

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trickyboots · 03/04/2018 17:10

Teachers don't do themselves any favours on this site do they? Disclaimer- all my teacher pals are pretty nice.

Highhorse1981 · 03/04/2018 17:11

You name changed for this thread or joined mumsnet specifically to post such crap

Either way. Odd.

Why aren’t you playing with your child?

Original poster
Rosgos · 03/04/2018 17:11

Although, I do know what the school-run camp is like and it is b-o-r-i-n-g! I can't imagine a child actually wanting to go to it!

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 03/04/2018 17:11

Hmm you're being a bit judgemental there OP! If the child is happy what's the problem?

Why do you think the mum does it?

reddressblueshoes · 03/04/2018 17:12

So she's home from lunchtime every single day? I'm an only child and my mum sent me to every camp going because I loved it and got to play with other kids and do fun activities.

I feel like I had loads of time at home though- from 2pm onwards is plenty to hang out with your mum; chill out at home and relax. It's not like they're all residential camps.