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To think my friend sends her daughter to school holiday camp too much?

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Rosgos · 03/04/2018 16:58

My friend is a SAHM to an 8 year old little girl. Was trying to arrange a play date for her and my DD.
Found out she sends her to the school-run holiday 'camp' daycare during every half term, easter, and summer holiday from 7.30am-1.30pm. Except the 1 week she spends with her dad (separated parents) in the summer and the 1 over xmas (and she's with him EO weekend), this little girl only seems to have proper time off from school with her mum and stepdad for a week over xmas. I couldn't handle that! As a mummy or as a child!

I'm sorry I just couldn't imagine doing that if i were a SAHM with no work commitments (I'm a teacher so I'm off during school hols and DDs do a week in the summer somewhere outdoorsy for the experience - but the school-run one is just so boring!)

I'd want my DC with me as much as possible!!

OP posts:

Teutonic · 03/04/2018 19:03

Oh no. Kids going to camp and having fun instead of sitting at home bored to tears.

Will the tyranny ever end 😱

Oblomov18 · 03/04/2018 19:03

Bully for you, for being the perfect parent.

I only work 3 days, so Ds2 goes to holiday club at his school. Last year he told me he wished I worked more so he could go there more!!

sleepyhead24 · 03/04/2018 19:14

My DD is nearly 5 and an only child she doesn't want to hang out with me at all or maybe for an hour she's always in the garden with the neighbours friends, she even went to the cinema with the neighbours little boy (all supervised) she wants to play with other children not me , this might be what your friends child wants to do

justdontknow45 · 03/04/2018 19:22

I'm a SAHM with no work commitments. My DS goes from 10-2 every week day.
My abusive ex gives me enough crap about it without coming on here and seeing judgemental posts on it too!

He's out the door before me! As a mother I must be a delight if he would rather go there oh hang on he actually enjoys being independent and not being glued to my hip.....

cantstopfuckingeating · 03/04/2018 19:23

I call BS on this thread

MiaowTheCat · 03/04/2018 19:28

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Papplewapplewoo · 03/04/2018 19:30

Maybe the DC likes it? I was desperate to go to “playscheme” as it was called in 1999. My twin sister hated it.
As a result I went and sister stayed with mum.
It’s only until lunchtime?
I always had a great time.

SpoilsburyToastGirl · 03/04/2018 19:58

The DD is an only child so no doubt will welcome spending some time with her mates every morning. It's only until 1.30 so assuming she goes to bed at 7.30 there's still another 6 hours in the day for her to spend time with her mum. For all you know she picks her up and has a full schedule of #makingmemories planned - reading together, walks, crafting, baking etc etc.

The point I'm making is that you have NO IDEA about why she's going to club, the child might be desperate to go, and she might get lots of quality time with mum too in the afternoons.

Stop making up judgy crap, it just makes you look bad, and a bit to 'try hard' as a parent yourself.

BlackberryandNettle · 03/04/2018 20:07

It does seem a lot but maybe the little girl is happy with it. Must be expensive though I'd have thought! I guess I'd be secretly judging the not working/life if leisure if she has holidays covered, although know I shouldn't!

paxillin · 03/04/2018 21:11

To an 8 year old a roomful of children in relative anarchy (holiday club) is perhaps preferable to a playdate supervised by mum. And you say mum is your friend, are the kids friends? Perhaps her DD said no.

Aeroflotgirl · 03/04/2018 21:50

YAbVU, you don't know the circumstances. the girl might like them, also she might have MH issues and find it hard to cope in the holidays. I send ds 6 to holiday club, during the main ho,idays, i am STAHM. He is very active and wants to be entertained all the time, I have a dd with ASD with learning difficulties, and find holidays so hard to cope.

FrangipaniBlue · 03/04/2018 22:24

That's the bit of my post you chose to pick up on @ikeepaforkinmypurse and not the bit about how the two approaches are pretty much the same yet you're being totally judgemental about those doing it different to you?

Your second post is also a bit erratic, not quite sure what you're trying to say, have I hit a nerve or something?

It's not often that a MN thread gets my heckles up but this one is taking the

KimchiLaLa · 03/04/2018 22:50

My niece goes to quite a few holiday camps and LOVES them. She also has play dates on the days she's not at them and quite a few classes she goes to. She wants to do even more and my SIL has to reign her in (as it obviously costs money). Some kids just like that sort of thing.

MorganKitten · 03/04/2018 22:54

I used to work in American summer camps, some kids were with us 8 weeks, none of my business what the parents do - the kids had fun.
Also if she finishes at 1.30 there’s still several hours in the day to enjoy with her child.

RoadToRivendell · 04/04/2018 05:47

^I'm American and went to summer camp for 6 weeks every year from 1979 to 1985. I'm so nostalgic for those summers, I could weep. I'd imagine my parents had quite a lot of fun too.

Bettyfood · 04/04/2018 06:10

When DDs were smaller they quite often did half day activities in the holidays, and we had some nice family time as well. I didn't know you had to be with your children 24/7 (whether they like it or not!) to be a good parent.

AuntieStella · 04/04/2018 06:14

She's not packing her off for the whole holidays.

An 8 yo is doing half days of activities.. And is with her mother from lunchtime every day (expect the weeks with her father). Sounds fine to me.

CuppaSarah · 04/04/2018 06:49

After-school club and holiday club are DDs ultimate treats. I'm a sahp too, how dare I send her somewhere she enjoys!

I couldn't judge anyone for sending their children to holiday clubs. I used to work in them, they're bloody fantastic, I'd rather be there too!

ikeepaforkinmypurse · 04/04/2018 07:47

Kids going to camp and having fun instead of sitting at home bored to tears. why are your kids bored to tears at home! mine aren't!

I just asked mine if they wanted to go to a camp this week or flying with us this morning, and they all chose a family holiday. Each to their own!

MrsJayy · 04/04/2018 07:54

Do you ever think your dc get bored of you all holidays and are desperate to go to holiday clubs? I dont think you get any medals for being the perfect mother you sound like a total martyr

sashh · 04/04/2018 08:03

I'd want my DC with me as much as possible!!

And what if your child wants to go to a club or daycare?

My mother was like that, it didn't matter if we had been invited to something else or wanted to go to a club after school activity.

Nope we had to be home, bored shitless half the time.

ALemonyPea · 04/04/2018 08:11

I judge my friend who sends her boys to every school camp, just so she can spend time with her (school age) daughter. Your friend I’d not judge though, if I could afford it, mine would go to at least one week in the summer holidays.

HobnobBob · 04/04/2018 08:18

My DS asked to go everyday because he enjoys it.

obligations · 04/04/2018 08:18

You're a teacher? Really? And yet you don't understand that different parents, and different children, have different personalities and interests than you? With such breath-taking narrow-mindedness and intolerance I'm so glad you don't teach my kids.

RoadToRivendell · 04/04/2018 08:43

Do you ever think your dc get bored of you all holidays and are desperate to go to holiday clubs? I dont think you get any medals for being the perfect mother you sound like a total martyr

Snort.

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